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Monday, August 22, 2011 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Protective parent preventing progress Dear Annie: I am a 15- year-old boy, and my moth- er is very protective. For about three years, I've craved a longer leash and have asked Mom to give me more independence. Her only reply is, ''The world is too dangerous for my little bird.'' My mother says she calls. We've given up and are waiting for them to con- tact us. We recently found out wants to spend more time with me, give me more hugs and spoil me. I'm try- ing to break away, not be smothered. All I'm asking is to take bike rides and walks by myself. What can I do to convince her to let go a little? — Craving Indepen- dence Annie's Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar that Jake's sister had a baby girl. I am thrilled to be an aunt, but they won't let me see the baby. Last week, we received an e-mail from Jake's brother, accusing my husband of ''trading fami- lies.'' Since when does spending time with your in- laws count as trading fami- lies? Dear Craving: Some overpro- tective parents think they are shielding their children from the cruel world, but in reality, they are simply preventing them from learn- ing how to cope with life. She can still give you plenty of hugs, but responsible self-reliance should be encouraged. Show your Mom this letter, and tell her you wrote it. We hope she can loosen the apron strings a little. And if that doesn't help, please dis- cuss the situation with your guid- ance counselor when school resumes. Dear Annie: Seven months ago, I married ''Jake.'' Since that day, his family has refused to communicate with us. They claim my bridesmaids were ''out to get them'' and told Jake that I ''talk too much about my travels.'' Why would they lie about such things? We've attempted to work it out, but they refuse our My family loves my husband, and since we live in the same town, we see one another frequently. My in-laws live three hours away. We used to see them once a month. His brother said they are no longer brothers and wished him good luck on the rest of his life. We respond- ed that we're more than willing to work things out, but it's impossible if no one is truthful and no one talks to us. I've never seen adults act this way. I want our future children to know their father's family, but I don't want them subjected to such strange, negative people. I'd rather show them photographs and let them hear good stories. The last time we spoke to them was seven months ago. Are we right to wait it out? Should we try talking to them again, or just write it off as a horrible loss? — Lost Newlyweds Dear Newlyweds: We don't know what soured this relationship at the wedding, but there is little hope for reconciliation if the in- laws won't speak to you. Jake should try contacting his parents and siblings individually and ask if they would be willing to join the two of you for family counseling to work this out. If they refuse, sorry to say, there's not much else you can do. Dear Annie: ''Wondering About the Brew in Massachusetts'' asked if non- alcoholic beer could be harmful to recovering alco- holics. I disagree with your response that it could be for some. The amount of alcohol is miniscule. My husband was finally able to quit drinking, and non-alcoholic beer has been his key to success. It makes him feel less deprived and helps to satisfy him, and he knows he must always be vigilant. Our family is grateful every day that we have our husband and father back. We had forgotten what a nice per- son he is. Being around a mean, nasty person for 45 years was not easy. — Mr. Nice Guy's Wife in California Dear Wife: We will reiterate our original response: The smell (not the taste) of non-alcoholic beer can trigger a relapse in some alcoholics. We're glad that wasn't the case for your husband, but each reaction is individual, and one needs to be careful. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Financial education classes offered A four-week series of financial education class- es begins Tuesday, Aug. 23, at the Red Bluff Fam- ily Resource Center, 220 Sycamore St., Suite 101. Topics by date include: • Introduction to Bank Services Tuesday, Aug. 23 • Introduction to Credit Tuesday, Aug. 30 • How to Choose and Keep a Checking Account Tuesday, Sept. 6 • How to Keep Track of Your Money Tuesday, Sept. 13 Classes will be Tuesday afternoons from 2 to 4 p.m. For more information call 528-8066. The following defen- dants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: —————— COURT ROUND-UP An officer conducted Recent State Prison Commitments • Robert Lewis Den- lay was sentenced to 11 years in state prison for transportation of a con- trolled substance. Denlay was originally granted formal proba- tion. He violated his pro- bation when he was found driving on a sus- pended license and dri- ving while under the influence of metham- phetamine. Denlay also failed to work off his fines as ordered by the court. • Brandon James Williamson was sen- tenced to two years and eight months in state prison for second degree burglary. Williamson was origi- nally granted formal pro- bation on both cases. He violated his probation when he failed to contact probation and keep them informed of his current contact information. • Geoffrey Brian Pomeroy was sentenced to 16 months in state prison for commercial burglary. Pomeroy was origi- nally granted formal pro- bation. He violated his probation when he failed to contact probation and keep them informed of his current contact infor- mation. • Sara Vellynn Soto was sentenced to 16 months in state prison for receiving stolen property. Soto was originally granted formal proba- tion. She violated her probation when she test- ed positive for metham- phetamine and failed to appear for appointments with probation. Recent County Jail Commitments • George Alvin Barker was sentenced to 60 days in Tehama County Jail for having concealed firearm in vehicle and 180 days in Tehama County Jail for unlawful firearm activity, and resisting arrest. (NCR67794)-An offi- cer conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Barker. Upon contact- ing Barker the officer determined he was dri- ving on a suspended license. During a search of the vehicle the officer located a loaded revolver on the floorboard. (NCR76293)-An officer observed Barker driving and attempted to contact him. Barker accelerated and drove away before the officer was able to attempt a traffic stop. The officer eventually located the vehicle but Barker had already fled the area. Inside the vehi- cle the officer located a shotgun on the floor- board and unexpended cartridges on the seat. • Patrick Kelsy Abuel was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for transportation of marijuana. a traffic stop on a vehi- cle driven by Abuel. Upon contacting Abuel the officer developed reasonable suspicion there may be illegal nar- cotics inside the vehi- cle. The officer deployed his K-9 who alerted on the vehicle. During a search the officer located marijua- na inside the trunk. Upcoming Court Dates -Trials, Prelimi- nary Hearings(PX) & Pre Trial Confer- ences(PTC) • Jakob Skott Peterson will appear in court at 1:15 p.m. on Aug. 29 in Department 2 for a pre- trial conference. He is facing the charges of 10 counts of lewd act upon a child, 10 counts of unlawful sexual inter- course and child steal- ing. Peterson was having sexual relations with the 13-year-old victim. Peterson picked up the victim form her home and refused to advise anyone of her where- abouts until he was arrested several days later. • Thomas Charles Scott will appear in court for a preliminary hearing at 8 a.m. on Aug. 30 in Department 3. He is facing the charges of cultivating marijuana with special allegation-prior strikes, possession of marijuana for sale with special alle- gation-prior strikes, pos- session of concentrated cannabis with special Coumadin causes cold feeling DEAR DR. GOTT: I have a family member who takes Coumadin and always complains of being very cold. Nothing she does externally helps to warm her up. I figure that the thinning of her blood causes the cold feeling. I just want to find out if you have any suggestions on how to help her counter this side effect. I know of others who also have this problem. Please help them if you can. Dr. Peter Gott on Medicine" by sending a self- addressed, stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 U.S. check or money order to Dr. Peter Gott, P.O. Box 433, Lakeville, CT 06039. Be sure to mention the title, or print an order form from AskDr- GottMD.com/order_for m.pdf. DEAR READER: Coumadin does carry the side effects of cold intol- erance and paresthesias, including feeling cold and chills. I suggest your family member speak with her physician. Per- haps a change in medica- tion is appropriate. Other than that, she should wear layers and avoid going out in the cold or being in an air-condi- tioned building whenever possible. allegation-prior strikes, maintaining place for selling or using con- trolled substance with special allegation-prior strikes. Agents from the drug task force served a search warrant at Scott's residence and located large amounts of mari- juana, concentrated cannabis and marijuana food products for sale. Because you mention blood thinning as the cause, I would like to take this opportunity to talk about what Coumadin actually does. It is commonly thought that Coumadin and its generic form, warfarin, work by actually thin- ning the blood. This isn't true. Rather, these drugs are anticoagulants, meaning they cause the blood to be less "sticky," making it harder for clots to form. The blood remains the same thick- ness and the amount of blood in the body remains the same. By failing to make the dis- tinction, misconceptions such as this become commonplace. Coumadin and other anticoagulant drugs being called "blood thin- ners" is somewhat of a pet peeve of mine, espe- cially when physicians, trained to know better, do so. Readers who are inter- ested in learning more can order my Health Report "Consumer Tips DEAR DR. GOTT: I had cluster headaches for 40 years, from age 20 to 60. I am now 66 and haven't had one for six years. The last time I had an attack, I went to an acupuncturist for a week of treatments. It cleared them right up. Before that, I had tried almost everything to no avail. Please pass this on to your readers. DEAR READER: Cluster headaches occur in clusters or cycles and can be most painful. 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