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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mywifeand I have been happily mar- ried for over 20 years. We raised two sons. We get along and laugh a lot, but over time her inter- ests evolved. We used to play sports, but now she goes to the gym. At home she watches TV several hours a day, including football all weekend. She constan- tly has her laptop on and a smart- phone in her hand. Because I don't care for TV, I have created a quiet place in the house to read, listen to music or use the computer. She has always told me she has a low sex drive. I'm not really complain- ing, because I love her and want her to be happy. She doesn't like to kiss and hug very much. Over the last two years she has developed consistent extreme body heat, which makes physical contact even more difficult. We thought she was having hot flashes (she is 54), but she feels this way 24 hours a day. I have looked up this condition and believe it is hyperthermia. Recently I took a busi- ness trip lasting several weeks. We were happy to see each other when I returned; we made love a couple of times over a few days, and we talked a lot. She told me that if I ever wanted to have a girlfriend she would not mind. This was quite a revelation. I must have the perfect wife to make such a generous offer, right? But I can't quite wrap my head around it. —NeedaHug DEAR HUG » You observe, describe and diagnose your wife — and yet no- body does anything about anything. And now, after enjoy- ing intimacy with you, your wife suddenly sug- gests you should get a girlfriend. Here's my take: Your marriage isn't actually as happy as you state. You are alienated, neglected and paralyzed. Your wife doesn't have much of a commitment to your marriage. Furthermore, I think it's possible that she has been unfaithful to you, hence her addiction to her devices, distance from you and suggestion that you might want to get a girlfriend. You don't seem to have asked her why she would want you to have a girl- friend. Start with that. DEAR AMY » I have one child and would like an- other. I spoke to my hus- band, and he told me he was completely against it. He said that if I wanted another child, I should find another man. I feel resentful. I don't want to see or talk to him. I also feel misunderstood, lonely and lost. What is your advice on moving on with my life? — S uper Sad DEAR SAD » Your husband reacted harshly to your desire to have another child, but he has a right to decline fatherhood, and you should recognize that your desires cannot supersede his. Talk this through. You feel misunderstood, and he may feel that way too. He might also feel burdened, overwhelmed and that his own life is spinning out of control. Husband baffled by wife's suggestion he find a girlfriend You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Libra(Sept.23-Oct.23)— Avoid long, involved discussions or confrontations. Get involved in projects that you can do alone, and the issues causing uncertainty will be resolved. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Put your needs first. Your creativity will be stifled if you are constantly taking care of other people's responsibilities. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Check out a long-term investment. If you are working hard just to make ends meet, revamp your budget. Talk to a financial adviser to ease stress. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Have a chat with someone causing concern. If a situation you face is less than satisfac- tory, bring the issues out in the open. Don't let jealousy fester. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — An argument will not turn in your favor. Once you have aired your opinions, move on. Rehashing the same issues over and over is not going to lead to a solution. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — You are exceptionally cre- ative. Surround yourself with people who inspire and enlight- en you. You will come up with an idea that has the potential to generate some extra cash. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Don't get lured back into a former relationship. You are likely to end up in the same place that didn't work for you before. Family members will be touchy. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Be true to yourself. If you are experiencing tension on the job, you should stay away from office politics and share your issues with friends, not colleagues. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You will find yourself short of funds if you have not budgeted carefully. Don't get upset if someone in your life isn't per- fect. Make allowances for the ones you love. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You may be feeling uncer- tain and unsettled. Keep your mind on your tasks, and avoid emotional confronta- tions. Opposition is likely if you are too demanding or difficult. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — A little self-indulgence should be allowed. Pamper yourself with a new outfit or a makeover. Do whatever makes you feel good or updates your look and boosts your confidence. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — You may be tempted to help someone, but if you do, you will outspend your budget and fall short when it comes to your needs. Horoscope By Eugenia Last WEDNESDAY, OCT. 15 WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 15, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 3 B