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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihavebeen married for over 20 years to my husband, who is a university professor. He has been accused of sexual harassment by a graduate student, who lives in another city. He says this is a false accusation brought on by the disgrun- tled student who has been having trouble com- pleting her dissertation. I do not know this student very well, but she is married with a baby, and I wonder why would she bring on such a charge when she has so much to lose (in terms of asking for future job recommendations, etc.) if my husband did not do anything wrong? What's hurtful is that he did not mention meet- ing her for a late din- ner (when this incident happened) until this accusation was formally filed. His explanation is that he met her for work and it was not anything out of the ordinary, but don't you think he should have mentioned her (out of town) visit, especially since I know her? I'd like to get an outside opinion because I never thought my hus- band capable of lying, but now I see all his previous actions suspiciously and it is driving me insane. How do I get over this? —BrokenheartedWife DEAR WIFE » I agree that your suspicions are obvi- ous and most likely true. You can move beyond this, but you cannot repair your marriage on your own, and without your hus band bei ng completely honest and transparent. You should find a mar- riage counselor to help you with this. If you want to stay with him, you may need to do what countless scandal-plagued spouses have done — support your partner through this mess, and once it is of- ficially resolved dig in to the hard work of repair. DEAR AMY » We raised a child with Asperger's syn- drome (undiagnosed until adulthood). We didn't know what was going on with him. He is now a fine adult with a different way of functioning. Family mem- bers find him challenging. When I wrote a letter to them about what Asperger's is like and how a parent remains involved and supportive, my rela- tive harshly upbraided me for lecturing her about it, saying I was lucky not to h av e a tr ul y di sa b le d child with Down syn- drome or severe autism. There are few resourc- es I can find for parents of adults with Asperger's. Should I just accept the criticism and move on? — Loving Mom DEAR LOVING » Your rela- tive is bombastic, unsup- portive and unsympa- thetic. Please understand your appeal triggered an issue with this relative that likely doesn't have anything to do with you. Your instinct to learn more about Asperger's and talk with other parents is a great one. If you do an Internet search with the key words "Asperger's support group for parents" you will find myriad ways to connect. 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