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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Irecently married a wonderful man. This is a second marriage for both of us. Our first marriages were difficult and las ted more tha n 20 years. We were overjoyed to be able to share our happy day with about 80 family and friends. I now find myself hurt by the fact no one in my immediate family gave us a gift. I know my sister feels gifts are inappropriate for sec- ond weddings and likely shared that opinion with other family members. Talking with her is not an option; she is staunch- ly opinionated and it would be unpleasant. In the future I am tempted to avoid family gatherings, as her bul- lying is exhausting, but I don't want to punish my father by not hosting Thanksgiving, etc. At the same time I have a new husband whose feelings I need to consider. I know I should rise above it and move on, but our feelings are hurt. I think it is a terrible "wel- come to the family" state- ment for my new hus- band. Am I being petty? —UpsetWife DEAR UPSET » Like ev- erything else involving etiquette for weddings, the old rule about not giving a gift for a second wedding is not set in stone. Simply put, guests can (and should) give a gift if they want to, and especially guests who did not attend your first wedding. I assume there are other reasons you don't feel your husband has been appropriately embraced by your family. But are you really going to start your married life fretting over this drama? Does any of this remind you of issues you dealt with in your previous marriage? If so, promise to do everything differ- ently this time. DEAR AMY » As much as I love my grandmother, she always comments on the photos I'm tagged in on Facebook. She thanks the poster, saying how happy she is to see my picture. I talk to her often and send her photos whenever I can. I adjusted my privacy settings, but she still com- ments on anything that she can. I'm not sure if she thinks it's an expected courtesy, or if she's just trying to reach out. Is t he r e a k in d wa y to ask her to connect in another way? — Violet DEAR VIOLET » Sit down with Gran and show her how Facebook works. Tell her that instead of commenting it's better to simply press the "like" button if the photo is posted by someone she doesn't know personally. I posed this question on my Facebook page, and include responses. "I'm 23 years old and I love it when my grand- mother (or any family member for that matter) posts on my page. I love my family and have noth- ing to be ashamed of." "Oops, I think I might be that Grandma. I didn't know it was a problem." Family less than welcoming to woman's second husband You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Libra(Sept.23-Oct.23)— Don't allow anyone to manipu- late you or blame you for their shortcomings. Jealousy and frustration will lead to hard feel- ings among your peers. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Let the voice of experience be your guide. If you are feeling uneasy regarding your direction, talk with someone you trust. You will gain insight. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Travel and fraught com- munications are likely. Don't let personal problems interfere with your productivity at work. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Focus on making money and/ or strategic enhancements to your financial portfolio. Avoid excessive displays of emotion. Maintain a calm demeanor. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — A little self-indulgence can be a good thing if you don't bust your budget. An outing to a theatrical, sporting or musical event will lift your spirits and provide some healthy recreation. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Decide what will bring you closer to your goal. Furthering your education, increasing your contacts or improving your net- working methods will help raise your profile. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Keep your composure. Some awkward situations are bound to unfold. Handle whatever comes your way with grace and good humor. Losing your temper will only make matters worse. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Love, laughter and romance will fill your day. Take someone special on a day trip so you can relax, rejuvenate and get to know each other better. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — An effective way to increase your networking prospects is to participate in worthy organiza- tions or humanitarian events. You'll improve your odds of meeting someone influential. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Money matters will surface. Collect an old debt and make financial changes that will pro- tect your assets and help your bank account grow. Document plans and put them in motion. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Don't brood over past events. Share some laughs with close friends or relatives, and move forward. Life is a series of changes; some good, some bad. Make the most of today. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — With self-discipline, you will be able to check off a lot of items on your to-do list. Listen to other people's points of view. You can expect opposition if you try to dominate. Horoscope By Eugenia Last THURSDAY, OCT. 2 | YOURDAILYBREAK | REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM THURSDAY, OCTOBER 2, 2014 4 B