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Iwaswatching one of my favor- ite speakers this morning and she was talking about highly sensitive people and the dif- ficulties it causes being in relation- ships with them. I suffered from this for many years and it took a willingness to look at my own behaviors to stop the madness. Highly sensitive people find that they are at odds with people on a frequent basis. They often times allow the smallest things to fester in their minds and cause them cer- tainty that they are be- ing wronged, slighted or marginalized. At times, highly sensitive peo- ple attribute meaning to something someone says or does to them person- ally and they become cer- tain that the other person is mean, wrong or insen- sitive to their needs. Highly sensitive peo- ple are difficult to be in relationships with be- cause they require a lot of consistent feedback to feel good about them- selves. They rely on exter- nal information to gauge if they are in good stand- ing with their peers, their family and the commu- nity. They tend to take things that have noth- ing to do with them per- sonally. They are usu- ally very opinionated and compare themselves with nearly everyone in one way or another. Live and let live, is not on their ra- dar. It is extremely diffi- cult for them to let things go without a lot of dis- cussions that usually feel draining to those in rela- tionship with them. Highly sensitive people are very defensive and feel personally attacked when faced with any form of criticism. Even the most constructive criticism, given with ten- der care is received with defense. It can be emo- tionally overwhelming to be in constant com- panionship with a highly sensitive person. If any of the examples above feel like a descrip- tion of your relationships, you may be prone to sen- sitivity. The good news is aware- ness is most of the battle. Once you accept that you have the traits of a highly sensitive person, you can set about reducing your impact on others and set- ting yourself free from the pain of feeling misun- derstood and at odds all of the time. Generally, high sensi- tivity comes from a time of life where your basic needs were not met and you internalized that you didn't matter. Your ego resists this notion and sets about protecting you by making sure you ver- balize your stand on any- thing that you perceive pertains to you, whether or not you are accurate and whether or not you repel others in the pro- cess. Your ego convinces you that any thoughts you have or actions you take are justified be- cause the ego feels like it has your best interest at heart. If you love someone who is highly sensitive there may be little you can do to offset their be- havior without their consent. Trying to set healthy boundaries can feel like rejection and spi- ral the sensitive person into their defense mode. This can look like anger, depression and other at- tention seeking behaviors to alleviate their anxiety. No one can change without wanting to. Whether you have iden- tified yourself or some- one you love as highly sensitive, you can find re- sources to help smooth the edges. I recommend the book The Highly Sen- sitive Person by Elain N. Aron. FaydraRector,MAisa mental health admin- istrator, author, pub- lic speaker, educator and life coach who lives in Red Bluff. She can be reached at lifecoach@ shasta.com or view her blogs at faydraandcom- pany.blogspot.com/ and allaboutdivorce.blogspot. com/. YOUMATTER Areyouahighly sensitive person? Faydra Rector The following informa- tion has been compiled from Red Bluff Police De- partment, Tehama County Sheriff's Department, Corn- ing Police Department and California Highway Patrol logs. Arrests OscarPeterBautista:25, Bieber was arrested Satur- day on Sale Lane for felony inflicting corporal injury on a spouse or cohabitant. Bail was $50,000. Anna Maria Crisosto: 42, Red Bluff was arrested Sat- urday on the 1700block of Walbridge Street for felony receiving known stolen prop- erty. Bail was $15,000. Rodrigo Langarcia Quin- tero: 27, Gerber was arrested Saturday at San Benito and Luning for felony driving under the influence causing bodily injury and misdemeanor driving without a license. Bail was $75,380. Michael Daniel Shroll: 32, Corning was arrested Sunday on the 15000block of North Mendocino for misdemeanor public intoxication. Shroll has outstanding charges of felony assault with a deadly weapon and misdemean- ors of a probation violation and security fee. Bail was $3,500. Anthony Lee Wood: 38, Sacramento was arrested Sunday on the 8000block of State Route 99E for felony second degree burglary. Bail was $15,000. Burglary 20000block State Route 36W: A residential burglary was reported Friday a er- noon. 14000block Molluc Drive: A resident reported coming home to find the door ajar and with pry marks on it. Suspicious Police shirt: A man wearing a black shirt with "Police" on the back was report- edly acting strange on the 9000block of State Route 99E Saturday night. He reportedly knocked on the door of a residence where a juvenile was home alone and demanded to be let in. Logs show one person was detained. The Tehama District Fair- ground: An 18-year-old reported the the of a wallet and phone Saturday. Violence Fight: A 48-year-old man on the 16000block of Quarter- house Court was beaten up early Friday morning during a disturbance over marijuana. The man was taken to the hospital. Police logs Oct. 5-11 is National 4-H Week and Tehama County is celebrating by welcoming in the first Tehama County baby born during 4-H Week. The 4-H office is collecting handmade and store bought items and cash donations to fill a basket to give to the ad- opted 4-H family. If anyone would like to donate, bring items between 8 a.m. and 5 p.m., now through Oct. 3, to the 4-H office at 1754 Walnut St. Alternately, Tehama County 4-H youth will be connecting with the community by hold- ing the 4th annual 4-H Open House 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Sat- urday, Oct. 11 on the Tractor Supply parking lot on South Main Street. Each club in the county will be in attendance and will have a hands-on activity for a proj- ect in their club. Concessions will be available. This event is free to everyone. It's a great time to ask current members and volunteers what 4-H can do for you. Tractor Supply, and their patrons, have been gener- ous to the local 4-H Program by purchasing paper clovers, which can be purchased Oct. 5-19 for $1, with a minimum of 60 percent of the donation to the state and county 4-H program. For more information on 4-H in Tehama County, call the 4-H Office at 530-527- 3101 or visit cetehama.ucanr. edu/4-H_Program/. SECOND ANNUAL Firstbabybornduring National 4-H Week Soroptimist International of Red Bluff is seeking nomi- nations for Senior Citizen of the Year, to be presented at Farm City Night on Nov. 3. The criteria for nomination are the individual be 65 years of age or older, a resident of Tehama County, a community volunteer participating in a broad scope of community ac- tivities and an all round out- standing citizen. Accompanying the nomi- nation should be a descrip- tion of the reasons this per- son should be chosen as the Senior Citizen of the Year. Submit nominations to SIRB, PO Box 962, Red Bluff, 96080 no later than Oct. 15. Include contact information about you or your organiza- tion in case further informa- tion is needed. FARM CITY NIGHT Senior of the Year nominations sought Earl Brown pleaded guilty in superior court here Tuesday to boot- legging at Tehama. The charges against him em- brace illegal possession of liquor and prior conviction for the same offense. Dep- uty Sheriffs J. N. Froome and William Dowling caught Brown the last time in a raid on the Rio Reina hotel at Tehama about two months ago. — Sept. 30, 1924 90 YEARS AGO... Man guilty of bootlegging Four San Francisco 49ers United Club seats, valued at $1,350, for the Nov. 2 game against the Rams will be up for raffle and chances to win are $50 each. All proceeds from this special raffle benefit Girls Incorporated of the Sacra- mento Valley, a non-profit 501(c)3 orga- nization that empowers girls in Shasta and Tehama counties. This raffle is one week only and a win- ner will be drawn about 9 p.m. Satur- day Oct. 4 at the second annual Girls Inc. Gala in Redding. The winner need not be present. Raffle tickets can be purchased at the gala, in advance by calling Girls Inc. NSV at (530) 527-7767 or online at: girlsincNSV.org , or https://girlsincnsv. nonprofiteasy.net/PublicPages/Event/ Details.aspx?eid=21741. The winner will receive four tickets for cushioned aisle seats in Section 135, Row 20, and one premium parking pass to the Nov. 2 game between the 49ers and the Rams. With exclusive access to the United Club, the winner and three guests gain special entry to the stadium, swag store, food court, wine bar, craft beer bar, li- quor bar and bathrooms. They will sit just 20 rows from the field, on the 49ers side, at the 25-yard line. The winner, if not present at the Girls Inc. Gala, will be notified on Sunday. For more info about the gala at the Red Lion in Redding, visit www.GirlsIn- cNSV.org. Gala tickets are $50 each, but increase to $60 after Sept. 30. FUNDRAISER Premium 49ers tickets to be raffled off on Saturday Benefit for Girl Scouts of Sacramento Valley. 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