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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Mybest friend of 35 years dated a guy for over a year — over 10 years ago. Recently his ex found me online, and we started chatting. It seems this could lead to a date. We are at- tracted to each other. However, my BFF says his ex is still his "proper- ty" and that I can't date him, or our friendship would end. I say that's selfish and not very BFF like. What do you think? Should I go on a date with the ex and let the chips fall where they may, or do as my BFF wants and keep my distance from his ex? —BewilderedinCT DEAR BEWILDERED » I agr- ee that your ex is being selfi sh and un reas onable . The statute of limitations on dating his ex passed at the point he declared his ex to be his "property." At this point, do what you want and let the chips fall where they may, partly because your BFF's refusal to "let" you pursue this relationship has already damaged your friendship, and you may need new friends soon. But I hope you two can work this out. You should understand that he feels threatened, and if he has any legitimate reasons for you not to pursue this re- lationship (other than the "property" defense), you should hear him out. DEAR AMY » I have elderly parents who need me, and my daughter living far away also needs me. I returned to my hometown 10 years ago because of my parents' health. They are now in their mid-80s, but other than my mother's dementia, they are doing well. My daughter and son- in-law live on the West Coast and have three children, two with autism. I'm retiring soon and want to settle near my grandchildren, but my parents have repeatedly stressed that they expect me to stay here. I'm an only child, but my parents have an exten- sive network of friends, other relatives and suffi- cient retirement income. My daughter's family is struggling with the de- mands of caring for their children. I have terrible guilt about wanting to move and pressure from my parents to stay. I feel as if I'm wait- ing for my parents to die before I can resume my own life. What are the criteria for making such a decision? — Torn DEAR TORN » I think when you are faced with two compelling situations, both drawing you toward them, you have to do what you want to do, as long as you do your best to prepare all parties involved for the conse- quences of your choice. It seems obvious that you really want to be near your daughter. Before moving, you could test the waters by going there for a month. This might make the idea easier for your parents. Please understand that the pressure from your folks might be because they are anxious and unsure of their future. Statute of limitations to date a friend's ex has long passed You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Virgo(Aug.23-Sept.22)— Beneficial career changes will present themselves if you are bold enough to act. Listen to the advice of an investment profes- sional to gain information. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — It's time to have some fun. Make personal changes that will boost your outlook and enhance your looks. Love and romance will affect your life greatly. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Others will not welcome your unsolicited advice. Do your own thing and avoid hurtful or dam- aging confrontations. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — A journey to an unfamiliar region will provide you with an opportunity. The timing is right for promoting your ideas and pulling together beneficial deals. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Friends and family will be a valuable resource. Listen to the advice of those who know you and have your best interests at heart. The assistance you need is at your fingertips. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Love is apparent. It has never been more important to be honest and upfront about your feelings. Issues could become muddled if you aren't willing to share your emotions. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — The rewards of an attempted project will be proportional to the creativity that you put into it. An unexpected moneymaking opportunity will come your way. Be open to suggestions. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Love connections and profit- able partnerships look good. The ability to multitask will be an important feature when it comes to your advancement. Look into educational pursuits. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — You will have to let others fend for themselves. It's time to take care of your personal affairs. Stick to your agenda and let others make their own decisions. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Don't be overwhelmed by the variety of options available to you. Make choices based on what suits you best at the mo- ment. Smaller, less important matters can be dealt with later. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Roll up your sleeves and put in the extra time and effort required to advance. Money and career are featured, so keep emotional issues out of the equation. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — You have a shot at reaching the winner's circle. You don't have control of every situation, so make the most of your attri- butes and ability. You have a lot to gain. 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