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Friday, August 5, 2011 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Embarrassment exasperates Dear Annie: I have been married to ‘‘John’’ for six years. We both have children from our first mar- riages. John’s old- est son is now 14 and still wets the bed. I suggested not allowing the boy to drink any- thing after 7 p.m. and always mak- ing sure he uses Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar the bathroom before bed. My hus- band did not follow through on either of those. My stepson had been using children’s diapers, but now that he needs an adult size, he refuses to wear them. Both of the boy’s parents have ignored the problem. Six months ago, I took my stepson to the doctor because I’m tired of washing two loads of sheets every day. The doc- tor prescribed medication, but my husband’s ex-wife refuses to believe he needs it, so her son doesn’t take the pills when he’s at her house. My stepson is embarrassed about the bedwetting, so I don’t under- stand why he refuses to wear the adult diapers and ‘‘forgets’’ to take his medication. He sometimes won’t even make an effort to use the bathroom before he goes to sleep. A few nights ago, he came out of his room at 10 p.m. to get a drink of water. My husband saw him and did nothing. In the meantime, I get stuck with the laundry. The most frustrating LAS VEGAS (AP) — Comedian Jerry Lewis and the Muscular Dystrophy Association aren’t saying why they’re fully parting ways after 45 years and raising more than $1 billion for the nonprofit through its annual telethon. But the 85-year-old comedian told reporters last week that he plans to hold a press confer- ence the day after this year’s telethon to talk about what he thinks is important. When pressed by a reporter about his role with the telethon, Lewis said: ‘‘It’s none of your busi- ness.’’ The association announced Wednesday that was no longer its national chairman and he would not appear on the telethon this year. Candi Cazau, a Las Vegas-based publicist for Lewis, declined comment to The Asso- NEW YORK (AP) — Rapper Lil Wayne faces a $15 million legal bat- tle over allegations he stole the hit song ‘‘Bedrock.’’ Georgia-based pro- duction company Done Deal Enterprises is suing Wayne, Universal Music Group, Cash James W. Tysinger, Jr. M.D. Eye Physician & Surgeon Fellow American Academy of Ophtalmology We accept Medical, Medicare & most Insurances Office Hours: Tues-Wed-Thurs 8am-4:30pm Mon & Fri 1pm-5pm For Emergencies, After Hours, Week-ends, Call 530-567-5001 345 Hickory St. Red Bluff Tel: (530) 529-4733 Fax: (530) 529-1114 thing is my husband’s attitude. I don’t get it. What else can I do? — Tired of Wet Beds Dear Tired: Enuresis often occurs when children sleep too deeply to wake to the warning signs of incipient urination. There also is often an inherited predisposition. At the age of 14, your stepson’s emo- tional and social life can suffer enormously from bedwetting. Shame on his parents for ignoring the problem and undermining all efforts to stay dry. You can invest in an alarm that will go off if the bed becomes wet. You also can insist that your stepson launder his own sheets or, better yet, that your hus- band wash them. Maybe that will impress upon him the need to be more supportive of his son’s devel- opment. Dear Annie: My daughter and her child are planning to visit this summer, and I am dreading it. Last summer’s visit was horrible, and I never wanted to see them again. But they are family. I am an elderly widow in good shape. Her daughter has great diffi- culty abiding by my rules. I can make a few adjustments, but still, the girl seems constantly distracted and hyperactive. She also snoops into my things and takes stuff that doesn’t belong to her. My daughter is doing a good job with a difficult child, but she seems to have a lot of blind spots. How far can I go in correcting her behavior in my home? — Panicked in Penn- sylvania Dear Pennsylvania: You are ciated Press on Thurs- day, saying Lewis was traveling outside Neva- da, his home state. Jim Brown, spokesman for the Tus- con, Ariz.-based Mus- cular Dystrophy Asso- ciation, declined to say what prompted the announcement. In May, Lewis said in a statement issued through the association that he would make his final appearance on the telethon this year and sing ‘‘You’ll Never Walk Alone’’ during a six-hour primetime broadcast scheduled for Sept. 4. But during a session with reporters last week at a Television Critics Association press tour to promote an upcoming TV documentary, ‘‘Method to the Mad- ness of Jerry Lewis,’’ Lewis hinted that his involvement in raising money for muscular dystrophy research was- Money Records and Young Money Entertain- ment for copyright infringement. Lawyers for the rap- per and representatives for Universal Music did- n’t return a request for comment Thursday. Lil Wayne has been ordered to appear in court Oct. Nicole Richardson Salon Bella Dona Full Service Salon any service. August Special 30% OFF Located next to Bud’s Jolly Kone Call for appt. 527-4843 (Expires Aug. 31, 2011) ‘Yard Sale Map’ Updated Thursday afternoon – for weekend Yard Sales! Click on locations for exact addresses and driving directions! ‘ at www.redbluffdailynews.com . Mouse over the red ‘ ’ tab and scroll down to ‘ ’ can be easily accessed from our top menu ’ and click. allowed to create areas of the house that are off-limits and to tell others not to touch your personal belong- ings. If your daughter refuses to correct her child in these areas, you are entitled to do so, but only ver- bally. You are NOT allowed to physically reprimand her. We strongly suggest you discuss the rules with your daughter in advance and ask her to help you with the dis- cipline so everyone can enjoy the visit. Dear Annie: ‘‘Tired of Living with Silent Bob’’ said every little thing sends his wife into a rage. That used to be me. I was constant- ly miserable. You can’t know how it feels to be irritated with everything and not know why. My husband even bought me a book about ‘‘angry women,’’ which I threw in his face. I finally was tested, and it turned out that my oxygen level was drop- ping substantially for most of the time I was asleep. After a few weeks with a CPAP machine, my anger went away. Please remind your readers what sleep apnea can do. — Eureka, Ill. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Lewis, MDA mum on reasons for comedian’s exit n’t finished. ‘‘Who told you that?’’ Lewis asked a reporter who asked him how he felt about this year being his last telethon. ‘‘I never read it.’’ ‘‘Do you remember when the New York Times printed, ‘Dewey wins’? I rest my case, pal,’’ Lewis said. ‘‘Any- thing you read, read it twice.’’ Lewis also harshly criticized reality televi- sion shows that include heavy involvement from telethon co-hosts Nigel Lythgoe and Alison Sweeney. Lythgoe is executive producer of ‘‘American Idol,’’ which Lewis called a singing competition of ‘‘McDonald’s wipe- outs,’’ while Sweeney hosts weight-loss show ‘‘The Biggest Loser.’’ ‘‘You just have to be bad. The business is scrounging around for what to do,’’ Lewis said when asked how comedic actors can become great today. ‘‘And the first thing a good comic must do is let them know he hasn’t changed. ‘‘He can bring that same veracity and that same performance to a medium that’s running around, knocking their brains out trying to see how we beat the fat lady at 375 pounds, and in four months she’s going to be 240. Who (cares),’’ Lewis said. ‘‘It’s ridiculous.’’ When asked what he’d have to do to be satisfied with his life, Lewis said: ‘‘Get the cure for muscular dys- trophy, then I’m fine.’’ Lewis later said he would hold a press con- ference Sept. 5 to clari- fy his plans. ‘‘I will have plenty to say about what I think is important. And that’s the future, not the past,’’ he said. Lil Wayne sued for $15 million over ’Bedrock’ 12. The song, which fea- tured appearances by Drake, Nicki Minaj and Lloyd, peaked at No. 2 on the Billboard Hot 100 and was on the compila- tion 2010 CD ‘‘We Are Young Money.’’ The lawsuit, filed Fri- day in the Southern Dis- trict court, is the latest legal woe facing the rap- per, born Dwayne Carter Jr. He also has been sued by several producers over unpaid royalties. Here’s the other half of the story on alcoholics DEAR DR. GOTT: Your response about the effects of alcohol consumption missed many concerns I wish you had discussed. Specifically, you emphasized the social and health impacts of binge and alcoholic consumption, which are certainly quite real. However, your discus- sion might be easily dis- missed by the AVERAGE American drinker, him or her thinking that a couple drinks a day is harm- less or even, as my parents believe, beneficial. Daily consumption of alcohol can increase a woman’s risk for develop- ing breast cancer, which is already far too common. In addition, please emphasize that one need not have a “problem” to be consuming sufficient alcohol to signifi- cantly alter the risk of impaired health via obesity, auto accidents, gallbladder disease, colon cancer, dia- betes, heart disease and ischemic strokes. For women in particular, two drinks each evening is too much, especially as they age. For teens, that same level of “moderate” con- sumption is correlated with higher rates of suicide, preg- nancies and lower academic achievement. It should be considered a cause for car- ing discussions and inter- vention by every responsi- ble parent of a teen. I dearly hope you will do a follow-up article provid- ing more specific evidence on the concerns related to commonly “acceptable” levels of everyday drinking so the public is more aware that it is not as healthy as they may think. DEAR READER: Peo- ple have long been aware of the harmful effects of con- suming alcohol in excess. This, despite the fact that some studies from 1999 by the deputy director of the National Institute on Alco- hol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) indicate that moderate drinking may be associated with a reduced risk of heart attack, stroke and atherosclerosis. You might remember that posi- tive reports of drinking red wine for cardiovascular health came out around that time. Here comes the difficult part. A drink must be defined in terms of its alco- hol content, for which there is great variation. For exam- ple, some beer may contain 5 percent alcohol by vol- ume. A light beer may con- tain less than 3 percent. Wine averages around 13 percent alcohol. Liquors typically range from 40 per- cent (80 proof) to 60 percent (120 proof), but can be as high as 95 percent (190 proof). Dr. Peter Gott leaving So can we say that a man or woman who drinks two beers a day is overindulging, as opposed to the person who has one glass of scotch? This makes the def- inition of “moderate” some- what difficult. Even temperate daily alcohol consumption can have an effect on a person’s general health, despite the fact that there aren’t a great number of studies available regarding patients who drink in moderation. Rather, we dwell on people who drink to excess. However, when it comes to discussing alcoholism, I failed to expand my answer to cover the fact that moder- ate drinking can be habitual and can lead to eventual abuse. The liver can be affected, leading to cirrho- sis; sexual function can diminish, resulting in erec- tile dysfunction in men or interruption of menstruation in women; and the risk of high blood pressure, heart failure and stroke is elevat- ed. Also, the lining of the stomach can become inflamed, leading to gastri- tis; eye weakness and paral- ysis of the muscles of the eye can occur; paresthesias (numbness and tingling) of the hands and feet may be present; and the risk of can- cer of the liver, throat, breast, colon and other areas of the body is increased. In addition, the development of new bone can be inter- rupted, leading to osteo- porosis; and diabetics are affected when alcohol inter- feres with the release of glu- cose from the liver, leading to hypoglycemia. Frankly, almost every part of body can be affected in a negative manner, and the collective outcome can be dismal. Therefore, the answer may be not to drink in moderation that can lead to excess. Fortunately, help is avail- able at any stage. Clinics and facilities are available to help with detoxification. Therapy and counseling are available. Oral medications such as Antabuse may be prescribed if a person is serious about shaking the addiction. 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