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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Iam75years old and very sad. I have been married for 39 years. It has been very rocky. My wife is very likely bipolar and has serious anxiety and anger issues. She refuses to get medical help. She has been verbally abusive and has hit me. I have tried to love her, but she is just impossible. She flies off the handle if I do anything without her permission. We are each very com- fortable financially, but in 39 years I have borne ALL household expenses, and she has saved every penny of her substantial income. She tracks my money. I tell myself I am the biggest fool. Some of my closest friends have told me to get out. I find it difficult after 39 years. How should I pro-ceed? Every time I show her I am about to leave, she tells me she loves me and cannot do without me. My daughters have given up on me and do not want to hear my problems anymore. They say I should just leave. —Disheartened DEAR DISHEARTENED » You are being verbally and physically abused. Your wife is controlling your movements and po- licing your money. Every time you seem ready to leave, she manipulates you into staying. Your friends and your daugh- ters have urged you to get out. Please seek profession- al help immediately. Your marriage has already stolen your sense of well- being; this relationship is bad for your mental, emotional and physical health. Please call the Na- tional Domestic Violence Hotline (thehotline.org) at 8 00-79 9-7233. A pho ne counselor can help guide you through the process of safely leaving this relationship. A concerned friend and/or your daugh- ters can also help. The way to get help is to ask for it: "I want to leave. Please help me do this." DEAR AMY » I've been dat- ing a woman for the last two years. Within the first three months of dating, I caught her texting an ex-boyfriend in a very flir- tatious way. She promised to stop and guaranteed she would tell him not to contact her. We moved in together. When I expressed my reservations about her past indiscretion, she as- sured me I had nothing to worry about. Months into living together, I discovered that emails and texts had con- tinued. At this point, she said she couldn't promise anything and that their relationship was platonic. She never resolved anything and refused to acknowledge the pain it caused me. Her way of dealing was to get defen- sive and leave the room. I discovered the cor- respondence continues, and whenever she does anything without me, she visits the area of town where this man lives. What do you think? — Upset DEAR UPSET » I think you know what you want to do and what you need to do. And now I think you should do it. Daughtersurgefatherto leave abusive marriage You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Virgo(Aug.23-Sept.22)— If you follow someone else, you won't get much done. Choose the most important item on your to-do list and take care of it. Your actions will speak volumes. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Stop procrastinating and put in extra hours organizing your personal papers. Once you have that out of the way, you will be able to set a workable budget. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Uncertainty in a relationship should be dealt with by having a heart-to-heart talk. An act of aggression or anger will only make the situation worse. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You are likely to be hurt if you are too revealing. Pouring out your emotions will put you in a vulnerable position. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — A partnership or collab-ora- tion will be successful if you are honest about your intentions. Sharing with the people who influence your life the most will lead to a positive change. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Conflicting information is likely to lead to confusion. It's well worth your while to sort it out before the situation spins out of control. Don't jeopardize your position by ignoring what's going on. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Let feelings of affection flourish. Find a creative way to let someone know how much you care. An innovative idea can turn into a prosperous pastime. Aries (March 21-April 19) — You will be the person everyone leans on. Look after those who need your help, but don't lose sight of your own needs. Pa- tience will be required. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Bare your heart to someone you care about. The way you express your feelings will show how committed you are to doing your very best. Overreacting will work against you. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Take part in an event concern- ing a cause you feel strongly about. You will gain a feeling of satisfaction for taking a stand. You can and will make a difference. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Develop creative ideas and share your discoveries. You will have a chance to meet someone who will have an impact on your future at a social or networking event. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — A change will turn out much better than you anticipate, but don't expect everyone to back your plans. If a confrontation is festering, take a step back and prepare for the duel. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, AUG. 30 SATURDAY, AUGUST 30, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B