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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»I'mayoung woman in my 20s. I live some distance from my parents, but we have al- ways been a close family. A few weeks ago I found out that my father has been unfaithful, and that he and my mother are separating. My relationship with my father has always been a nice one: He gives me advice about work and my car; when I visit, we go out for burgers or to the movies and watch TV together. I don't talk to him much about emotions, love and intimacy because he gets awkward and gruff. I'm angry and hurt by the choice he made, and angry that my family is now broken. I can't imagine speak- ing to him, though we've kept in contact by text message. But I feel like I should call him to com- fort him, because isn't that what good daughters are supposed to do? I know the infidelity was not about me, and it's not my fault and not my job to fix it. I know, too, that too many daughters and sons grow to loathe their parents, and I don't want that to happen. How do we move on? When is the right time to be brave and generous, and when is it OK to self-preserve? —Daughter DEAR DAUGHTER » First this: You are already the "good daughter" your parents raised you to be. You are compassionate about both parents, even the one with whom you are angry. So now you can throw out the rule book about what good daugh- ters are supposed to do, and respond honestly. Your father has hurt his family, and now he is h id i n g b ec au s e he is n' t sure what to do next. Your job is not to comfort him in your hour of need but to do what you need to do to receive comfort. The time to be brave and generous is — always. Communicating is how you will "self-preserve." Writing him a letter (not a text message) might be a good first step toward a conversation. DEAR AMY » When I lost my job, my boyfriend invited me and my daugh- ter to move in with him. After three months I got a job, and he told me I would have to pay rent. I agreed and started pay- ing rent. I also gave him money for food, cable and utilities to help out. After a year, I lost my job again and I was jobless for four months. When I got a new job and received my first paycheck, he forced me to pay rent. Amy, do I need to pay him first to make him happy — and forget my own bills and suffer the consequences? — Girlfriend DEAR GIRLFRIEND » By my math, your guy has already sheltered you rent-free for a total of seven months. You don't seem to take your financial obligation to him very seriously, and he might be so insistent to make this point. The fact that he is both your boyfriend and your land- lord is confusing, but he has been clear. Father's infidelity and divorce angers his adult daughter You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com and follow her on Twitter @askingamy. Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Virgo(Aug.23-Sept.22) — You will be on an emotional roller coaster, so slow down and take stock of things. Stick to simple plans and keep your decision-making to a minimum. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Conflicts with authority figures should be avoided. You can promote your ideas with confidence, but don't force your opinion on others. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — It's time to introduce some passion into your personal life. Plan to spend an exhilarating evening with the person you enjoy being with most. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Someone is withhold- ing information from you. Take precautions to prevent a broken promise from becoming costly. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Others will fall under your spell today. Take this opportu- nity to market your abilities and ideas. The support you gain will help you formulate your next move. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Residential improvements or renovations can result in an unexpected financial gain. Your sense of satisfaction and your comfort level will improve, along with your standard of living. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Compromise will be the order of the day. Rather than invest time and energy in a battle of wills, agree to disagree for the sake of harmony. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Your intuition will lead to a life-changing business venture. Demonstrate your talents to as many interested parties as you can, and a window of opportu- nity will open. 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