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Weallknowthe Joneses: that fam- ily with the per- fect home and cars, the perfect kids and mar- riage. And tons of money. Admit it. You've been trying to keep up with them, haven't you? You want to be like them because they have it all, without any of the stress or pressure that the rest of us have to put up with. There's a Jones family on every block, in every neighborhood, church and community. Your "Jone- ses" might be a neighbor, friend or relative. While some may find it easy to shrug their shoul- ders and say they don't care, the truth is that many peo- ple feel compelled to not only keep up with their Joneses, but to outdo them. What we're deal- ing with here is called envy. It's the age-old monster that mo- tivated Cain to murder his brother Abel, and the wicked Queen to poison her stepdaughter, Snow White. Envy wraps its ugly green tentacles around our hearts whenever we allow what others have to stir up a painful awareness of our own lack. The mon- ster can show up in almost any situation, and before we know it, we're over- spending and going into debt trying to keep up and "one up." If you recognize that you have a problem with envy and letting others around you determine how you'll spend your income, you're already on the right track. You've just nailed the first step, which is re- alizing you have a prob- lem. Now take a few more steps and soon you'll be off that one-up train. Question yourself. Envy is an emotion that can be exhausting because it has to be hidden. Ask your- self, what is trying to keep up with the Joneses doing to you on the inside? Is it producing anything posi- tive, or is it just eating you up? Be brutally honest. Others' feelings. How do you think it feels for your spouse, kids, loved ones and friends if you are always unsatisfied with what you have? You can't be that much fun to live with. And if you are so unhappy with what you have, could they be think- ing that you're unsatisfied with them, too? Change your thoughts. You thought your way into this; you can think your way out of it. You choose your thoughts, and that is how you get these feelings of envy. Stop paying atten- tion to the Joneses. Just stop it. Their dreams or yours. The Joneses (whoever they are) don't care what kind of SUV you drive. They won't care if you get your kids into the prestigious school. They're not pay- ing attention to brand on the handbag you carry or the clothes you wear. They honestly don't care. If you're living your life to measure up to what oth- ers have, you're playing a loser's game. You're living their dreams and not your own. Be grateful. Instead of being envious of what you perceive that oth- ers have and striving to match it, every day for one full week, write down 10 things you are grateful for — blessings in your life. Do not repeat one bless- ing. Unfriend the Joneses. This is not a competition. It's your life, your future. It will be a lot easier if you can convince yourself that they're buried in debt try- ing to impress you. Truth be told, they probably are. Wouldyouliketosend a tip to Mary? You can email her at mary@eve- rydaycheapskate.com, or write to Everyday Cheap- skate, P.O. Box 2099, Cy- press, CA 90630. EVERYDAYCHEAPSKATE Keeping up with the Joneses is a loser's game Mary Hunt The Lions of District 4-C1 and your local Lions Club are plan- ning a day especially designed for the blind and persons with low-vision here in northern Cal- ifornia. It will be a day of entertain- ment, education, and inspira- tion. Join us on Saturday, Octo- ber 4 at the Redding Convention Center. This event is free to the pub- lic and will run from 9 a.m. to 7:30 p.m. The event is named "An In- Sight-Full Day" and will include free vision screening, eye glasses recycling, guide dog demonstra- tions, and information booths. There will be a Blind Expe- rience Walk, food booths, and vendors of adaptive devices for the blind. There also will be an art show featuring the artwork of those blind artisans in atten- dance, music by blind perform- ers and internationally known Guest Speakers. A fundraising 2-mile and 5-mile walk through the scenic Turtle Bay complex will be held Saturday morning from 9 a.m. to noon. Please visit our website ata- ninsightfulday.org to sign up to participate. Father and son Patrick John Hughes and Patrick Henry Hughes from Louisville, Ken- tucky will be the Keynote Speak- ers and Entertainers at 5:30 p.m. They will inspire us with their life stories and entertain us with their musical talents. This special day is intended to be the largest event to ad- dress the needs of the blind and sight-impaired ever to be held in Northern California. For more information or op- portunities contact_a member of your local Lions club or call Lion Steve Robeson at 530-467-3791. LIONS Event set for low-vision residents Today REDBLUFF Celebrate Recovery:7p.m., Bethel Assembly of God, 625 Luther Road, 527-0445. Hospice Second Hand Store half price sale: all day, Riverside Shopping Center Red Bluff Rotary Club Sunrise: 7a.m., M&M Ranch CORNING Car Show: 5-9p.m., Bartels Gi- ant Burger, 22355Corning Road, local car clubs welcome, 824- 2788 Nutrition Classes: 11:30a.m. to 1 p.m., 175Solano St., 824-7670 LOS MOLINOS Narcotics Anonymous: 7-8p.m., 25204Josephine Ave, Wednes- day and Friday Saturday RED BLUFF Chamber Certified Farmers Market: 7:30a.m. to noon, River Park 527-6220 Frontier Village Farmers Mar- ket: 8a.m. to 1p.m., 645Antelope Blvd. TEHAMA Tehama County Museum: 1-4 p.m., 275C St., group tours any day by appointment, 384-2595 Sunday RED BLUFF AA Live and Let Live: noon and 5:30p.m., 785Musick St., every day except Thursday at 8p.m. Al-Anon New Comers At Heart: 6:30-7:30p.m., Presbyterian Church of Red Bluff, 838Jeffer- son Road, Room 2, 690-2034 Kelly-Griggs House Museum: 1-3p.m., 311Washington St., group tours by appointment, 527- 1129or 527-5895 TEHAMA Tehama County Museum: 1-4 p.m., 275C St., group tours any day by appointment, 384-2595 Monday RED BLUFF Community Band Concert: 8 p.m., River Park, free English as a Second Language class: 5:30-8:30p.m., Red Bluff High School Adult Ed building, 1295Red Bud, 736-3308, same time Tuesday and Wednesday and 9a.m. to 12:20p.m. Thurs- days, free childcare from 9a.m. to 12:20p.m. classes in Richlieu Hall, 900Johnson St. Gastric Bypass Support Group: 6p.m., St. Elizabeth Community Hospital, Columba room, 529- 3066 Head Injury Recreational En- tity: 10a.m.-2p.m., St. Elizabeth Community Hospital, Coyne Center, Rusty, 529-2059 Key to Life: 6p.m., Family Re- source Center, 220Sycamore St. Ste. 101, 528-8066 Narcotics Anonymous: 11a.m. to noon, 838Jefferson St., Room 3, Monday through Saturday and 5:30-6:30p.m. Saturday Narcotics Anonymous: 7-8:30 p.m., 785Musick St., every day except Thursday Nutrition classes: 10:30a.m. to noon, 220Sycamore St. #101 PAL Martial Arts: 3-5p.m., ages 5-18, 1005Vista Way, Ste. C, free, 529-7950 Retired and Active Federal Employees: 11:45a.m., Cozy Diner 259S. Main St., call Karen at 585-2494 Salvation Army Writing Class: 9:30-11:30a.m., 940Walnut St., 527-8530 Senior Writing Class: 10a.m. to noon, Sycamore Center, 220 Sycamore St., 527-5762 Sun Country Quilters Com- munity Service Group: 9a.m. to noon, Family Resource Center, 220Sycamore St. Ste. 101, 528- 1126 TeenScreen Mental Health appointments: 10a.m. to 2p.m., free, by appointment only, 1900 Walnut St., 527-8491, Ext. 3012 Tehama County Military Family Support Group: 6p.m., Country- side Cafe, 638Washington St., 529-2416 TOPS Club (take off pounds sensibly): 8:30a.m., First Christian Church, 926Madison Ave., 527-7541or 347-6120, visit www.tops.org US citizenship preparation class: 5:30-8:30p.m., Red Bluff High School Adult Ed building, 1295Red Bud, 736-3308, same time Tuesday and Wednesday Venture Crew 1914meeting: 6:30-8p.m., Moose Lodge on 99W, coed ages 14-20welcome CORNING Alcoholics Anonymous: noon Monday through Friday, 5p.m. Thursday, 7p.m. Monday, Tuesday and Saturday and 1p.m. Sunday, 783Solano St. Exchange Club membership meeting: 7p.m., Iron Skillet Kirkwood School Board: 5p.m., 2049Kirkwood Road Narcotics Anonymous: 7-8:30 p.m., 820Marin St., 824-114or 586-0245, meetings daily Sewing group: 9a.m., Family Resource Center, West and South streets, 824-7670 Spanish Adult Education: 5 p.m., Family Resource Center, West and South streets, 824- 7670 Strategies for Success, Life Skill classes: 1:30p.m., Family Resource Center, West and South streets, 824-7670 Weight Watchers: weigh in 5:30p.m., meeting 6p.m., Senior Center LOS MOLINOS Senior Dance: 7p.m., Senior Center, Josephine Street, 384- 2100 GERBER Gerber Union Elementary School District board meeting: 5p.m., Media Resource Center COTTONWOOD Cottonwood Garden Club: 10 a.m., 20595Gas Point Road, potluck lunch to follow, 347-1281 or 347-3852 FLOURNOY Flournoy Elementary School Board: 6p.m., 16850Paskenta Road Tuesday RED BLUFF American Legion Mt. Lassen Post 167: 7p.m., Veterans Me- morial Hall, 735Oak St. Antelope School Board: 5:30 p.m., Antelope District Board Room, 22600Antelope Blvd. Bend School Board: 4:30p.m., 22270Bend Ferry Road Book Club, 6p.m.: Tehama County Library City Council: 7p.m. City Hall, 555 Washington St. Cribbage Club: 6p.m. Cozy Diner, 259S. Main St., 527-6402 Diabetic Education: 12:30p.m. St. Elizabeth Community Hospi- tal, Columba Room, 529-8031 Fun Senior Aerobics: 8-9a.m., $1, Community Center, 1500S. Jackson St. 527-8177 Healthier Living with Chronic Conditions: 5:30-8p.m., St. Elizabeth Community Hospital, Wright Room, 888-628-194 PAL Kickboxing: 6p.m., 1450 Schwab St., 529-8716or 200- 3950 Penny Bingo: 9:30a.m., Commu- nity Center, 1500S. Jackson St. PETS — Providing Essentials for Tehama Shelter: 6p.m., Rabobank, 500Luther Road, 527-8702 Pinochle for Seniors: 12:30- 3:30p.m., 1500S. 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