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"Onedayshefinally grasped that unexpected things were going to hap- pen in life. With that, she realized the only con- trol she had was how she chose to control how she handled them, so she made the decisions to survive using courage, humor and grace. She was the queen of her own life and the choice was hers"- Kathy Kinney. If ever there was a quote that resonated with how I live, this is it. I have learned over time that no amount of con- trolling, preparing and readying yourself for life, prevents bad things from happening. No amount of being good, kind or de- serving stops the diag- nosis, the divorce or the firing. Likewise, I have learned that no amount of being an ass, being hateful or undeserving stops the flow of good into your life. Perhaps not as much as it could, but good things happen to bad people too. When I was a child and up through my twenties, I didn't have a frame of reference to guide me to a posi- tive mindset. I had good things happen and I had bad things happen and I didn't pay close atten- tion to how my mindset affected my perception of either good or bad. I suppose, I ping- ponged back and forth between being up when things were good and down when things were bad. I can definitely say, my overall outlook on life was that it was not easy and they key to success was hard work and disci- pline. In some ways, this was true, but I left out the importance of mind- set. When things hap- pened on the day-to-day, I allowed the happenings to dictate my mood. Be- cause life seemed so out of control, I spent most of my time trying to fig- ure out how to gain the control that I thought would make life predict- able and understandable. My whole goal was to see out as far ahead of me as possible and I be- lieved the knowing of what was coming would bring me the security I craved. The truth was there was never going to be clarity about much more than the moment I was in. What I needed to de- velop was my ability to control the only thing I could, my mindset no matter what happened. Up until I made this change, I witnessed life as a bystander who watched others win and lose in areas of life and wondered why bad things happened to good people and good things happened to bad people. I assigned value to what happened, both good and bad, to others and often times felt sorry for myself when peo- ple who didn't seem to earn a break, got one. I felt sad when people who didn't seem to deserve a set back, got one. It made me feel helpless and as though I could never find the formula to get life right. At some point, in about my thirties, I made a huge shift in my think- ing and realized that all I could really do was the best I knew how in the moment, while always searching to know more, and that no matter what happened, I had the con- trol in how I dealt with it. Let me tell you, some- times dealing with it looked like: avoidance, an entire pizza, throw- ing a fit, pouting, seeth- ing, ice cream or mak- ing some stupid mistake in response. Over time, this happened less and less until I made the connection that who I am is not determined by what others think. Their reality isn't mine unless I adopt it. I didn't need to prove anything to anyone who doesn't have my best in- terest at heart. I also learned that being jeal- ous of others is useless, there is nothing they have that I can't without doing the right things. Yes, good things happen to bad people and that doesn't mean life is un- fair. It means life is a se- ries of events, both good and bad and the whole experience of life isn't about the events that happen, it's about who you evolve into as you learn to accept them. FaydraRector,MAisa mental health admin- istrator, author, pub- lic speaker, educator and life coach who lives in Red Bluff. She can be reached at lifecoach@ shasta.com or view her blogs at faydraandcom- pany.blogspot.com/ and allaboutdivorce.blogspot. com/. FAYDRARECTOR Goodthingshappen to bad people The American Cancer Society is offering ladies who are undergoing can- cer treatments a free Look Good, Feel Better session to learn to cope with ap- pearance-related side ef- fects of treatment and re- gain a sense of self-confi- dence and control. This program is offered every month with the next session 2-4 p.m. Monday, Aug. 11 at the Cancer Re- source Center, inside the American Cancer Soci- ety Discovery Shop at 2961 Churn Creek Road. Registration is required. For reservations call the American Cancer Society at 1-800-227-2345. Look Good, Feel Better is a free program offered in group sessions, which provide education, infor- mation and support. Vol- unteer cosmetologists or estheticians — all certi- fied and trained profes- sionals — teach women how to enhance their ap- pearance using compli- mentary cosmetics and skin care products. Volunteers will also teach patients to disguise hair loss using wigs, tur- bans, scarves, and vari- ous accessories. The pro- gram is presented through collaboration between the American Cancer Society, the Professional Beauty Association/National Cos- metology Association and the Personal Care Prod- ucts Council Foundation. AMERICAN CANCER SOCIETY Freesupportclass offered for women PLEASERECYCLE THIS NEWSPAPER. Thankyou! NOR CAL COMBAT THE CHAMP CONTRIBUTEDPHOTO RedBluff'sJesse Davis won the 125-pound Nor Cal Combat Champion- ship July 12 at the Butte County Fair- grounds defeating Johnny Terry with an armbar in the first round. The Sierra Club Yahi Group is hosting the fol- lowing events for August. Unless otherwise noted, trips are free and open to the public and begin at the trailhead. If you have any questions or want further information about specific activities, call Wayland Au- gur at 530-519-4724 or send an email to wba@acm.org. Saturday,Aug.9: Mellow Hike at Colby Meadows. We will take a 4- to 5-mile hike in another area of Colby Meadows. Boots or stout walking shoes are recom- mended. Bring lunch, water, sunscreen and appropriate clothing. If you wish, bring binoculars, a camera and bird and plant field guides. If time permits, we will drive a erwards to the Colby Mountain Lookout. Meet at Chico Park & Ride at 9a.m. Leader: Larry, 342-7998. Saturday, Aug. 23: Butt Mountain Hike. Join us to climb 7870' Butt Moun- tain just south of Hwy. 36. Total distance of 11miles with a climb of 1500' to the summit. We will start along pretty Carter Creek and Meadow and then fol- low the Pacific Crest Trail before turning off for the final climb to enjoy great views of Mt. Lassen and Lake Almanor. Bring lunch, water, sunscreen, a hat and boots or footwear with good tread. Final part of climb is on rocky lava cap. Meet at Chico Park & Ride at 8:30a.m. or Elam Rest Area at 9:30a.m. Leader: Alan, 891-8789or ajmen- doza777@comcast.net. TO DO Activities planned for Sierra Club Yahi Group WILLOWS The Mendocino National Forest will be sell- ing surplus vehicles, mis- cellaneous equipment and furniture by public Inter- net auction this week to the highest bidder. Beginning Monday, bid items were made avail- able on the GSA website: www.gsaauctions.gov. In- ternet bidding will con- tinue through Aug. 4 until the posted deadline time per sale item, Central Day- light Time. On the GSA website, type in sale number: 91QSCI14006 in the "En- ter Search Text" box. Only Forest Service items will be displayed. With each item of this search there is an assigned number, descrip- tion, photo(s) if available and a contact name and phone number if further inquiry is needed. Bidders are cautioned to view the terms and condi- tions in the blue tool bar at the top of the page for all requirements regard- ing registering, bidding, payment, warranties and removal of successful bid items. Internet sale vehicles and equipment are avail- able for public viewing weekdays from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. through Friday, Aug. 1 at the Willows office, 825 N. Humboldt Ave. For additional informa- tion, please contact Hank Foushay at 530-934-1119 or 530-635-7002. AUCTION Forest Service vehicle and equipment Internet sale is on Three of the streams in Tehama county are to be replenished next month with baby trout. Word to that effect has been re- ceived by R. H. Boding, secretary of the Red Bluff chamber of commerce, from the California Fish and Game Commission. The fish are coming from the state hatchery at Mt. Shasta, arriving here on train No. 13 the night of August 6, when 25 cans of Loch Laven trout and 50 cans of Rainbow trout will be unloaded at the lo- cal depot. — July 27, 1924 90 YEARS AGO... Fish coming to replenish creeks The following informa- tion has been compiled from Red Bluff Police De- partment, Tehama County Sheriff's Department, Corn- ing Police Department and California Highway Patrol logs. Arrests Kendra Marie Caito: 27, Red Bluff was arrested Sunday at Cedar and Jack- son streets for felony pos- session of a narcotic and misdemeanor paraphernalia. Bail was $18,000. Charles Allen Coffey: 28, Corning was arrested Friday on the 1000block of Monroe Street for felony possession of a narcotic, altering account data and misdemeanors of the of an access card and parapher- nalia. Bail was $48,000. Douglas Martin Dean: 32, Red Bluff was arrested Saturday on the 500block of Madison Street for misdemeanor giving false identification to a peace officer. Dean has out- standing charges of felony possession of a controlled substance, second degree burglary, four counts of fail- ure to appear, false checks, obtaining credit with another person's identifica- tion and misdemeanors of paraphernalia, two counts of driving without a license and two counts of failure to appear. Bail was $28,000. Jesse Daniel Estrella: 47, Red Bluff was arrested Friday on Dale Street for felony threatening a crime with the intent to terrorize. Bail was $50,000. Kalie Rae Evans: 27, Red Bluff was arrested Sunday on the 800block of Hickory Street for felony possession of a controlled substance and misdemeanor parapher- nalia. Evans has outstand- ing charges of misdemeanor being under the influence of a controlled substance and failure to appear. Bail was $43,000. Francisco Lombera Guillen: 54, Fresno was arrested Friday on south- bound Interstate 5at Antelope Boulevard for felony possession of mari- juana for sale. Bail was $25,000. 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