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2B Daily News – Thursday, June 30, 2011 FEATURES Chloe cheats child Dear Annie: My daughter, ‘‘Chloe,’’ Dear Nebraska: Chloe should not receives child support for her son, ‘‘Logan,’’ who is 3. Chloe does not live with her son because she is not capable of taking care of him. She is an alcoholic who lives with her abusive boyfriend. My husband and I have raised Logan since birth. He lives with us. Since Chloe has legal custody, Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar however, she receives the child support payments. Unfortunately, she spends most of the money on herself and her boyfriend. Every time I ask her for money to cover day care costs, food and other expenses for Logan, we get into a big fight. She does buy her son a few clothes and toys from time to time. But she recently received $926 in back support, and it is already gone. Less than half was spent on Logan. What can I do? I would like Logan’s father to get custody. He already has him four days a week and wants to be with him. Chloe usually sees her son once a week. Should I tell Logan’s father what is going on? I think he would still let us take care of Logan a few days a week. I love my grandchild and want to be a part of his life. — Nebraska TENNIS Continued from Page 1B Open. Defending cham- pion Nadal will play Mur- ray, who hopes to give Britain its first men’s title at the All England Club in 75 years. Although Fish thought Nadal moved well against him and showed no sign of injury, the 10-time major champion said: ‘‘My foot is not fine. But we are in quarterfinals of Wimbledon. Is an emergency, so I had to play.’’ Nadal is on a 19-match winning streak at the grass- be receiving child support payments if she is not actually raising her child or using the money for its intended pur- pose. You should do whatever is in Logan’s best interests. If his father wants to raise him and can provide a stable, loving home, it makes sense for him to ask for custody. You also may be in a position to be given custody of your grandchild since you have been his informal guardian since birth. If you want to do that, please talk to a lawyer. Dear Annie: I’m an alcoholic. I’ve been to rehab three times and now go to AA every day. I also attend an inten- sive outpatient program every week. It’s finally had an impact. I have NO desire at all for a glass of wine. I am an attractive professional and had a very high-paying job for 25 years. Alcohol played a major role in my losing my job. It also caused seri- ous issues with my family. I got three DUIs and pretty much took a perfectly good life and allowed alcohol to screw it up. Alcohol does that. After being ‘‘dry’’ for three weeks, I finished up some landscaping work with a friend and said, ‘‘Boy, a beer would be great right now.’’ So I ordered a non-alcoholic beer at the local bar. Since then, I’ve had a few more. I feel great, I don’t wake up jit- tery, and I have a lot more energy and drive. Here’s my question. Is non-alco- court Grand Slam, and is 31- 2 since the start of the 2006 tournament; both losses were against Federer in finals. He’s 11-4 against Murray, including a victory in last year’s Wimbledon semifinals. ‘‘You get pushed more and more as the rounds go on,’’ said Murray, a three- time major runner-up. ‘‘I’m sure in the next round, I’m going to get pushed even harder, and I’m going to have to up my game again.’’ Federer, meanwhile, remains one Wimbledon trophy short of the men’s record of seven, shared by Pete Sampras and Willie Try Our All New Salad Bar All You Can Eat Spaghetti $ Served with Garden Salad or Cup of Soup & Garlic Toast Every Thursday all day Kids Eat FREE Every Wednesday with purchase of reg. sized entrée (excludes steak) Cozy Diner 259 S. Main St. Red Bluff 528-8777 OPEN: 7 days a week 5:30 am - 9 pm 8.99 holic beer OK for an alcoholic? I’m aware that there is .05 percent alcohol in a beer, but it satisfies the urge with- out the problems associated with nor- mal alcoholic beverages. — Wonder- ing About the Brew in Massachusetts Dear Wondering: We commend you for trying to stay sober, but any alcohol, even a small amount, could be a problem for you. Studies have shown that the smell of non-alcoholic beer can trigger the same increase in the brain chemical dopamine as regular beer, causing some recovering alco- holics to eventually relapse. Please dis- cuss this with your AA sponsor. Dear Annie: This is in response to ‘‘Crying in California,’’ the woman who did not receive a condolence card from her doctor after the loss of her daughter. She has my sympathy. At least she did not experience the horror of receiving a call from the doctor reminding her of her dead daughter’s next appointment. That’s what hap- pened to our mother shortly after Dad passed away. Please tell ‘‘Crying’’ to wipe her tears and change doctors. — K in Kentucky Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Renshaw, whose titles came in the 1880s. ‘‘I thought my game was plenty good enough this year to win the tournament,’’ Federer said. ‘‘Unfortunate- ly, there’s only one that can win it, and the rest go home empty-handed. That’s what happened to me today. Jo played an amazing match.’’ That certainly is true. Tsonga lost the first game he served — and then didn’t face a break point the rest of the way. He finished with an 18-17 edge in aces and a 63-57 edge in total winners. And Tsonga man- aged to break Federer’s serve once in each of the last three sets. Most impressive of all, Tsonga hung in there even after falling so far behind. ‘‘I was feeling really strong because I never — how you say that? — panic. I was, all the time, really focused,’’ Tsonga said. ‘‘I was not scared on big points.’’ The 26-year-old Tsonga reached the 2008 Australian Open final before losing to Djokovic, who won that tournament again this year. But what appeared to be a rapid rise for Tsonga stalled, in part because of injuries to both knees. He split with his coach in April and has yet to hire another. What Tsonga does not lack at the moment is self-belief. Asked if he thinks he could win Wim- bledon this year, Tsonga replied: ‘‘Um, why not?’’ Wednesday’s match was only his fifth career major quarterfinal; Federer has been at least that far at each of the past 29 Grand Slam tournaments. But after get- ting to the semifinals at a record 23 consecutive majors, Federer now has lost in the quarterfinals at three of the past five. Inevitably, a reporter wanted to know whether Federer felt as if this were the end of an era. ‘‘No, I don’t think so,’’ Federer said. ‘‘Wasn’t a shocker, second-round loss in straight sets, some stupid match I played. It was a great match, I think, from both sides.’’ K W I K K U T S Family Hair Salon $200 REGULAR HAIRCUT off with coupon Not good with other offers 1064 South Main St., Red Bluff • 529-3540 Reg. $13.95 Expires 7/31/11 Nail Biting can be bitter experience DEAR DR. GOTT: I have been a chronic nail-biter since grade school. I have tried the bitter stuff to put on my nails, hypnotism and even fake nails. I would love to grow my own nails, but when I get worked up or nervous, I chew until I have stubs. Any help on this matter would be appreciated. DEAR READER: There are a number of reasons for this habit. It can result from being nervous, depressed, excited, bored, or even for unknown reasons. The stresses in everyday life can be difficult to deal with. Most nail-biting is simply a bad habit. It is rather com- mon in children and young adults, but typically ceases thereafter. It will not cause permanent damage unless you have warts or an infec- tion around the nail bed. If you suffer from frequent colds or diarrhea, you might attribute it to your nail-bit- ing. Bacteria or viruses from the fingers and nails enter the mouth when you bite, mak- ing infection possible. The first step might be to determine under what cir- cumstances you bite your nails. Keep a journal. Are the episodes related to stress, depression or unhappy expe- riences? Do you sit alone and idle when the uncontrol- lable urge strikes, or are you in a room full of people? If you can identify the trigger, you might be on your way to breaking the habit. Depending on the cir- cumstance, you might speak with your primary care physician, a therapist, coun- selor or other trained profes- sional. Have you had any recent lab testing to deter- mine if you have a deficien- cy that can be overcome with specific medication? Do you make good dietary choices or do you prefer junk food? Do you exercise? Sometimes even the most complicated situation can be controlled with a simple modification in lifestyle. I can offer some initial suggestions for control, but you have likely tried them all. Trim your nails. Cover them with clear nail polish to make them appear more attractive. Get a manicure. Wear gloves to bed at night to prevent unconscious bit- ing in your sleep. Purchase a small rubber ball to hold in the palm of your hand to The World Famous Palomino Room 1/2 off Lunch or Dinner entrée with purchase of 1 entrée must present coupon *equal or lesser value Lunch: Tues-Fri 11am-2pm Dinner: Thurs-Sat 4pm-9pm 723 Main St., Red Bluff 527-5470 www.palominoroom.com Dr. Peter Gott squeeze, or place a rubber band around your wrist and snap it when you feel the urge to bite. Suck on sugar-free hard candies that will make it difficult to put a finger in your mouth at the same time. Make an hourly or daily resolution to stop biting — and take it one day at a time. DEAR DR. GOTT: I am making good use of your “No Flour, No Sugar Cook- book” and am wondering if you will be coming out any time soon with another book of additional recipes. I need all the support I can get. DEAR DR. GOTT: How about another cookbook to keep up the series? DEAR READERS: Frankly, another cookbook is not in my immediate plans, but I must admit I have been collecting recipes since my last book went to press, so who knows? In the interim, use my “No Flour, No Sugar Diet” book, which contains many recipes, including Broiled Portobello Mushroom Steaks With Rosemary Red Wine Reduction, and my “No Flour, No Sugar Cook- book” that you are already familiar with. 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