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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Myhusband and I have been married for a few years. It is a second marriage for both of us. He has custody of his chi ldren , w ho ar e in high school. He recently accepted a new job that has him working 60 hours a week. I agreed (willingly) to do everyday chores with the under- standing that the kids pitch in. I do not work outside the home, so I like to help keep things orderly so he can come home at the end of the day to a clean house. The kids are asked to do little (i.e. do their laun- dry, take out the garbage, unload the dishwasher and walk the dog). My husband now tells me he doesn't care if the kids do their jobs and doesn't want me remind- ing them. The kids have no problem with the "gentle" reminders. I always thank them and tell them that their dad will be happy when he gets home. What gives? I cannot let the kids think they have no rules or respon- sibilities. I refuse to do everything. Any advice? —AtMyWit'sEnd DEAR WIT'S END » Your husband does not have full custody of these kids — you both do. He is gone almost every waking hour, so really — you have custody and (for now) he is passing through. Understanding that you are (also) their parent might help clarify this. If you are the "project manager" of your house- hold, then you should make everyday decisions about its functioning. This includes how to divvy up the workload. Fo r ki d s , ha vi ng v it a l functions at home gives them a real stake in the outcome, teaching them important life skills and respect for housework. An analogy your husband might grasp is you coming into his workplace and letting the employees know that their functions aren't important and the boss's directives are suggestions. DEAR AMY» Our son got married Sunday. Our flight got canceled due to a hurricane. The wed- ding was a small barbe- cue at their home, and we asked them if they could postpone it. They said everything was set up already. We said we would cover the cost to resched- ule it. They decided to go ahead without us. Do you think this was right? — Inquiring Minds DEAR INQUIRING » I as- sume your flight cancella- tion was very last minute, giving the couple little time to reschedule a wed- ding that (though small) was something they had carefully planned. I can imagine your disappointment, but try to chalk this up to an unfortunate "act of God" and don't hold it against the couple. Husband thinks wife should do all the household chores (You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook. Amy Dickinson's mem- oir, "The Mighty Queens of Freeville: A Mother, a Daughter and the Town that Raised Them" (Hyperion), is available in bookstores.) Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Leo(July23-Aug.22)— Your goals need a little adjust- ment. Be receptive to new ideas, and make a change if you want to feel better about the direction you are heading in. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Your leadership qualities will help you gain control. You will attract individuals who want to support your plans. Much can be accomplished if you take action. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You can gain greater insight if you include youngsters or seniors in your plans. Opt for a creative outlet. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Don't feel overwhelmed by your long list of chores or re- sponsibilities. Negative thinking will slow you down if you allow it to. Take things one at a time. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You should consider avoiding your regular routine by doing something different. Sharing thoughts with people from different backgrounds will spark new concerns. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Your curiosity and adapt- ability will lead to favorable changes. Head in an intriguing new direction, and you will be applauded for your innovative and inspirational ideas. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — You will be respected for your opinions and insight if you have the courage to speak out. Your clarity and vision will draw attention and lead to improvements. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Take a moment to adjust to whatever challenges you face. A small respite from daunt- ing responsibilities will help recharge your batteries as well as encourage solutions. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Get involved in a cause and interact with interesting people. You will do best with a group striving to make social change. Your contribution will be valued. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Don't get drawn into any argu- ments. Even though things may not work out as planned, accept the changes happening around you. Compromise will eventually lead to victory. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You are on an upward path. If you take advantage of past experience and your natural inquisitiveness, nothing will prevent you from achieving your goals. Embrace the future. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Mull over an investment opportunity, but don't wait until it's too late to act. Be prepared to make whatever commitment is most likely to benefit both you and your family. Horoscope By Eugenia Last THURSDAY, JULY 24 THURSDAY, JULY 24, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B