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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Duetofamily issues stemming from my mother's death, I have severe trust issues with people. I don't like getting close to people because everyone I grew up with has either abused me in one way or another, lied to me about major things (such as the identity of my own father), or broken me down using my mother's death as am- munition. I am currently with a man I care for, but he shares his home with four generations of his immediate family. I find myself very standoffish when it comes to them, and even after a year I am only just starting to warm up to them. I find myself jealous of certain things — things that I imagine are normal family things, such as having to share every- thing. I need help or tips, something to make me "get it" instead of just get- ting annoyed. I grew up basically on my own and if I am to stay with this man (and I do want to), then I need to learn how to be more family-oriented. —FrustratedIntrovert DEAR INTROVERT » You might be less frustrated if you had a little space, privacy and property that you could count on as be- ing yours, alone. I think it is normal, given your background, to feel encroached upon when you are surrounded by four generations of a la rg e fa mi ly . Ask your guy's fam- ily members, "Would you mind if I keep some things in this container that are just for me? It's my quirk from so many years of living alone." I also think it is im- portant for you to have a physical space in the house (perhaps only a rocking chair in your room) that is yours — where you can enjoy the privacy you seem to need. Taking care of yourself will help you to conserve the energy required to in- teract with the rest of the clan. Do so with kindness and respect. If you successfully ad- just to this, your life will be rich. A professional counselor could help. DEAR AMY» I am a busi- nesswoman in my mid- 50s, and I will no longer shake hands with a man. My hand has been brutal- ized for the last time, just yesterday by a man who clinched down on my hand like a vice. I immediately with- drew and told him that in the future he needed to be more aware of just whose hand he is shaking. To grasp my hand so ridiculously hard was just stupid and thoughtless. My hand still hurts today. — Hurting for Certain DEAR HURTING » Men are not the only people to en- gage a vice-grip greeting. People need to be aware of the impact of such a squeeze. Those of us with very small hands and/or arthritis can be injured. Introvert struggles learning to share with boyfriend's family (You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook. Amy Dickinson's mem- oir, "The Mighty Queens of Freeville: A Mother, a Daughter and the Town that Raised Them" (Hyperion), is available in bookstores.) Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Cancer(June21-July22) — Your daily routine will suffer if you are overwhelmed with personal issues. Clear up any outstanding problems before you jeopardize your position. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — An older or younger friend or rela- tive will need help keeping up. Plan outings that make allow- ances for any weaknesses or disabilities that others have. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Be very clear about what you can and cannot offer. Protect your peace of mind and back away from a problem. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Reflect on your current rela- tionships. Take some time to reconsider past situations and the uncertainties you are feel- ing. A change is required. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Socializing with colleagues can be fun, but be careful to avoid gossiping or sharing too much about your personal life. If your comments are repeated, you could be faced with a nega- tive situation. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You will offend some- one if you are flirtatious or too pushy. Avoid joint ventures that involve money or time. Gauge what you are willing to do before making promises. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Don't ignore complaints. Do whatever is necessary to please others and satisfy your own needs. A willingness to adopt a give-and-take attitude will lead to a happier relationship. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Don't be shy when it comes to interacting with new people. Put your best foot forward to attract like-minded folks. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Attend functions that will allow you to network with others in your field. Comparing notes is a good way to keep on top of current developments. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Arguments are probable if you let your emotions spin out of control. You are likely to mistake someone's teasing as a personal affront. Stay calm and keep the peace. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Minor ailments can become serious if you don't take precautions. Don't let matters slide when it comes to your health. Set up a regular routine geared toward health, fitness and good nutrition. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Getting involved in interest- ing community events will allow you to show off your personality and capabilities in a fun setting. Love is in the stars. Horoscope By Eugenia Last SATURDAY, JULY 19 SATURDAY, JULY 19, 2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B