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8A Daily News – Friday, June 24, 2011 FEATURES Unkempt undergrad unmindful of urging Dear Annie: I’m so frustrated right now. Our 22-year-old daughter, ‘‘Olivia,’’ is living at home with my husband, our 17- year-old son and me. A while back, she quit col- lege and moved in with her friends, which turned out to be a financial disaster. Two years ago, Olivia decided to return to school and moved back in with us. She works full time, goes to classes and has managed to pay off her creditors. She is saving money to buy a car. We do not charge rent, but she does pay for her own gas and personal items. The problem? Olivia is a sweet Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar I’m afraid she will quit col- lege and get in financial trouble again. Olivia has one year left of school. Should I put up with this disgusting room until then? — At the End of my Tether in South Dakota Dear S.D.: If you are too worried to throw her out, then yes, you’ll have to put up with the mess until she graduates. Olivia may be slovenly or depressed, and her schedule may be so busy girl, but she is really letting herself go. She has gained a considerable amount of weight and doesn’t seem to care about her appearance. How- ever, what is really tipping me over is her room. It is an absolute mess — clothes all over the floor, the bed and stuffed in the closet, and dirty dishes, garbage and makeup strewn about. I can’t even walk through the room. Every time I look in there, it just makes me sick and angry. I don’t do her laundry, but can’t recall her doing it, either, so she must be wearing dirty clothes. Her father and I have begged and threatened, but nothing gets her to clean up. All she says is ‘‘I’ll get to it’’ or ‘‘I’m too busy.’’ But when she’s not at work or at school, she’s sleeping, watching TV or visiting her boyfriend. I’m ready to kick her out, but that she needs more downtime than most. If you think she may be depressed, please suggest she visit the college counseling department. Whatever the reason, you are not obligated to go into Olivia’s room if it is too stressful for you. Close the door. Dear Annie: My sister-in-law, ‘‘Maureen,’’ has two different sides to her personality. A month ago, we were invited to my brother’s house for dinner. My teenage daughter took a piece of bacon that was dry- ing on a rack. Maureen yelled at her and then hit her on the back with the flat of her hand. I said nothing, but was hurt and angry. Maureen will snap for no appar- ent reason at some innocuous remark. She has been doing this off and on for years. I have overlooked her behavior for a long time, but the incident with my daughter was the last straw. I believe she needs some kind of help, but she would never admit it. How do I deal with this situation? — Totally Fed Up Dear Totally: We’re astounded that you said nothing when Mau- reen hit your child. That would have been the moment to speak up, tell her she was out of line and then leave. You cannot force Maureen to deal with her mood swings, but there is no reason for you to put up with such abuse. Dear Annie: I laughed when I read the letter from ‘‘Neglected,’’ who complained about her hus- band’s lack of gift giving. Here’s how my friend ‘‘Nadine’’ handled a similar situation: Nadine kept dropping hints to her hubby that she wanted some new dishes for their 25th anniver- sary. When nothing was forthcom- ing, she ‘‘borrowed’’ his credit card and ordered the reasonably priced set she wanted. When it arrived, she unpacked it, called a few friends to come over and waited for her husband to come home. When he arrived, she made such a tearful, effusive appreciation speech (with many kisses thrown in) that he was speechless. He never forgot again. — LOL at the Memory Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. COURT ROUND-UP The following defen- dants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney’s Office: —————— Recent State Prison Commitments • Alexander Love Acosta was sentenced to two years in state prison for failure to appear while on bail. Acosta was originally granted formal proba- tion. He violated his pro- bation when he tested positive for alcohol. • Miguel Morales was sentenced to 16 months in state prison for pos- session of marijuana for sale. A deputy conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by Morales. After obtaining consent to search, the deputy called in another officer with a canine to search the vehicle and located sev- eral bags of packaged marijuana. Recent County Jail Commitments • Joseph Roy Kigar was sentenced to 365 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of a controlled substance. Kigar was originally granted formal proba- tion. He violated his pro- bation when he failed to report to probation upon release from custody. Kigar also failed to reen- roll in a court ordered drug treatment program. Upcoming Court Dates -Trials, Prelimi- nary Hearings(PX) & Pre Trial Confer- ences(PTC) • Earl Ray Hughes will appear in court at 8 a.m. on July 6 in Depart- ment 3. He is facing the charges of vehicular manslaughter without gross negligence, DUI causing injury with spe- cial allegation-bodily injury to more than one victim, special allega- tion-great bodily injury,- driving with a 0.08 per- cent Blood Alcohol causing injury with spe- cial allegation-bodily injury to more than one victim, special allega- tion-great bodily injury, possession of an assault weapon, unlicensed dri- ver. Officers responded to the scene of a single vehicle accident. Upon investigating the inci- dent officers determined Hughes had been driving while intoxicated when he lost control of his vehicle and hit a tree. There were two passen- gers in the vehicle at the time. One of the passen- gers received serious injuries while the other passenger was pro- nounced dead at the scene. • Franklin William Johnson will appear in court at 1:15 p.m. on June 27 in Department 2 for a pre-trial conference and 9 a.m. on Aug. 11 for a trial by jury. He is facing the charges of assault by means likely to produce great bodily injury, battery with seri- ous bodily injury, special allegation-great bodily injury, two counts. Officers were dis- patched to an alley regarding a physical dis- turbance. Upon arrival officers contacted the parties involved and were advised Johnson and victim had gotten into an argument. Victim left on foot and Johnson followed in his truck. Victim grabbed an object in an attempt to defend himself when Johnson attacked him. Victim was transported to the hospital with a broken neck. • William Holt Baymiller will appear in court at 1:30 p.m. on Aug. 1 in Department 1 for a pre-trial conference and 9 a.m. on Aug. 17 for a trial by jury regard- ing sanity. He is facing the charges of second degree murder. The Tehama County Sheriff’s Office received a 911 call from a man who said that Baymiller showed up at his house and claimed he just shot and killed his dad. Baymiller showed the man his California Dri- ver’s License. Deputies arrived and located Baymiller at his father’s home armed with a shot- gun. The Sheriff’s office took Baymiller into cus- tody after a brief stand- off. Upon entering the residence, TCSD located the victim with a fatal gunshot wound to the chest. Baymiller claimed that he was going to be killed by "Muslims" and he "believed" that his dad was in on it. • Chrissy Ann Dunn will appear in court for further sentencing at 8 a.m. on Sept. 13 in Department 3. She is facing the charges of lewd act upon a child, oral copulation of a per- son under 16. Officers received a report that Dunn was having sexual relations with a minor. An inves- tigation into the incident was conducted in which officers determined that on numerous occasions Dunn had sexual encounters with the 14- year-old victim. Pacemaker recipient uninformed by doc DEAR DR. GOTT: Please talk about pacemakers. I recently had to get one and would like to know as much about them as possible. DEAR READ- ER: Shame on your surgeon for not answering all your questions and putting your fears to rest before the surgery was ever performed! While I don’t know your medical history, age, medications and a host of other essen- tial information, I will do my best to fill in the blanks. Dr. Peter Gott If questions continued, an echocardiogram, electrophysiolo- gy study or stress test might have followed. Your pacemak- er will work to help maintain a normal heartbeat. At one stage in my career, pacers A pacemaker is an electrical unit about the size of a pocket watch placed in the chest or abdomen to help the heart beat normally. It is used to treat arrhythmias — fast, slow or otherwise irregular beats. Without your pacemaker, when arrhythmias occurred, the heart may have been unable to pump sufficient blood throughout the body, causing symptoms of shortness of breath, fatigue and fainting. Pacemakers are either temporary or permanent. Your surgeon may have inserted a temporary one because of a heart attack or inadvertent medication overdose. Once the con- dition resolves, the tem- porary pacer may be removed. If it fails to resolve problems, a per- manent pacer may be appropriate. Permanent pacemakers control long- term problems with heart rhythms. The most com- mon reasons for a perma- nent pacer are heart block or bradycardia. Heart block occurs because of a heart attack, aging, or some medical disorders. Bradycardia is a slow heartbeat, sometimes detected as a normal finding in athletes. This condition can even result if you are on a beta- blocker medication. You likely had an EKG, Holter or event monitor that made your doctor refer you to a sur- geon for follow-up. An EKG detects the electri- cal activity of the heart. A Holter monitor essen- tially performs the same service, but for a 24- to 48-hour period. You would wear one much as a doctor would wear a beeper on a belt. A simi- lar device, known as an event monitor, would have been worn until you experienced symptoms and pushed a button on the unit so it would record the “event.” The unit might have been worn for a month or two until symptoms occurred. were good for about a year, and the patient had to return to the hospital for a battery change. Now, however, pacemak- ers typically last more than five years. You were likely given instructions on what you could and couldn’t do following surgery, such as avoiding vigorous activity and lifting for a few months. You also should have been told to avoid prolonged contact with cell phones (if you have an older-generation pacemaker), metal detec- tors, anti-theft systems and devices with strong magnetic fields that could disrupt your pace- maker’s electrical signal- ing. This is not to indi- cate you should not use a cell phone, but you should not place it in a pocket over your pace- maker, and you might talk on it using the ear that is farthest away from the incision site. All doc- tors you visit should be aware you have an implantable pacemaker. You will not be able to have an MRI performed, use a TENS unit, electro- cautery to stop bleeding during surgery, or shock wave lithotripsy for kid- ney stones. However, you will ultimately be able to return to most activity except for full-contact sports. Readers who would like related information can send for my Health Reports “An Informed Approach to Surgery” and “Coronary Artery Disease” by sending a self-addressed, stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 U.S. check or money order made payable to Dr. Peter Gott, P.O. Box 433, Lakeville, CT 06039-0433. Be sure to mention the title when writing, or print an order form from my website’s direct link: www.AskDr- GottMD.com/order_form .pdf. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com. COMPLETE AUTO REPAIR All makes and models. We perform dealer recommened 30K, 60K, 90K SERVICES AT LOWER PRICES Smog Check starting at $ (most cars and pick-ups) 2595 + cert. Pass or FREE retest 527-9841 • 195 S. Main St. WATERSHED EVENT Sat., June 25th Deer Creek Watershed Conservancy 2011 ANNUAL AT THE ABBEY OF NEW CLAIRVAUX 7TH STREET – VINA, CA • Local Beer and Wine • Mexican Food • DCWC’s Accomplishments and Goals for the Upcoming Year $15.00 PER PERSON CASUAL ATTIRE Please contact Holly or Amber at (530) 839-2105 email: deercreekwatershed@gmail.com • 2:00PM The The law firm of McGlynn and McGlynn is pleased to announce that Laura Clark will be joining the firm on July 1, 2011. Laura brings experience in the areas of family law, civil litigation and criminal defense. She is a graduate of Boalt Hall at the University of California Berkeley and will continue the firm’s tradition of aggressive and effective representation of our clients.