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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Ihavenever had reason to be concern- ed about my husband's fidelity, but a single event has got me worried. Last week I sat next to him, grabbed his cellphone and punched in the pass- word (I have seen him enter it). He looked over, saw what I was doing, and literally batted the phone out of my hand. He then admon- ished me for "snooping." When I questioned his reaction, he was ada- mant that he was merely protecting his privacy and that he was not hiding anything. I can't help but feel suspicious because of this uncharacteristic behavior. Am I just being a worrywart? —WorriedWife DEAR WORRIED » Based on the evidence you present to justify your behav- ior (none), I think your husband has more reason to question your fidelity than you have his. After all, if you witnes- sed him grabbing your cellphone and punch- ing in the security code, wouldn't you question his motives and actions? My point is that you created the justification for snooping (your hus- band's "uncharacteristic" reaction) — by snooping! Going through some- one else's cellphone is like opening someone else's mail. If the envelope has someone else's name on it, you shouldn't open it. Even people who have nothing to hide have a right to privacy. What is your real justi- fication for doing this? DEAR AMY» I've been married for several years. I am Type A but try to keep my aggression under wraps. My husband is also Type A and has no problem speaking his mind. I prefer to avoid con- flict, and it seems he is always looking for a good fight. He has his opinions and viewpoints. However, if someone doesn't see his point of view, he flies off the handle. I try to re- mind him that the world would be an extremely boring place if everyone thought the same way. To avoid arguments or getting yelled at and then getting the silent treat- ment, I sometimes just nod my head in agree - ment to whatever he says. Then he gets mad because he says I just agree with him in order to avoid a fight, which is true. What should I do? — Tired DEAR TIRED » In a healthy relationship, there should not be winners and losers. The dynamic between you is a trap for both of you. He wants to be engaged, believed and persuasive. You see spirited argu- ments as "fighting." You can change this dynamic but need mutual commitment and (prefer- ably) professional help. A therapist can mediate and teach you different ways to behave. Aggression and avoidance are not a healthy combination. Fidelity questioned when wife unlocks husband's cellphone (You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook. 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Don't be too quick to make changes prematurely. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Do whatever it takes to improve your standing, but don't try to buy support. Extravagance will end up costing you more than you can afford. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — A choice between money and satisfaction will need to be made. Question your motives and just what it is you want out of life. It's time to re-evaluate matters and make adjustments to suit your needs. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You will be emotional today. Try not to let your feel- ings overflow into the work- place. Professionalism will count when it comes to future advancement. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Keep a close eye on your wal- let, assets and personal papers. Your bank account could be compromised if your financial information becomes vulnerable. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Family members will be extremely hard to please today. Get out with colleagues or friends if it will help you avoid a domestic situation that you aren't prepared to deal with. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Avoid emotional blackmail. Your peers will lose interest if you insist on having everything your way. Honesty, integrity and compromise will be necessary. Aries (March 21-April 19) — A holiday to a resort, hotel or spa will help keep your mind off your troubles. Making arrange- ments with someone special will be half the fun. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Spruce up your living space without being extravagant. Ap- plying a coat of paint or moving furniture around to suit your current interests and lifestyle will make a difference in your attitude. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Treat a business or personal partner respectfully. Think be- fore you say or do something that has the potential to hurt someone's feelings. Listen to what people say, and show pa- tience and understanding. 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