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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARAMY»Irecently found a photo of my wife posing with an old boy- friend. She was 19 years old and very beautiful. Though we have been together for 30 years and the photo was taken before she even met me, this picture has made me jealous for over a week. Why is this? I can't get this picture out of my head. Is it because as a man I can't stand to see my wife with another man, or that I see her with him looking so beautiful? Any suggestions for how I can shake this feeling? —JealousHusband DEAR JEALOUS » Your reaction to seeing this photo is both common and complex — that's why you find it so confusing. As we age, many of us find it difficult to look at younger versions of ourselves or our partners — for the sole reason that they possess the dew of youth that is now a mere memory. Jealousy thrives on secrecy and rumination. Take your feelings out for a spin and share them with your wife. Be com- pletely candid with her, using "I" statements: "When I see this picture I feel jealous, but I don't really know why." Do not put her on the defensive. This episode could spark a new, deeper and intimate understanding that you are in fact grow- ing old together. DEAR AMY» A group of six co-workers decided to have lunch at a popular restaurant. "Betty" said she would arrive early to secure a table. She arrived early, secured a table and waved us all over to join her in the bar area at one of the high-top tables. Wel l, o ne pr oble m: Due to the fact that I have MS, I am in a wheelchair. I was dumbfounded by this. When I questioned her choice, her response was, "I never thought about your being in a wheelchair." By now, the restaurant had a long waiting list for lunch, and arranging seating for six people at a regular table wasn't going to happen. I didn't wish to create a scene and explained I had another appointment to go to (total lie) but just wanted to tell the group hello. I was beyond hurt and haven't spoken to Betty since. What would you have said or done? — Upset DEAR UPSET » I would hope to respond as grace- fully as you did in this situation. It is hard to imagine being so thoughtless. Your colleague "Betty" owes you more than an "oops, my bad" sort of explanation. She should have sought you out after and genuinely apologized. Rather than simply not speak to her, you should say, "I want you to know that I found that pretty upsetting." After this bit of honesty, do your best to turn the page. Old photo of wife with her ex-boyfriend creates jealousy (You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribune.com. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook. Amy Dickinson's mem- oir, "The Mighty Queens of Freeville: A Mother, a Daughter and the Town that Raised Them" (Hyperion), is available in bookstores.) Amy Dickinson Ask Amy Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Cancer(June21-July22)— Consider turning a skill or hobby into a small sideline business. Using your energy construc- tively will help you gain financial stability and greater security. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Trying to lift your spirits by going on a shopping spree will have the opposite effect if you end up stressing over the money you spend. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — You can't make the correct decision without getting facts straight. Rather than relying on someone else, do your own re- search until you feel confident. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Young and old alike can provide insight. Spend time with rela- tives or friends, and absorb all the knowledge you can. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Avoid large gatherings today. This is a great time to tackle some work that is weighing heavily on your mind. Focusing inward will bring good results. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You can enhance your lifestyle if you take note of how others live and investigate new ways to cut corners. Your charisma will catch the eye of someone who has something to offer you. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Re-evaluate your financial position, and you'll find a way to supplement your savings. Staying ahead of the rising cost of living will require strategy, patience and discipline. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Tame your temper. It's es- sential to keep the lines of com- munication open if you want to avoid verbal clashes, but you must do so with diplomacy. Of- fer solutions and hands-on help. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Once others are aware of what you have to offer, profes- sional advancement will follow. It's in your best interest to pro- mote your skills, knowledge and talents to as many influential people as possible. Aries (March 21-April 19) — You will garner acclaim for your leadership skills. Become involved in your community by helping a cause that you feel passionate about. You can make a difference. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Don't be tempted to exaggerate. Others will lose confidence in you if you are misleading. Stick to what you know and do best, and don't make promises you cannot keep. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You will act as the catalyst for any activity that you choose to participate in. Your enthusiasm and sense of humor will rally friends and family alike. Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol TUESDAY, JULY 1 TUESDAY,JULY1,2014 REDBLUFFDAILYNEWS.COM |YOURDAILYBREAK | 5 B