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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARCAROLYN»Two years ago my adult daughter was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. She is very optimistic and has taken part in fundraisers because she feels she owes it to those who came before her who did the same. We formed a team for our local MS Walk last year and invited our co-workers and mem- bers from my very large family to donate or walk or both. Unfortunately, my enthusiasm for the walk turned to hurt when her aunts and others we thought were close did nothing. My daughter is the type who donates and volunteers for everything. For months I could barely talk to my sisters and some co-workers because I was so hurt. I shared my hurt with a co- worker and she said she would donate, but never did. I didn't care about the money; I wanted her there. Another walk is com- ing and I'm not sure how to proceed — swallow my pride and share my hurt, or just embrace the ones who show up? —ToPoutorNotto Pout? DEAR POUT » Your signa- ture is your answer. When has the answer to that (or any) question ever been "to pout"? Besides — the first law of rallying people to your cause is to learn to embrace the No. You care, deeply, about issues that affect you, and it's a good thing you do. Now extend that to other people: They care, deeply, about issues that affect them, and it's a good thing they do. This is how things get done. When you choose to rally others to your issue, never forget that each person you approach has his or her deeply felt causes. Some of these people will have room on their issue slate to add yours to it, and for these people you thank the moon and stars. Some, though, will not have room on their slates — and for these people you don't hurt, or pass around blame, or curse cosmic failures to be ... how did you put it ... "the type who donates and vol- unteers for everything." No, for these people, you also thank the moon and stars. Their focus on their own priorities keeps a part of the world turning, even if it doesn't happen to be yours this time around. Trust that and be grateful for it. So the path with the most reliabl e rewa rds is to choose gratitude. When you feel powerless against a harmful force, it's natural to try to make the world compensate you with something good. But that's just as fruitless as telling MS to buzz off. Consciously stop look- ing for absences on your donor lists, and celebrate those who appear. When others bring their causes to you, keep choosing gratitude by giv- ing what and when you're able. Show love in your way, and trust others to do so in theirs. Not everyone will be ready to help champion your cause Carolyn Hax Ask Carolyn Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Cancer(June21-July22) — Don't behave emotionally or overreact if you want to avoid discord. Feelings will be hurt if you don't think before you act. Be mindful of others. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Take an opportunity to go through your personal papers yet again. The documents you thought were missing will come to light. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Don't ever be afraid to ask for help. 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