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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARCAROLYN»I'm31 and I have wanted a nose job since I was a little girl. My boyfriend of 10 years is against it and said I will look like a different person and regret it. If it wasn't for him, I would get it done. I now worry that if I'm not happy with the outcome he won't support me. How do I let him know that I'm me regardless of my nose and that his job is to support me? —NoseJob? DEAR NOSE JOB » You don't. It's not your place to shape his opinion to your liking or tell him what his "job" is, any more than it is his place to tell you what you will and won't regret. You can want support, but you can't make him give it. And he doesn't get to say what you'll regret. You can only decide which is more important, his support or your nose, and proceed accordingly. He can only express his concern about the possible result of the surgery, or worry that he won't like your post-op face as much as he likes the pre-. Meaning, both of you need to stay on your sides of the line. You get to de- cide what you do with your face, how you feel about it and how you feel about your boyfriend. He gets to decide how he feels about your appearance and how he feels about you. Both of you do get to air concerns about the after vs. the before, you do both have to live with any conse- quences, but the priorities behind each choice are for each of you to determine. DEAR CAROLYN » My hus- band of a year and a half has yet to tell one of his fe- male friends he is married. She lives in a different state and they once had a fling in undergrad. She texts him constantly at all hours of the night asking for relationship advice or whatever else. I've asked him why he hasn't told her and he says it would change their dynamic. Is this something I need to be concerned about? — What Would It Hurt to Tell? DEAR WHAT WOULD IT HURT » Apparently your very own Ward Cleaver hasn't figured out that hiding his marriage from an ex who is in constant contact with him is likely to "change" the far more consequential "dynamic" he has with his "spouse." It is, right? You have put up with this for 18 months, so I don't want to make assumptions and impose my values on you. If I'm the only one mak- ing forehead-to-keyboard contact here, then my advice should probably just be "Mazel tov." DEAR CAROLYN » Re: Texting Hubby: Hasn't the texting hubby any idea that marriage is SUP- POSED to change the dy- namic of his other relation- ships? Especially with his ex-girlfriends? What does he think marriage means exactly, if not a change in relationship dynamics? — Anonymous DEAR ANONYMOUS » Your mind is as boggled as mine. Woman wants a nose job but boyfriend likes her face as is Carolyn Hax Ask Carolyn Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. Sudoku Instructions:Theobjectistoplacethe numbers1to9intheemptysquaresso thateachrow,eachcolumnandeach 3x3boxcontainsthenumberonlyonce. AnswertoPreviousPuzzle CelebrityCipher ByLuisCampos Instructions:CelebrityCiphercryptogramsarecreatedfromquotationsbyfamouspeople, pastandpresent.Eachletterinthecipherstandsforanother. NEACrossword Gemini(May21-June20)— You will not get a lot of coop- eration today. Be prepared to do as much as you can on your own, without worrying about what others are up to. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — You will get along well with oth- ers today. Share your hopes and dreams to elicit some interest- ing suggestions. This would be an ideal time for a getaway. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Financial aid will appear from an unexpected source. An intrigu- ing offer will lay the groundwork for a change. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Resist the inclination to give up. Don't let stubbornness lead to a missed opportunity. You will discover that things aren't as difficult as you thought. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Don't get flustered by the changes taking place lately. Things will calm down in good time. Ride out the storm and show maturity and leadership. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — You will be rewarded for your hard work. Your skills and common sense are valuable qualities, so make sure you are available to attend as many ca- reer functions or get-togethers as possible. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Family members are rely- ing on you to help out around the home. Don't complain or try to rationalize your behavior. Do your share and avoid criticism and bad feelings. Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Get in touch with someone you haven't seen in a long time. Whether it's an old business acquaintance or friend, re-es- tablishing the connection will be eye-opening. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — If your routine has become too predictable, try doing some- thing new. Consider learning a new skill or language, or look for valuable information that could spark an interesting endeavor. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Bring your feelings out into the open. Let those close to you know what is distressing you. The longer you postpone discussing what's bothering you, the more difficult it will be to resolve issues. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Don't reveal a piece of informa- tion that was given to you in confidence. It's time to update your filing system. Sort through all of your documents. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Do your best to be a successful advocate for a worthy cause. Your compassion, coupled with your knowledge and skill, will help you achieve positive reforms. 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