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Saturday, May 28, 2011 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Trollop tempted to trifle with tryst Dear Annie: A few years ago, I had a one-night stand with my married boss while attending a work- related seminar in another town. On the third evening, we had dinner and drinks, and one thing led to another. We had always been attract- ed to each other, and co- workers noticed all the flirt- ing. Annie’s Mailbox We resumed our work relationship, although we stopped having occasional lunches together like we used to. He told me once that what we did was wrong, and it took him a long time to get past the guilt. Apparently, his wife always suspected that we were more than co-workers. My boss retired two years ago, by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar neutral person to tell me it’s OK to get in touch with my former boss. What’s the harm in an innocent lunch date between two good friends? — Hesitant Dear Hesitant: Who are you trying to kid? This isn’t ‘‘innocent.’’ You slept with this man. You are still attracted to him. You would be concealing the lunch from his wife. And you want to make your husband jealous. It is obvious that you are looking to rekindle your romance. It’s not OK. Leave the guy alone already. but I can’t seem to stop missing him, thinking about him and wondering what’s happening in his life. I’d like to get in touch with him again, just as a friend, and ask if he’s free for lunch. I know he would not be able to tell his wife about it, but I’m not out to make trouble in his marriage. I haven’t seen my boss since he retired, and I don’t see why having lunch would be wrong. We could catch up on office news. That one- night fling just happened. He appar- ently regrets it. I don’t. My husband never asks questions about the seminars I attend, the peo- ple I work with or whether I am attracted to other men. I sometimes wish he were more jealous. I need a Dear Annie: My father-in-law is marrying a wonderful woman on July 4th weekend. I am very happy for him. However, my family has been planning a huge family reunion that same weekend. We asked my father-in-law specifically not to plan the wedding at the same time, but they went ahead and did it anyway. My wife wants me to at least attend the wedding ceremony, but I don’t feel right leaving after Mass. However, a lot of my family mem- bers will be in town for the reunion, and I’d like to spend time with them. Now what? — Spread Thin in Texas Dear Texas: Your father-in-law knew you had other commitments when he scheduled his wedding. Your wife is right. Attend the cere- mony, hang around long enough to congratulate the bride and groom, and then go to your reunion. Your As motorists plan to get away this upcoming Memorial Day weekend, the California Highway Patrol (CHP) is reminding those headed out on road trips to buckle up, don’t drink and drive, keep your vehicle at a safe and legal speed and eliminate distrac- tions. “As the public heads out to enjoy quality time with their family and friends this holiday weekend, we want them to have fun and be safe,” said the Red Bluff Area CHP Commander Lt. Todd Garr. “When you get in the car, make the choice to buckle up and ensure your pas- sengers are secured as well.” Holiday travelers will find themselves in good com- pany: Memorial Day weekend is a Maximum Enforce- ment Period for the CHP. To help keep things safe on the roadways throughout the holiday, CHP Area offices will deploy every available officer through 11:59 p.m. Monday, May 30. Memorial Day weekend 2010 saw a significant decrease in the number of people killed in collisions on the state’s roadways. According to CHP statistics, The 9th Annual Country Faire and Threshing Bee at the Patrick Ranch Museum, 10381 Midway, in Durham, is for the entire family. Participants are trans- ported back a century in time to the wheat har- vests of the late 19th and early 20th centuries. Years ago many men and women moved from farm to farm to harvest each farmer’s wheat. One will see friends and neighbors harvesting the Patrick Ranch Museum's wheat field. Visitors are treated to the sights and sounds of antique binders, thresh- ing machines, trucks and tractors. See the magnif- icent working draft hors- es which overwhelm ones senses. You see their enormous size, strength and capabili- ties. The Threshing Bee experience is enhanced by vintage bee exhibits, working award winning stock dogs, period craft booths, representative museum booths, a coun- ty art show by the Plein Air Artists. The event will include two days of the best live music from Butte County. Visit the Patrick Ranch Museum historic store. Of special interest will be an expanded tour, at no extra charge, of the first floor of the historic 1877 Glenwood farm- house. A tremendous empha- sis is put on period games for children. The entire shaded backyard of the grand two story farmhouse is teeming with children, parents and grandparents as the kids participate in a multitude of free activi- ties. Children are fishing at the 70-year-old foun- tain, making wheat dolls, hand pumping water, painting fences, creating walnut shell boats, riding pedal trac- tors, playing in the sand- box, having their faces painted, hand washing flour sack towels and hanging them on a clothes line, making but- ter, grinding corn and acorns with mortars and pestles and much more. You are provided an opportunity to step back in time and revisit histo- ry. A tram will weave wife can remain at her father’s wed- ding as long as she chooses and join you later. Dear Annie: I read the letter from ‘‘Driving for Two,’’ whose husband refuses to drive. There may be another reason besides a phobia. When my teenage son was 16, we enrolled him in a driver’s education program, which he completed. He then told us he did not want to get his license. He felt it was too expen- sive to be added to our insurance, not to mention the cost of gas. He also said he didn’t feel confident in his ability to drive safely and that his friends would expect rides and dis- tract him. Since we’re near good public transportation, he asked instead for a monthly bus pass. When he doesn’t take the bus, he walks, bikes or gets rides from friends and family. ‘‘Driving’s’’ husband may be too embarrassed to say he’s not a good driver. It might help her to weigh that against the ramifications of a serious car accident. — Wish My Husband Would Stop Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Memorial Day weekend driving safety there was a 62 percent reduction from the previous year. During last year’s holiday weekend, 17 people were killed in a crash in California. Among those that died, 12 were vehicle occupants within CHP jurisdiction. Sadly, one-third of those individuals were not wearing a seat belt at the time of the crash. “Law enforcement would rather motorists buckle up and be safe, than have to issue a citation,” Garr said. “Don’t put your life or the lives of your passengers at risk. Insist on seat belts for everybody.” The CHP’s holiday enforcement effort coincides with the 2011 “Click It or Ticket” seat belt campaign, which continues nationwide through June 5. “While it’s encouraging that Tehama County’s current seat belt usage rate is among the highest in the state, we want everybody to know that our goal is 100 percent compliance,” Garr said. “Anything less means there are still members of the driving public at greater risk of being injured or killed in traffic colli- sions.” 9th Annual Country Faire and Threshing Bee through the Threshing Bee venues on the hour and half hour to facilitate Senior Citizen participa- tion. An outstanding food court is situated on the farmhouse's expan- sive south lawn offering delicious and wholesome entrees, specialty coffees and cold drinks. All this to the accompaniment of live music and good company. An activity unique to the Threshing Bee is the opportunity to watch the wheat move from the wheat field to the table in a manner of minutes. Participants watch as the wheat is cut and bound into sheaves, removed from the stalk in the thresher and ground into wheat flour. Participants mix the wheat biscuit batter, spoon it onto a cast iron skillet, bake the biscuits on the spot in adobe ovens and then eat the fruits of their labor topped with their choice of butter and honey. The event runs from 9 a.m.-4 p.m. on Saturday, June 11 and Sunday, June 12. Admission is $7 per adult, children 12 and under accompanied by an adult are admitted at no charge. Trolley rides to and from the Country Faire are pro- vided free of charge. The trolleys leave the Chico Municipal Bus Terminal on the corner of Second and Salem on the hour with return trips from the Patrick Ranch Museum return- ing on the half hour. The Patrick Ranch Museum's Annual Coun- try Faire and Threshing Bee is an event of the Far West Heritage Asso- ciation and presented in conjunction with the Vintage Iron Early Day Gas Engine & Tractor Association, the Golden State Draft Horse and Mule Club and an addi- tional 300 plus volun- teers. Sat. June 4th Bob’s Tire Games 10:00am at Bob’s Tires in Red Bluff Strong Man Competition(All Tire Events) VALLEY OAK RACQUET CLUB Summer Clinic All Levels & Ages with Vern Leslie Private or Group Lessons Tennis 933-3668 Swim Lessons with Karen 200-0013 Men’s weight classes 200 lbs and under 200.5 lbs and over Ask about May Strong Man Events • Tire Flip for time • Arm over arm pull for time • Axle dead lift for reps-350 lbs for light- 450 lbs for heavy • (5 Progressive Tires) Throw over height for time membership specials Other Events • Ladies Flip for time - one weight class • Kids 10 and under Flip for time • Kids 11-15 Flip for Time Attempt to flip a 1000lb tire for $100! For more info contact Troy at 528-8656 Compete, support, and enjoy this celebration of strength! 2498 South Main St., Red Bluff 528-8656 www.tehamafamilyfitness.com Tehama Family Fitness Center Presents Coleus Class Saturday, May 28th @10am Have fun in the shade with Cool Coleus Red Bluff Garden Center 766 Antelope Blvd. (next to the fairgrounds) 527-0886 Carsickness linked to poor vision DEAR DR. GOTT: Some time ago, you printed a letter about a tod- dler who got car- sick. Our son would get carsick starting in infancy until he was 5 years old, even on a local trip within a few miles. At age 5, it was discov- ered he had vision prob- lems. When he began wearing his glasses, the issues ceased. I suggest the parents make an appointment with an oph- thalmologist. It can’t hurt. DEAR READER: I continue to receive letters regarding carsickness and its various treatments. Remedies included ginger, acupressure, Sea-Bands, eating carbs prior to the car ride, having the car cool or wind blowing on the face, putting on quiet music and refraining from talking, looking at the horizon and not out the side windows and more. I am printing your letter because poor vision could certainly be a cause of motion sickness. If a child — or an adult, for that matter — isn’t seeing clearly, objects may become blurred, causing the brain to believe that the movement is faster than it is. Testing the vision is a simple, painless process. If there is a problem, correct- ing it may help the motion sickness and also improve other related issues, such as headaches that result from straining the eyes to see clearly. Dr. Peter Gott medications are you taking? I am assuming that you’re on an anti- coagulant to help prevent the clot from traveling or worsening, or oth- ers from forming; an antibiotic to combat the staph infection; and likely, a pain med- ication, either over-the- counter or prescription. Do you have any other health conditions? Are you male or female? What is your age and general health status? Without knowing the answer to these questions, giving you advice regard- ing a blood clot in your leg is difficult. For example, do the doctors believe the clot formed as a result of your knee replacement or was it there before your surgery? Do you have a family history of clotting disorders? You should likely be on a thombolytic medication, which will help dissolve the clot, and an anticoagu- lant to prevent new ones from forming. But if you have a family history of clotting disorders, it may be beneficial for you to continue with the later medication for life; how- ever, if the clot is from your knee-replacement surgery, you may be able to discontinue it safely a minimum of three months after the clot has dis- solved. The staph bacteria were Readers who are inter- ested in learning more about home remedies can order my Health Reports “Dr. Gott’s Compelling Home Remedies” and “More Compelling Home Remedies” by sending a self-addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order per report to Dr. Peter Gott, P.O. Box 433, Lakeville, CT 06039. Be sure to mention the title(s) or print an order form off my web- site’s direct link at www.AskDrGottMD.com /order_form.pdf. DEAR DR. GOTT: I enjoy reading your col- umn. I have a question for you. I had a total knee replacement in December 2010. I developed a staph infection in my knee, and the surgeon also found a blood clot in the calf of my leg. I have heard different remarks about the clot and how long it will affect me. I am still having pain in my calf, and it does not ease up. How long will the blood clot cause me pain in my leg? I have a hard time doing my therapy because of it. DEAR READER: Based on your brief note, I have more questions than I do answers. First, what likely introduced into the body at the surgical site. Staph is fairly common and treatable, but it may slow the healing process. A culture of the site should reveal which antibiotic will best eliminate the infection. As for the pain, I cannot give you a clear answer. The clot may not be the only cause. You have had several complications from your knee replace- ment, which itself can cause pain post operative- ly for a time. I suggest that you make an appointment with your primary-care physician to discuss the situation and to express your concerns. You can even ask that he or she call your orthopedic surgeon so they can work together to help you recover quick- ly and safely. Readers who are inter- ested in learning related information can order my Health Report “An Informed Approach to Surgery” by sending a self-addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order to Dr. Peter Gott, P.O. Box 433, Lakeville, CT 06039. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDrGottMD.com /order_form.pdf.