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DILBERT ScottAdams PEARLSBEFORESWINE StephanPastis PICKLES BrianCrane BABYBLUES JerryScott&RickKirkman GETFUZZY DarbyConley ZITS JerryScott&JimBorgman SHERMAN'SLAGOON JimToomey ARGYLESWEATER ScottHilburn BIZARRO DanPiraro DEARCAROLYN»Myex- tended family is coming for a long weekend. I haven't seen them in a while and I'm looking forward to see- ing them all. My dad is a picky eater in ways I don't really understand. Last time he was here, he complained about the farmer's market eggs that I bought ("the yolks are too yel- low"), the homemade cheesecake ("let's go get fast-food soft-serve instead"), and he wouldn't eat the pancakes I made because the only syrup I have is maple. He has always been picky, but I don't really remember what he likes; I haven't lived with him in 12 years. I like cooking, so it hurts my feelings when he turns up his nose at what I make. It's not like I'm trying to force-feed him liver and kale. I can't afford to take everyone out for every meal. Other than handing my dad a map of fast-food locations, how can I deal with him for the next four days? —PickyEater'sChild DEAR PICKY EATER'S CHILD » You do know what he likes: junk, and what- ever else you don't have. Please see it as a con- trol issue and let it slide. I'm not suggesting he's the classic control/ emotional abuse/I-must- manipulate-others case, but instead someone on the less extreme end of the insecurity spectrum: someone very uncomfort- able so far off his turf. And so he fixes on anything new to him, and complains about it to shift the blame for his unease somewhere else. If it helps, think of the people you'd expect to complain about too-yellow eggs and desserts that aren't bland and predict- able enough: little kids. They're unnerved by a world that feels too big for them to manage, and want both the comfort of the familiar and the relief of making their fear someone else's problem. So, in addition to not taking things personally, ask your dad beforehand for his preferred cereal, brand and flavor of ice cream, and some other standby foods you can offer when your pumpkin pie is way too orange and antioxidant-rich for his tastes. DEAR CAROLYN » Re: Picky Dad: My dad couldn't tell you what he likes, he eats what my mom puts in front of him. You may be better off asking your mom. — Anonymous DEAR ANONYMOUS » Ask- ing this to the wind: Will this archetype endure as long as humanity does? DEAR CAROLYN » Re: Archetype: It will go on as long as there are husbands who stand in front of the fridge and call their wives to ask if the milk is still good. While looking at the milk. And the wife is out of the house. True story. — The Wind DEAR THE WIND » Of course it is. 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