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Thursday, May 5, 2011 – Daily News – 5A FEATURES Hubby’s hobby hewing home’s harmony Dear Annie: My husband of two years is constantly playing a computer game. When ‘‘Jon’’ comes home from work, he eats dinner and then sits in his recliner with his computer until he falls asleep. He’ll then get up in the middle of the night to sleep in the guest room. I’m eight weeks preg- nant, and he says he does- n’t want to wake me, but he’s been doing this for months. On weekends, he’s online from the time he gets home until late at night. We have a 3-year-old son, who craves his father’s attention. I’ve told him I wish he would cut back on his computer time, but he doesn’t see anything wrong with it. If I plan a family night out, he’d rather stay home. We also have vir- tually no sex life (his choice), and he occasionally visits porn sites. The other day, he left our house to help a friend move a piano and came home 12 hours later, drunk. His phone had conveniently died, so I was not able to reach him. He sees nothing wrong with this behavior. Please help me convince him that something needs to change. — Des- perate for Family Time Dear Desperate: Your husband sounds just as unhappy as you. The computer, the drinking, the time helping friends are his way of escaping his responsibilities at home and avoiding the conflicting thoughts he associates with having a second child. Ask your doctor or Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar pediatrician to refer you to a coun- selor who will help the two of you work through this. Dear Annie: Would you please give your readers some information on herpes, both types? Can you address the fact that the lip type doesn’t always stay above the waist, or the genital type below? Also, this virus can be in your body for years before it ever manifests itself. (That’s when your spouse claims to have been faithful and it might be true.) And you can pass along the virus even when no lesion is show- ing. Thanks. — We All Need To Be Informed Dear Informed: There are dif- ferent types of the herpes virus. Herpes Simplex Virus 1 (HSV-1) is most often experienced as oral her- pes (commonly known as cold sores), and Herpes Simplex Virus 2 (HSV-2) is most often associated with genital herpes. These two types of herpes are similar, though, and either one can be found above or below the belt. Genital herpes is a sexually transmitted infection spread by skin-to-skin contact, meaning you can get it by having intercourse with an infected person or by hav- ing oral sex with someone who has cold sores. Symptoms of genital herpes can include tingling, itching, sores, blisters, cuts, redness, aches and pains. But it can be spread even when you don’t have symptoms. According to the American Social Health Association, it is dif- ficult to know how long you have had genital herpes, and weeks, months or years can go by before symptoms reappear. Many with genital herpes have few or mild symptoms, and most actually do not realize they are infected — and can infect their partner. We urge anyone who is sexually active to talk with their health care provider about herpes and other STDs to see if they recommend any tests, and anyone who is infected should use condoms consistently and correctly. You can get more detailed information through ASHA’s website at ashastd.org. Dear Annie: I read the letter from ‘‘Love My In-Laws, But,’’ who invited her husband’s parents for dinner, but didn’t expect them to eat all the food. I have a suggestion for her: Serve snacks or appetizers before dinner. That way the guests she invited will fill up on other things and not eat all the good stuff. Or, she can stop inviting people for dinner, and then they can have all the food for them- selves. Problem solved. — Speech- less Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Lassen park 2012 photo contest Photos may be submit- ted for the Lassen Vol- canic Annual Park Pass photo contest beginning May 1 and ending Sept. 9. “Lassen Volcanic National Park is a won- derful place for outdoor recreation and experi- ences,” said Superinten- dent Darlene Koontz. “As visitors experience the majestic beauty that Lassen Volcanic National Park has to offer, they have the opportunity to share their experience with thousands of other park visitors. Images cap- tured within Lassen Vol- canic National Park can be submitted for the photo contest.” Images submitted will be judged by employees and volunteers of Lassen Volcanic National Park, with the selected imaged printed on the 2012 Lassen Volcanic Annual Pass. The winner will receive photo credit and a $50 gift certificate com- pliments of the Lassen Association. Photos must be no larger than 5” x 7” and printed on photo quality paper. Limit of two pho- tos per household. Entries must be received by the park’s fee office no later than 5 p.m. on Friday, Sept. 9. Photos will not be returned and will become the property of the U. S. Department of the Interi- or, National Park Service. Photos should be mailed to Lassen Volcanic National Park, Attn: Fee Office, P. O. Box 100, Mineral, CA 96063-0100. For each photo submitted, enter your name, address, phone number, subject and location of each photo on a separate sheet of paper. The $25 Lassen Annu- al Pass is valid for one year from the month of purchase and is also hon- ored at Whiskeytown National Recreation Area. Lassen Annual Passes can be obtained at park entrance stations, by mail, or online at www.pay.gov. As part of the Federal Lands Recreation Enhancement Act passed by Congress, the park will retain 80 percent of the fees collected to pay for needed repairs and pro- jects to improve visitor services and facilities. For more information call the park at 595-6120 from 8 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. or visit the park website at www.nps.gov/lavo. Clear nail polish to the rescue — again! DEAR DR. GOTT: First, I want to say that I’ve been a fan of yours for a long time. Then I want to tell you it makes me furious to have everyone assume that a person who has herpes has been promiscuous. I, too, have her- Dr. Peter Gott pes outbreaks at a spot on my buttocks, and there is no doubt in my mind where I got it — at the hospital. Having been monogamous for at least 12 years at the time, I had to have emergency surgery, and the herpes popped up within a week of discharge. The out- break was exactly where I got all my pain shots. The location migrates just a bit every time it crops up, but it’s never been anywhere close to my genital area, thank heavens. A friend of mine also says she got herpes in the same hospi- tal, years earlier. We’ve been friends for 30 years, and I just found that out last year. Her outbreaks are on her inner thigh, much closer to her knee than to her genitals. I hope this makes some of your readers feel better. That said, I want to rec- ommend nail polish to your readers. The derma- tologist I went to (because I did not know what the “rash” was) gave me pills and cream that upset my digestive system, so I tried what I use on anything that itches — clear nail polish! Applied three or four times a day, the out- break will usually be gone by the third day. DEAR READER: Thank you for sharing your experience. There are a number of different forms of herpes (80, to be exact), referred to as her- pes simplex virus 1 (HSV- 1) and herpes simplex virus 2 (HSV-2). HSV-1 can cause geni- tal herpes but more com- monly causes infection around the mouth and lips, as in fever blisters. Other areas of the body can be affected, but that’s uncommon. HSV-1 is caused by the herpes sim- plex virus, and is estimat- ed to be present in up to 80 percent of the entire American adult population. Both HSV-1 and - 2 can be released from the sores the virus causes but is also released between out- breaks from clear skin that doesn’t appear to be affected at all. Genital herpes most commonly results from HSV-2. It is estimated to be present in up to 20 per- cent of the American adult population. Oddly enough, many people are completely unaware they even have this sexually transmitted disease because it can remain dor- mant in the system for years. Transmission of HSV-2 occurs during sex- ual contact with someone who has the infection, who may not have a visi- ble outbreak and who may be completely unaware he or she is infected. You are correct in that the herpes virus can be contracted in a hospital setting. The most common site is the delivery room, where an infected mother may transmit the virus to her infant at the time of delivery. Treatment, as you were likely prescribed, consists of antiviral med- ication. I must admit that you have opened up another avenue with the use of clear nail polish. My guess is, it acts as an occlusive dressing and keeps the air and mois- ture from reaching the open-wound site. I have never had anyone else tell me that HSV can be con- trolled through this method, but if it works for you without unwanted side effects, I guess you should stick with it! Thank you for sharing the information. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com Flood control, water district seeks committee member The Tehama County Flood Control and Water Conservation District is accepting nominations for one landowner position available to serve on the Northern Sacramento Val- ley Integrated Regional Oh Snap! The Daily News wants your pho- tos: Cute kids, Adorable pets, Inspirational sights Send pictures to edi- tor@redbluffdai- lynews.com or drop off at 545 Diamond Ave. in Red Bluff. Include a caption. Water Management Board Technical Adviso- ry Committee. The TAC will include a landowner and a county- level staff representative from each of the six coun- ties, which will be appointed by each coun- ty’s Board of Supervisors. In addition, the TAC will include one representative from the State Depart- ment of Water Resources (DWR), one representa- tive from the Northern California Water Associa- tion (NCWA), and three "at-large" public interest representatives from within the region. The at- large appointments will be made by the full NSVIRWM Board. Pub- lic interest representation may include, but not be necessarily limited to: agricultural water use, environmental resources, recreation, domestic well use, municipal well use or tribal interests. NSVIRWM Board members are excluded from serving on the TAC. The TAC will be a work- ing group that will advise the Board and act as staff to the Board. The Board will direct the activities of the TAC. Appointments to the TAC will be reconsid- ered every two years or as positions are vacated. The initial two-year peri- od will coincide with the development of an Inte- grated Regional Water Management Plan for the NSV, which is anticipat- ed to begin by July 2011. 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