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2B – Daily News – Friday, March 11, 2011 FEATURES Pugnacious paramour petrifies partner Dear Annie: I’m 15 and have the greatest boyfriend. ‘‘Dane’’ is 17. He shows me so much respect and is so sweet. He loves me, I can tell. We practice safe sex. We just celebrated our half-year anniversary. Sometimes, though, Dane is scary. When he’s angry, he punches walls and breaks things. But he’s never hurt me. He also can be really controlling. He says things like, ‘‘If you cheated on me, I’d kill the guy’’ and ‘‘I’d die without you.’’ He is really clingy and jealous of my guy friends. But that works for me. Right now, everything is great, but I understand that those are signs of a potentially abusive relationship. So I was wondering if I should get out now. I really don’t want to break up, because I care about him. But I also don’t want to be hurt. What should I do? — -Cautious and in Love Dear Cautious: You are smart to be concerned. If Dane scares you, it is time to get out of the relationship. Punching walls can easily escalate into something else. It shows Dane has difficulty restraining himself when he’s angry. Threatening to kill other guys or himself is not only controlling, it is manipulative. It is intended to make you feel special and at the same time responsible for his happiness. Please talk to your parents about this relationship, and find a safe way to extricate yourself Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar before it’s too late. Dear Annie: How do I politely decline the frequent birthday parties my siblings have for their children? My kids are grown, but when they were young, I limited their parties to the grandpar- ents because I didn’t want to impose on my siblings. However, these same sib- lings have children of their own — some of them are twins and triplets — and it’s looking like they will each have annual birthday parties until they are 18 years old. I cannot afford all those gifts. Can I do any- thing, or am I just a — Scrooge in Nebraska? Dear Nebraska: Stop thinking of these parties as expensive gift- giving occasions, and think of them as a way to celebrate with your nieces and nephews. Give an inex- pensive book as a present. Or offer to be the photographer. These fami- ly occasions are opportunities to be a regular part of their lives. And if the point is solely to rake in the gifts, your siblings will soon stop inviting you. Dear Annie: I read the letter from ‘‘Wisconsin,’’ whose husband died and her friends seem to have deserted her. I was in her shoes seven years ago and would like to give her some advice. My late husband was everyone’s friend, and we were involved in all sorts of activities. Everyone shows NOTICE OF TRUSTEE’S SALE TS #: CA-10-406233-VF Order #: 652603 YOU ARE IN DEFAULT UNDER A DEED OF TRUST DATED 10/4/2005. UNLESS YOU TAKE ACTION TO PROTECT YOUR PROPERTY, IT MAY BE SOLD AT A PUBLIC SALE. IF YOU NEED AN EXPLANATION OF THE NATURE OF THE PROCEEDING AGAINST YOU, YOU SHOULD CONTACT A LAWYER. A public auction sale to the highest bidder for cash, cashier’s check drawn on a state or national bank, check drawn by state or federal credit union, or a check drawn by a state or federal savings and loan association, or savings as- sociation, or savings bank speci- fied in Section 5102 to the Finan- cial code and authorized to do business in this state, will be held by duly appointed trustee. The sale will be made, but with- out covenant or warranty, ex- pressed or implied, regarding ti- tle, possession, or encumbran- ces, to pay the remaining princi- pal sum of the note(s) secured by the Deed of Trust, with inter- est and late charges thereon, as provided in the note(s), advan- ces, under the terms of the Deed of Trust, interest thereon, fees, charges and expenses of the Trustee for the total amount (at the time of the initial publication of the Notice of Sale) reasonably estimated to be set forth below. The amount may be greater on the day of sale. BENEFICIARY MAY ELECT TO BID LESS THAN THE TOTAL AMOUNT DUE. Trustor(s): THOMAS P CLEMENT AND MICHELLE M CLEMENT, HUSBAND AND WIFE AS JOINT dd TENANTS Recorded: 10/12/2005 as Instrument No. 023531 in book 2811, page 164 of Official Re- cords in the office of the Record- er of TEHAMA County, Califor- nia; Date of Sale: 4/4/2011 at 2:00 PM Place of Sale: At the main entrance to the Tehama County Courthouse, 633 Wash- ington Street, Red Bluff, CA 96080 Amount of unpaid balance and other charges: $243,282.70 The purported property address is: 14542 RYAN LANE RED BLUFF, CA 96080 Assessor’s Parcel No. 022-500-331 The undersigned Trustee disclaims any liability for any incorrectness of the property address or other com- mon designation, if any, shown herein. If no street address or other common designation is shown, please refer to the refer- enced legal description for prop- erty location. In the event no common address or common designation of the property is provided herein directions to the location of the property may be obtained within 10 days of the date of first publication of this Notice of Sale by sending a written request to Bank of America 475 Crosspoint Park- way Getzville NY 14068 Pursuant to California Civil Code 2923.54 the undersigned, on behalf of the beneficiary, loan servicer or authorized agent, declares as follows: [ 1 ] The mortgage loan servicer has obtained from the commissioner a final or tempo- rary order of exemption pur- suant to Section 2923.53 that is current and valid on the date the notice of sale is filed; [ 2 ] The timeframe for giving notice of sale specified in subdivision (a) of Section 2923.52 does not li up for a funeral, but afterward, they get on with their lives. With our fam- ily all scattered and no one close, I wound up feeling isolated, unwanted and forgotten. ‘‘Wisconsin’’ should not hibernate, feel guilty for being a survivor or go into a tailspin. Instead, she should stay busy, exercise, go back to work, tell her friends what she needs (they can’t read her mind), find a compatible group of lady friends (they don’t have to be widows) and get involved. If her friends see her try- ing to cope, they will be more like- ly to assist. Yes, there are many friends who may not reconnect because she is no longer part of a couple, but I guarantee she will find a core group with whom she is com- fortable on her own. Recovery from the death of a loved one cannot be measured in months. Sometimes, not even in years. — Winter in Florida Dear Winter: Thank you for your words of wisdom. We received a great many responses to ‘‘Wiscon- sin’’ and will print more as space allows. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Legal Notices Legal Notices Legal Notices Legal Notices Legal Notices Legal Notices LEGAL NOTICE () apply pursuant to Section 2923.52 . If the Trustee is unable to convey title for any reason, the successful bidder’s sole and exclusive remedy shall be the return of monies paid to the Trustee, and the successful bid- der shall have no further re- course. If the sale is set aside for any reason, the Purchaser at the sale shall be entitled only to a return of the deposit paid. The Purchaser shall have no further recourse against the Mortgagor, the Mortgagee, or the Mortgagee’s Attorney. Date: Quality Loan Service Corp. 2141 5th Avenue San Diego, CA 92101 619-645-7711 For NON SALE infor- mation only Sale Line: 714-730- 2727 www.fidelityasap.com or Login statement Line: 619-645-7711 Quality Loan Service, Corp. If you have previously been dis- charged through bankruptcy, you may have been released of personal liability for this loan in which case this letter is intend- ed to exercise the note holders right’s against the real property only. THIS NOTICE IS SENT FOR THE PURPOSE OF COLLECTING A DEBT. THIS FIRM IS ATTEMPTING TO COLLECT A DEBT ON BEHALF OF THE HOLDER AND OWNER OF THE NOTE. ANY INFORMATION OBTAINED BY OR PROVIDED TO THIS FIRM OR THE CREDITOR WILL BE USED FOR THAT PUR- POSE. As required by law, you are hereby notified that a nega- tive credit report reflecting on your credit record may be sub- mitted to a credit report agency if you fail to fulfill the terms of your credit obligations. 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Unfortunately, he still smokes. Over the past brain injury, Parkinson’s and Huntington’s dis- ease. few years, he has developed a visible constant shaking of his body, particularly noticeable in his arms and hands, even when he is eating. He is married and has no children. Seeing him during the holi- days, my husband (his step- dad) and I were shocked at his appearance. He has always been a handsome man. Now, apart from the frightening, continuous shaking, he has a sick, unhealthy color, with his face blotchy and gray. His eyes are rather sullen and baglike. He coughs occa- sionally, sometimes almost choking. When asked, his wife said he has been to the doc- tor, had a few preliminary tests and is fine. “They could find nothing wrong with him.” My husband and I love them both, and we are so worried about my son. What can we do? He has always been a dear man, and we are just sick over this. DEAR READER: Tremors are unintentional muscle movements that commonly affect the hands, arms, legs, head, face and other areas of the body. There are more than 20 types of tremor that are often caused by difficulties in parts of the brain that control muscles. They occur at any age but are more common in middle-aged and older men and women. The cause of body shaking (tremors) depends on which body parts are involved. Simple possibilities include a feeling of apprehension or nervousness brought on by an event that occurred or is pending; prescribed drugs such as stimulants and amphetamines with shaking as a side effect; the exces- sive use of alcohol or with- drawal from it; or stroke, multiple sclerosis, traumatic EXPERTISE IS STANDING BY. 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Ask him to seek med- ical help as a favor to you (and to him and his wife) to ensure this. Help is out there. He simply has to reach out and help himself. Good luck. Readers who would like information on one form of tremor can order my Health Report “Parkinson’s Dis- ease” by sending a No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order made payable to Newsletter and mailed to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092-0167. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDr- GottMD.com Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com. 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