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3B Thursday, February 13, 2014 – Daily News DILBERT Scott Adams PEARLS BEFORE SWINE Stephan Pastis PICKLES Brian Crane BABY BLUES Jerry Scott & Rick Kirkman GET FUZZY Darby Conley ZITS Jerry Scott & Jim Borgman SHERMAN'S LAGOON Jim Toomey ARGYLE SWEATER Scott Hilburn BIZARRO Dan Piraro DEAR CAROLYN » My hus- band is going on an annual four-day weekend trip with his male friends. We have a baby, so this will leave me to all the duties with- out a break or a chance to do the restorative things I typically do on the week- ends, like go to the gym or sleep in one morning (we live far from family). I appre- ciate that Husband is lucky to have this group of friends, but I can't help really resenting this trip. The resentment is affecting how I treat him. My girlfriends don't have the time or resources to do a trip like this, so it's not a situation where I can take my own weekend lat- er on. How do I cool down my resentment, since I do think it's good for him to go on this trip? — Unfair Resentment? DEAR UNFAIR RESENT- MENT » The silver bullet for resentment is to iden- tify its sources, and deal with them. If you haven't told your husband how you're feeling, then you need to. Say you think it's good for him to go on this trip, but you're still struggling with how bad it is for you, and you'd like his help with that — not by canceling, but by helping you figure out similar opportunities for a break. If he can't or won't sympathize, then it's a good bet your resentment has sources deeper than this weekend. Meanwhile, as new par- ents far from family, you owe it to all of you to es- tablish your circle of help. Recruit a friend or three to come spell you during this weekend, even just to take Baby out for a stroll while you shower or nap. Do any of them have children, and therefore a baby sitter you can "borrow" this weekend (a strict no-poaching rule has to be explicit). Does your gym have child care or, if not, is there one that does so you can be a guest there for a day? Even if it's too late for this weekend trip, also start a search for your own sitter, even if you plan to use one only in a mother's- helper capacity or once or twice a month for a date night. It's just good for a marriage. As for getting your version of an annual week- end, it doesn't have to be same-same. You and one friend can go for an over- night twice a year, or you can join a group or take a class that meets once a week, etc. What matters is that you get some version of an "aahhhh" on your calendar, too. DEAR CAROLYN » Re: Resentment: Assum- ing their baby was not adopted, she was pregnant for nine months, gave birth, perhaps breastfed/is breastfeeding, and it's her husband who gets to go on his annual trip for a break? That really sucks — and I'm kind of angry on her behalf that her husband is going. — Anonymous 2 DEAR ANONYMOUS 2 » It's tempting. The answer isn't to take away something he values. It's to make sure the work and the breaks are distributed fairly. New mom resents husband's plans for a weekend getaway Carolyn Hax Ask Carolyn Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. Sudoku Instructions: The object is to place the numbers 1 to 9 in the empty squares so that each row, each column and each 3x3 box contains the number only once. Answer to Previous Puzzle Celebrity Cipher By Luis Campos Instructions: Celebrity Cipher cryptograms are created from quotations by famous people, past and present. Each letter in the cipher stands for another. NEA Crossword Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Your outgoing nature and vivid imagination will lead to an unusual adventure. Explore the possibilities. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Jump-start your career. 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Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Today's emphasis will be on money matters. You will have good luck in your financial plan- ning. Examine all your options. Get facts firsthand to ensure that you make the best choice possible. Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol THURSDAY, FEB. 13