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Tuesday, February 8, 2011 – Daily News – 5B FEATURES Spouse’s strides spark scorn Dear Annie: I have been married for 25 years. When my husband and I go somewhere and have to walk from the car, he always walks in front of me. I feel like his ser- vant. I have told him I hate it and to stop, but he continues. What is up with this disrespect? How should I handle this? — Following in His Footsteps Dear Following: Most men have longer strides than women. In order for your husband to walk by your side, he needs to slow down to a pace that apparently does not feel natural to him. Still, it’s rude and inconsiderate not to make the effort. The next time you get out of the car, ask the King of England to assist you, grab his arm, and don’t let go until you reach your destination. Dear Annie: Every year, we invite by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar our extended family for the holidays. Last year, we had our nephew, ‘‘John,’’ and his wife, ‘‘Jane.’’ John is a terrific, lovable, normal 30-something. Jane, on the other hand, is not nearly as nor- mal. For example, John removes his coat after arriving, but Jane keeps hers on for the entire visit. John participates in the conversation, while Jane shies away from talking. Dinner, however, is the strangest part. We have never seen Jane eat a sin- Annie’s Mailbox gle bite. She doesn’t even pretend to eat. She simply places her napkin on her plate. At first, we thought she was a germaphobe, except we have been guests in their home for meals and Jane does not join the guests at the table. I once found her alone in the kitchen with a plate of food. When I asked her to come into the dining room, she replied, ‘‘The dog likes my company.’’ Do you think she has some fear of eating in front of other people? How can we make her more comfortable in our home? Is this something we should be concerned about? — Worried Rela- tive Dear Worried: Jane seems to be suffering from a not-uncommon social anxiety disorder, which is a fear of being judged by others or embarrassed in front of them. It likely stems from an incident in her childhood. If she is will- ing to examine her fears, she may be able to overcome them. Some people have found success with behavior modification, hypnotherapy, counsel- ing and/or medication. If you are close to your nephew, suggest that Jane dis- cuss it with her doctor. John also can get more information through the National Institute of Mental Health at 1-866-615-NIMH (1-866-615-6464). Beyond that, please don’t make an issue of this. She intends no offense. Dear Annie: This is in response to ‘‘Midlife Marriage,’’ who said the spark has left her marriage. I have been happily married for almost 20 years. I, too, miss the pas- sion of our youth, but at the same time, I have found comfort in the stability of our years together. Early in our mar- riage, we had trouble, and I didn’t know if we’d make it. A friend advised me to focus on what I loved about him — not what he could do for me, but the qualities he possessed that caused me to fall in love with him. Remembering that has kept me satisfied all these years. We’re raising several children, so time alone is rare. However, we flirt regularly and make time to talk, cuddle and be together. It’s easy to get caught up in the kids, career and other outside activities, and neglect the marriage. But the kids will grow up and leave, the career will end, and hobbies change. Your spouse will still be with you. It starts with me. I have to make our marriage a priority. I’d advise ‘‘Midlife’’ to surprise her husband and put her best foot forward, just like she did in the beginning. It takes time and effort, but it will be worth it in the end. — Satisfied Wife Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Grammy predictions 2011 (MCT) The Grammy Awards will hold their 53rd annual shindig at 5 p.m. Feb. 13 on CBS-TV. To get primed for the telecast, we play the perilous game of predicting how the Nation- al Academy of Recording Arts and Sciences will honor "artistic excellence," and point out the even more excellent music it over- looked (remember, only recordings released from Sept. 1, 2009 to Sept. 30, 2010 are eligible). Album of the Year Nominees: "The Sub- urbs," Arcade Fire, "Recovery," Eminem, "Need You Now," Lady Antebellum, "The Fame Monster," Lady Gaga, "Teenage Dream," Katy Perry ery," Eminem Who will win: "Recov- Who should win: "The Suburbs," Arcade Fire Who got shafted: "The ArchAndroid," Janelle Monae Record of the Year (Award to the artist and the producer, recording engineer and-or mixer) Nominees: "Nothin' On You," B.o.B Featuring Bruno Mars, "Love the Way You Lie," Eminem Featuring Rihanna, "Forget You," Cee Lo Green, "Empire State Of Mind," Jay-Z & Alicia Keys, "Need You Now," Lady Antebellum Who will win: "Empire State Of Mind," Jay-Z & Alicia Keys Who should win: "Empire State Of Mind," Jay-Z & Alicia Keys Who got shafted: "Alba- tross," Besnard Lakes Song of the Year (A songwriters award) Nominees: "Beg Steal or Borrow," Ray LaMon- tagne, "Forget You," Cee Lo Green, "The House That Built Me," Miranda Lambert, "Love the Way You Lie," Eminem featur- ing Rihanna, "Need You Now," Lady Antebellum Who will win: "Love the Way You Lie," Eminem featuring Rihanna Who should win: "For- get You," Cee Lo Green Who got shafted: "Mad- der Red," Yeasayer Best New Artist (For an artist who releases the first recording that establishes the artist's public identity) Justin Bieber, Drake, Florence & The Machine, Mumford & Sons, Esper- anza Spalding Who will win: Drake Who should win: Esper- anza Spalding Who got shafted: Janelle Monae Best Pop Vocal Album Nominees: "My World 2.0," Justin Bieber, "I Dreamed a Dream," Susan Boyle, "The Fame Mon- ster," Lady Gaga, "Battle Studies," John Mayer, "Teenage Dream," Katy Perry Who will win: "Battle Studies," John Mayer Who should win: "The Fame Monster," Lady Gaga Who got shafted: "Body Talk 1," Robyn Best Rock Album Nominees: "Emotion and Commotion," Jeff Beck, "The Resistance," Muse, "Backspacer," Pearl Jam, "Mojo," Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, "Le Noise," Neil Young Who will win: "The Resistance," Muse Who should win: "Le Noise," Neil Young Who got shafted: "The Besnard Lakes are the Roaring Night," Besnard Lakes Best R&B Album Nominees: "The Love and War Masterpeace," Raheem DeVaughn, "Back to Me," Fantasia, "Another Round," Jaheim, "Wake Up!" John Legend and the Roots, "Still Standing," Monica Who will win: "Wake Up!" John Legend and the Roots Who should win: "Wake Up!" John Legend and the Roots Who got shafted: "New Amerykah Part Two," Erykah Badu Best Rap Album Nominees: "The Adventures of Bobby Ray," B.o.B., "Thank Me Later," Drake, "Recovery," Eminem, "The Blueprint 3," Jay-Z, "How I Got Over," the Roots Who will win: "Recov- ery," Eminem Who should win: "How I Got Over," the Roots Who got shafted: "A Badly Broken Code," Dessa Best Country Album Nominees: "Up on the Ridge," Dierks Bentley, "You Get What You Give," Zac Brown Band, "The Guitar Song," Jamey Johnson, "Need You Now," Lady Antebellum, "Revolution," Miranda Lambert Who will win: "Need You Now," Lady Antebel- lum Who should win: "The Guitar Song," Jamey John- son Who got shafted: "The List," Rosanne Cash Best Alternative Music Album Nominees: "The Suburbs," Arcade Fire, "Infinite Arms," Band of Horses, "Brothers," the Black Keys, "Broken Bells," Broken Bells, "Con- tra," Vampire Weekend Who will win: "The Suburbs," Arcade Fire Who should win: "The Suburbs," Arcade Fire Who got shafted: "This is Happening," LCD Soundsystem Healthy chap not so healthy DEAR DR. GOTT: My 58-year-old hus- band who is never sick was preparing for a hernia-repair procedure but did not pass the EKG pre-op test. They had him do a stress test, which he also flunked. They did a cardiac catheterization and found the right coro- nary artery is 100 percent blocked. Another has a 60 percent blockage, and another has two 30 per- cent blockages. They said they don’t do anything unless a blockage is 70 percent or more and gave him Crestor and metopro- lol tartrate. Dr. Peter Gott plaque, a material that builds up within arter- ies. Partial blockage is known as stenosis, or narrowing. One treatment option might be to simply test the artery I guess I assumed with a 100 percent blockage, they would have to do a bypass but that doesn’t appear to be an option. He said they do this for a liv- ing and have standards they have to follow and that it is a little artery and a big blockage. Other ves- sels seem to have taken over for it. Does this sound reasonable to you? I’m worried, and he is still in shock that he isn’t the healthy man he thought he was. Thank you for your help. DEAR READER: Unfortunately, as you dis- covered, some disorders may not reveal outward symptoms and aren’t found until something like hernia repair or other unrelated conditions occur. For example, coro- nary-artery disease affects millions of Ameri- cans — yet they have no symptoms and may even remain unaware of the problem until they suffer a heart attack. Symptoms of coronary-artery disease (CAD) include chest pain or discomfort that occurs when the heart muscle fails to get an adequate supply of blood rich in oxygen. Silent CAD is just that — silent. Your husband had a completely blocked artery. Fortunately, anoth- er nearby artery took over the work of the malfunc- tioning one and your hus- band remained unknow- ing. This is a common occurrence. Simply put, this can be compared with a detour on the road. You may have to take an alter- nate route to get where you are going. But you do get there, nonetheless. Blood flow within arteries can become either partially or totally blocked because of yearly. Another might be to provide an anticoagu- lant or a medication to lower cholesterol levels. The latter is what your husband’s physician chose. Invasive methods of opening an artery might be accomplished through angioplasty. Crestor should lower your husband’s choles- terol level and reduce his risk of developing stroke and related cardiac condi- tions. The metoprolol is a beta blocker used to treat angina and hypertension and to help prevent or treat a heart attack. In this situation, a car- diologist weighed the pros and cons of surgical repair, using a 70 percent blockage as one guide- line. I personally know of one patient who was unconscious and not expected to survive. He was sent via ambulance to a large cardiac center where he was monitored closely, placed on med- ication, and sent home to recuperate. He wasn’t bad enough for surgery! Much to my surprise, the patient survived and did well. He continues to be monitored on a regular basis. To provide related information, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report “Coronary Artery Disease.” Other readers who would like a copy should send a self- addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order made payable to Newslet- ter and mailed to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092- 0167. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDrGottMD.com . Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. 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