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January 15, 2014

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Wednesday, January 15, 2014 – Daily News Avoid picking up the trash your friends leave behind DEAR CAROLYN » My friend has been hooking up with a guy for a few weeks now. He was her first time and I know she really likes him. They are not dating and I always knew they wouldn't. The other night, she took me with her to go ice skating with him and he brought a friend. The whole time he was trying to make Carolyn eye contact Hax with me and Ask Carolyn flirt with me. After the night ended, he texted her, telling her, "I think we should stop this because you deserve better," then proceeded to text me that he likes me more, that we have more in common, and that he could actually see himself with me. He lives in another state and is only here so often. I really do want to talk to him because I know he's my type, but after what they did and how hurt my friend is, I feel it would not be right. Please help! — M. DEAR M. » There's an old saying: When someone shows you he's a galloping jackhole, believe him. You know exactly what to do. You just don't want to, and so are shopping for permission to self-indulge. There's no loophole that makes it OK for you to sneak around on your friend just because the guy whom she entrusted with her "first time" and who within days turned his attention from her to you is your "type." What is your type — reptilian? I won't pretend that all attractions are convenient or that all inconvenient attractions are wrong. But if you're going to hurt someone in the interest of love, there had at least better be love. You're talking eye contact. (keyboard thump.) This is where the fact of 7 billion-plus people on earth is convenient to keep in mind: Some of them might be your "type," too, and have no fresh and painful history with someone you care about. Some, even, might not use dates with one woman to shop for other women. Think of it this way: If you and he get together, then you'd deserve each other. "Deserve better" is the ironically placed bar I 5B BABY BLUES Jerry Scott & Rick Kirkman ZITS Jerry Scott & Jim Borgman suggest you clear. DEAR CAROLYN » Curious to know how you would have responded to this post-holiday gambit: "And I don't want you to feel bad that what you got me wasn't as nice as what I got you. I just like to buy gifts for the joy of it. I didn't expect anything in return." — Lame-o Gift Giver DEAR GIFT GIVER » If standing there agape is one of my choices, I'll take that. There's always, too, "It actually never occurred to me to feel bad until you said that." I hope I'd have the forbearance to recognize that some people have better intentions than they do skills to implement them. I hope I'd laugh. I hope I'd say thanks for the thought. Or, "You're welcome," if I was feeling particularly quick. Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. Brian Crane PICKLES Darby Conley GET FUZZY Sudoku Instructions: The object is to place the numbers 1 to 9 in the empty squares so that each row, each column and each 3x3 box contains the number only once. SHERMAN'S LAGOON Jim Toomey Answer to Previous Puzzle PEARLS BEFORE SWINE Stephan Pastis Celebrity Cipher By Luis Campos Instructions: Celebrity Cipher cryptograms are created from quotations by famous people, past and present. Each letter in the cipher stands for another. Scott Adams DILBERT BIZARRO Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol WEDNESDAY, JAN. 15 Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Keep everything out in the open so you can deal with issues as they arise. You must clear up any misunderstandings with alacrity. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Don't waste the day. There is too much to do, and too little time. Secrets are apparent, and they must be considered before you make a decision based on limited information. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Try something unique. Offer help and look for ways to use what you have to offer in more diverse ways. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Avoid altercations. Partnership problems will escalate if you aren't willing to compromise. A common-sense approach to Dan Piraro ARGYLE SWEATER work and money will pay off. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Take a chance, and present what you have to offer. Showing your skills and expertise will be far more effective than talking about them. Actions speak louder than words. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You'll be tempted by an offer that may not be legitimate or that is based on hearsay rather than facts. Step back before you suffer a loss. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Relationships, partnerships and mingling with people who share your interests and concerns will bring about unusual and exciting opportunities. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Watch your back today, especially when dealing with financial, legal or medical issues. Take some time to confabulate with trusted allies before taking a chance on someone or something you know too little about. Scott Hilburn Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Your suggestions will be wellreceived. Do your best to help out, but don't let anyone take you for granted. Friendships will grow, and people from your past will reappear. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Stay calm and rely on your knowledge and ability to deliver information with intelligence and passion. Don't allow anger or emotional tension to come between you and your goals. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Enjoy the moment, take part in unique activities and develop relationships that will be of use to you in the future. Alterations to your living arrangements will be comforting. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — Keep an eye on your personal papers and concerns. Be prepared to make a sudden and unexpected move should anyone stand between you and your goals. Protect your assets. NEA Crossword

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