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Tuesday, January 14, 2014 – Daily News When marriage crumbles, leave the wreckage behind you My husband of 10 years has been having an affair with a married woman. I moved out; we're getting divorced. I am coping with the help of good friends and a good therapist. My question is about the other woman's husband, who, according to my husband, doesn't know about the affair or her plans Carolyn to leave her Hax marriage. I Ask Carolyn don't know if I should contact her husband or not. On the one hand, I want to because I'm angry and I'd like to upset her life as much as she's upset mine. The fact that she gets to time her separation for her own convenience — i.e. once my stuff is out of my house so she can move her stuff in — irritates the hell out of me. I also think her husband has a right to know. On the other, I cringe at the idea of tracking down a stranger and telling him this awful news. And if he does know and has just accepted the situation, I hate that scenario even more. DEAR CAROLYN » I really don't want to be involved anymore. I just want to get out of this situation and get on with my life, and contacting her husband would keep me very much involved. I'd become a participant rather than a disgusted bystander. What do you advise? — The Other Spouse her and others substantial lies about his background. For instance, he claimed to have attended an Ivy League school, but there is no record that he did so, and he says he worked for a government agency, but we have found out that he did not. Should we say anything to our friend? She is very successful, and we don't want her taken advantage of. That said, she appears to be happy, and I would not want to do anything to stop that. — Friend DEAR SPOUSE » I don't need to advise anything, except to suggest you reread your own letter. You wrote your way to the answer yourself: "I really don't want to be involved anymore. I just want to get out of this situation." If it helps to keep you centered, think of all things marriage and affair as smoking wreckage behind you, which you return to and pick through only when there's an absolute necessity, by your own definition of such. Otherwise, you're all forward, all tomorrow, all you. DEAR FRIEND » Are you SURE he's lying, or are you just unable to confirm? If it's the former, I'd want to know. Would she? If you don't know that, ask the next best question: Would you? He might not be taking advantage so much as padding his resume in a misguided attempt to improve his stock. I have a very dear friend who has been dating a guy for a year. While this guy is very nice to her and (from what I can see) is a devoted boyfriend, I have found out that he has told Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. DEAR CAROLYN » 3B BABY BLUES Jerry Scott & Rick Kirkman ZITS Jerry Scott & Jim Borgman Brian Crane PICKLES Darby Conley GET FUZZY Sudoku Instructions: The object is to place the numbers 1 to 9 in the empty squares so that each row, each column and each 3x3 box contains the number only once. SHERMAN'S LAGOON Jim Toomey Answer to Previous Puzzle PEARLS BEFORE SWINE Stephan Pastis Celebrity Cipher By Luis Campos Instructions: Celebrity Cipher cryptograms are created from quotations by famous people, past and present. Each letter in the cipher stands for another. Scott Adams DILBERT BIZARRO Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol TUESDAY, JAN. 14 Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — What you offer friends and family will bring you greater love, happiness and stability. Your skills and business sense will garner additional popularity and respect. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — The more you can pack into your day, the better you will feel. Speak up and share your plans. There is an increase in your earning potential due to an unexpected change. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Your imagination and insight will help you suggest ideas that will raise your profile and enhance your reputation. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Avoid temptation. Overspending or excessive behavior will cause stress and worry. Concentrate Dan Piraro ARGYLE SWEATER on what you can do for others and how you can better build relationships with important people. Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Raise your profile to ensure that you will be considered for a project that you really want to be a part of. You need to attract positive attention if you hope to be chosen. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — Keep talking until you get your point across. Your ideas are good, and your ability to bring about change will enable you to make a difference. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — Control your emotions and protect your relationships with others. Anger is the enemy, and common sense your ally. Build a solid base and choose quality over quantity. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Secrets may cost you if you don't participate in surrounding events. Offer your skills, courage Scott Hilburn and strength in order to turn an idea into a reality. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Network, share your thoughts and show your strengths. Speak from the heart and present what you have to offer with clarity and persistence. Prepare to celebrate. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — You'll be criticized if you don't finish what you start. Take a stance, even if you don't feel prepared. Decisive action will help you overcome a stalemate. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — Complete anything that has been left undone. An unusual change at home will turn out to be a creative and fruitful choice. Follow the path less traveled. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — You may be anxious to make a financial move, but proceed with caution. Revisit what's happened in the past and make adjustments to avoid making the same mistake twice. 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