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6B Daily News – Saturday, January 11, 2014 Moving on after a breakup looks a lot like running away DEAR CAROLYN » Almost two years ago, I moved across the country to be with my serious boyfriend and to fulfill my dream of living on the other coast. I found a great job, a good group of friends, spent time with boyfriend's family, but always thought that we would make our way back to the other side of the country. Then, a Carolyn few weeks Hax ago, we Ask Carolyn broke up. Our chances of reconciling don't seem great. I'm trying to be practical and wait until emotions are less raw, but I'm aching to pack up and move as soon as my lease ends in four months. I'll be at a good transition point in my work, the majority of my good friends and all of my family are across the country, and my closest social networks here are tied up with his. I'm torn between feeling like a wuss for "running away," and thinking that it is really the most logical step. Any thoughts? — Running Away or Moving On were expecting to go back, you want to go back, and now you have an opportunity to go back that is imminent but not rushed. My only thought is not to overthink. make other big changes. Sometimes it's rash, yes, but sometimes it's merely opportunistic. Once you accept that sense of upheaval, you start to see big changes as realistic instead of overwhelming. Re: Moving On: Here's a second for going back. Last year, I went through a divorce knowing we would both be moving back to where we lived before. It was rough; within one month, a house was listed, sold, closed on, cleaned up ... and left within 48 hours of the divorce being final. You're not running away, you're moving on, and sometimes life hands you those opportunities. If you're still feeling too raw to embrace it fully, then wait a week or month. — Anonymous DEAR CAROLYN » Re: Moving On: Twelve years ago, I was faced with something similar. The way I see it, I was indeed both running away and moving on. What's so bad about running away? You run away from a burning car, a rioting crowd, etc. Why not add "a disastrous relationship" to that list? Embrace your inner coward, if only to get comfortable with the idea that sometimes the so-called cowardly thing is right. — Anonymous 2 DEAR RUNNING AWAY »You BABY BLUES Jerry Scott & Rick Kirkman ZITS Jerry Scott & Jim Borgman DEAR CAROLYN » DEAR ANONYMOUS » Thanks. There's always going to be some sense that you're picking up your carefully built life and shaking it, hard. Just because you have that feeling, that does not automatically mean you're being rash or overcorrecting or running away when you use that upheaval to Brian Crane PICKLES DEAR ANONYMOUS 2 » Emphasis on the "sometimes" — which my inner coward forced me to add. Email Carolyn Hax at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at www.washingtonpost.com. Darby Conley GET FUZZY Sudoku Instructions: The object is to place the numbers 1 to 9 in the empty squares so that each row, each column and each 3x3 box contains the number only once. SHERMAN'S LAGOON Jim Toomey Answer to Previous Puzzle PEARLS BEFORE SWINE Stephan Pastis Celebrity Cipher By Luis Campos Instructions: Celebrity Cipher cryptograms are created from quotations by famous people, past and present. Each letter in the cipher stands for another. Scott Adams DILBERT BIZARRO Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) — Sudden changes regarding your friendships and finances can be expected. Don't lend or borrow unless you want to be embroiled in an unsavory situation. Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) — Continue to view things with curiosity in order to attract attention. You are a trendsetter, and this will lead to greater popularity, as well as controversy. Pisces (Feb. 20-March 20) — Discipline, understanding and tenacity will help you excel. Be proactive and take advantage of any chance you get to do something that improves your community or environment. Aries (March 21-April 19) — Take baby steps regarding your projects. Stick to the basics and what you know and do best. Dan Piraro ARGYLE SWEATER Taurus (April 20-May 20) — Information you gain through a discussion or seminar will help you make a life-altering decision. Things will look up if you use your talents in a diverse manner. Gemini (May 21-June 20) — You'll be tempted to take a trip or try something new and exciting, but be cautious. Arguments, accidents or problems with someone in a position of authority will detain you. Cancer (June 21-July 22) — It's a good day to try something new. Let your creative imagination lead the way, and don't be afraid to do things differently. Change can be good if you take it one step at a time. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22) — Don't be confused by what's going on around you. Make alterations that are more in line with your skills. A change may not be well-received by everyone. Scott Hilburn Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) — Stay on top of any matter that pertains to partnerships. Disillusionment is apparent, so do your best to find solutions that please everyone. If you play your cards right, you'll come out a hero. Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) — Think matters through before you act today. Not everyone will be happy with your choices. Protect your health and do whatever it takes to make the best choice. Scorpio (Oct. 24-Nov. 22) — An open mind will help immeasurably when it comes to free-wheeling discussion. Knowing what you want will give you an edge. Your love life will get a spicy boost. Sagittarius (Nov. 23-Dec. 21) — The way you're living may be challenged. Focus on your attributes and how you can turn something you enjoy doing into a lucrative endeavor. NEA Crossword