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Thursday, January 27, 2011 – Daily News – 3B FEATURES Imminent infant induces inquiries Dear Annie: I have been divorced from ‘‘Bill’’ for more than a year and sepa- rated for almost two. I am currently expecting his baby. Obviously, we were still sleeping together, but this pregnancy was a total accident. I’ve always wanted a second child, and this should be a happy time for me, but I am miserable. I’ve tried many times to get back together with Bill, and until recently, we actually ‘‘dated’’ off and on. The divorce was his idea, and he’s the one who initiated the possibility of getting back together. I always went along because I thought I loved him and would never get over him. The problem is, now that we are bringing another child into the mix, I’ve realized after much soul searching that I don’t love him any- more. Bill still treats me with the same amount of disrespect and hos- tility he always has. I put up with it out of low self-esteem and a fear of being alone. We tried counseling with no success because he hated it and refused to go. my children, and I don’t like the person I am when I’m with Bill. Please give me your thoughts. — Pregnant and Feeling Alone Dear Pregnant: Preg- Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar nancy seems to have given you a much-needed back- bone and a clearer perspec- tive on what behavior to model for your children. If Bill treats you terribly and getting back together depresses you, please don’t do it. He is legally obligated to provide financial support for the baby whether you reconcile or not. If you have family members close by, enlist their help. Dear Annie: I come from a very large family. When we plan a fami- ly event, the crowd is big and the spaces are small. The problem is my oldest sis- Should I end things between us and raise the children on my own? I don’t want to sacrifice my happi- ness just so I can have a second income and (minimal) help with the new baby. I don’t want to fall into a depression again and become a shell of the person I used to be. I want to be a positive role model for ter’s husband. ‘‘Allen’’ is a total jerk and ruins all of these parties by bringing along several of his family members without asking the host- ess for permission. These uninvited guests have no manners. They make a game out of passing gas. None of the other spouses feel the need to invite their parents or sib- lings, because they understand our limited resources. It does no good to make an announcement that it’s ‘‘Smith’’ family only. We’ve tried that. My sister has admitted how much she hates that Allen does this, but she won’t do a thing to stop it. What can we do, short of never hav- ing another family party? — Any- where USA Dear Anywhere: If your sister can’t get Allen to stop dragging his relatives to your parties, she should at least convince him to call the hostess in advance and warn her. The hostess should then tell Allen that space precludes them from inviting additional peo- ple. If he brings them anyway, we think your sister should host the next family gathering. In fact, we’d insist on it. Dear Annie: I read with interest the letter from ‘‘New York,’’ who is being verbally abused by his wife. He fears what she will say to people in their small town if he leaves. I lived in a small town with a wife who was vindictive and verbal- ly abusive. When I left, she said I had no friends and would not sur- vive on my own. But I was amazed at the outpouring of support and the social invitations I received. I learned that people were much more observant than I realized. They knew what she was. Tell ‘‘New York’’ to go for it. It could change his life. — Been There Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Federal natural resource management agencies in the north state will be host- ing a job fair in Redding Saturday and Sunday, Jan. 29-30. The fair will be held at the Mt. Shasta Mall, 900 Dana Drive, from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday and 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sunday. Representatives from the Forest Service, Fish and Wildlife Service and National Park Service will be on hand to answer ques- tions, help with job appli- cations and provide assis- tance with the federal hir- ing process. Positions being filled include permanent, tempo- rary and student. Featured professions include wild- land firefighting, recre- ation, forestry, biology, earth sciences, cultural sci- ences and administrative Job fair in Redding this weekend If you go... What: Federal Job Fair When: 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday, 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sunday Where: Mt. Shasta Mall How much: Free programs. Job seekers are encour- aged to bring application materials, including resumes and reference materials, to the fair to start the application process. Most federal applications are submitted electronical- ly for consideration. Work stations with computers and agency staff will be provided to help job seek- ers start navigating the process. Applicants are encour- aged to bring materials dig- itally to help streamline the application process. “This is an excellent opportunity for people interested in starting a career with the federal gov- ernment, or even those looking for a summer job, to talk to current employ- ees about what a career in natural resource manage- ment has to offer and get their application in,” said Joe Sean Kennedy, a wild- land firefighter with the Mendocino National Forest who is serving as this year’s event coordinator. “We will have some of the gear and equipment on site, too, as well as activities for children attending the fair.” The Mendocino Nation- al Forest, based in Willows, has been tasked with lead- ing the job fair this year, in cooperation with the National Forests in North- ern California, the Fish and Wildlife Service and the National Park Service. For more information, please contact the Shasta- Trinity National Forest at 226-2500, the Mendocino National Forest at 934- 3316 or visit www.fs.usda.gov/mendo- cino. Blackberries for diarrhea? DEAR DR. GOTT: I am a 98- year-old man. I have been reading your column and am getting tired of hearing about people having trouble with diar- rhea. So I am writing to tell you and all these peo- ple the best reme- dy I learned about more than 70 years ago. Eat half of a 15-ounce can of blackberries when you get the first signs of diar- rhea. That will cure it. This is not a scam, and I am not a blackberry salesman. I have used it many times in my life, and it has always worked. DEAR READER: And who could argue with a 98-year-old’s tried-and- true cure? I must admit I have neither purchased nor seen a can of black- berries. If they aren’t in season in my neck of the woods, they aren’t gener- ally available unless from the freezer case at my local grocery. I was able to find some online, how- ever. Dr. Peter Gott now add your recommendation of a half can of blackberries. Thanks for the suggestion, which I failed to mention in earlier columns. To provide related informa- tion, I am sending you copies of my Health Reports “Com- pelling Home Remedies” and “More Compelling Home Remedies.” Other readers who would like copies should send a self- addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order for each report made payable to Newsletter and mailed to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092-0167. Be sure to mention the title(s) or print an order form off my website at www.AskDrGottMD.co m. DEAR DR. GOTT: I have the beginning of a bunion. What can I do to prevent it? Could it have anything to do with falling arches? Diarrhea can be the result of a number of causes, including bacte- ria in food, viruses, para- sites, ingesting an exces- sive amount of fruit or greasy foods, stress, food poisoning and a great deal more. Home/folk remedies for prevention include a teaspoon of apple-cider vinegar mixed with a tea- spoon of honey in water 30 minutes before each meal, bismuth subsalicy- late taken following an attack, the juice of a freshly squeezed lemon in a glass of water up to four times a day, 6 ounces of red wine, psyl- lium capsules, bee pollen taken several times each day and — last but not least — several fresh or frozen blackberries. The whole berries can be sub- stituted with blackberry juice, a shot of blackber- ry brandy or blackberry wine. To this list, we can DEAR READER: Bunions are commonly the result of tight-fitting shoes (primarily high- heeled ones), injury to the foot, arthritis and genetic influences. I do not believe your fallen arches are to blame. The condition is permanent unless you undergo sur- gical correction. 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