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Tuesday, October 19, 2010 – Daily News – 5A FEATURES Dirty daughter disgusting dilemma Dear Annie: My relationship with my 22-year- old daughter, ‘‘Lana,’’ has become impossi- ble. She is a total slob. She lived here over the summer and did exactly one load of laundry. It was not uncommon to come home and find dishes in the sink because she ‘‘didn’t have time’’ to empty the dishwasher. Her clothes and shoes were every- where. My husband paid rent on her college apartment so she could keep it while she worked here for the summer, and she decided to use her own money to take a weeklong vacation. She didn’t pay her car insurance (my husband did), and she spent a for- tune on clothes. Lana says she is entitled to ‘‘downtime’’ when she’s here. Well, I’d like some of that, too. Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar I think I am enabling Lana to continue her selfish, childlike behavior. My husband simply says, ‘‘That’s how she is,’’ as if I’m supposed to roll over and accept it. Here’s the problem: Lana is in her final year of college and next summer will be return- ing for a semester of student teaching. I do not want her living here. She has no respect for our home or us. We want Lana to be a responsi- ble, considerate adult. I have spo- ken with her countless times about our expectations, and she continues to defy us. I know she has a good heart, but the anger and resentment are eating me up inside. My husband gives in every time, and I don’t think he is doing her any favors. I wouldn’t mind helping Lana financially if she showed some appreciation and made an effort to grow up. I can’t continue like this. What do I do? — Loving and Missing All at the Same Time Dear Loving Mom: We agree that you are enabling your daugh- ter to behave like a spoiled brat because there are no conse- quences to her inconsiderate behavior. Lana should know that if she lives at home, she must con- tribute to the housekeeping and pay a reasonable amount of rent. If she doesn’t agree, she can live elsewhere. And your husband needs to support your efforts to help Lana become independent. Dear Annie: I love my wife more than when I met her 35 years ago. We rarely disagree on anything. She shows her love in many ways — managing the household, doing things with me and for me, and providing a ster- ling example for our two children. One way she chooses not to show love is through intimacy. I can’t remember the last time she initiated lovemaking. Most of the time, my advances result in rebuffs. In bed recently, she explained that if I didn’t stop ‘‘pestering her,’’ she would have to relocate. I am starting to feel like a groper. Do I need to find a way to turn off my motor? — The Thrill is Gone Dear Thrill: Your wife might appreciate that, but it is not the optimal choice. Many women lose interest in sex after menopause, but a regular sex life is healthy for both men and women, and espe- cially for a marriage. Explain to your wife how much it would mean to you if she could make the effort to be intimate. You also can seek the assistance of her doctor or a counselor who could hopeful- ly get her to understand why this is so important and offer specific suggestions. Dear Annie: This is for ‘‘Not Liking Mother in Connecticut.’’ There is something she can do for her disabled sister who lives with Mom. She can call Adult Protec- tive Services in her sister’s state. If she mentions her concerns of possible abuse, APS will send someone to evaluate the situation and speak to the sister without the mother present. — Pennsylvania Dear Pennsylvania: We hope she is willing to do whatever is necessary to ensure that her sister is properly cared for. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. Nazi-era looted art database NEW YORK (AP) — The Nazis stripped hun- dreds of thousands of artworks from Jews dur- ing World War II in one of the biggest cultural raids in history, often photographing their spoils and meticulously cataloguing them on typewritten index cards. Holocaust survivors and their relatives, as well as art collectors and museums, can go online beginning Mon- day to search a free his- torical database of more than 20,000 art objects stolen in Germany- occupied France and Belgium from 1940 to 1944, including paint- ings by Claude Monet and Marc Chagall. The database is a joint project of the New York-based Conference of Jewish Material Claims Against Ger- many and the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, D.C. The database is unusual because it has been built around Nazi- era records that were digitized and rendered searchable, showing what was seized and from whom, along with data on restitution or repatriation and pho- tographs taken of the seized objects, the groups told The Associ- ated Press. The Claims Confer- ence, which helps Holo- caust survivors and their relatives to reclaim property, said it had used the database to estimate that nearly half of the objects may never have been returned to their right- ful owners or their descendants or their Red Bluff Garden Club presents “MASQUERADE” Design Program & Luncheon Saturday, October 30, 2010 Rolling Hills Casino Program Unmasking the Secrets of Floral & Garden Design VENDORS - SILENT AUCTION RAFFLE - LIVE AUCTION Plated Lunch: Beef, Chicken or Vegetarian RESERVED TICKETS $25 LAST DATE TO PURCHASE TICKETS IS OCTOBER 20TH Tickets: Shirley 529-2306 • Diane 824-5661 California Kitchen, 529-2482 The Plant Barn, Chico 345-3121 Every Wednesday Night All you can eat Spaghetti $ 7.99 638 Washington St., Red Bluff CA 96080 527-2799 country of origin. ‘‘Most people think or thought that most of these items were repa- triated or restituted,’’ said Wesley A. Fisher, director of research at the Claims Conference. ‘‘It isn’t true. Over half of them were never repatriated. That in itself is rather interest- ing historically.’’ Marc Masurovsky, the project’s director at the museum, said the database was designed to evolve as new infor- mation is gathered. ‘‘I hope that the families do consult it and tell us what is right and what is wrong with it,’’ he added. The database com- bines records from the U.S. National Archives in College Park, Md.; the German Bunde- sarchiv, the federal archive in Koblenz; and repatriation and restitu- tion records held by the French government. By giving a new view of looted art, the data- base could raise ques- tions about the possibly tainted history of works of art in some of the world’s most important museum collections, experts said. ‘‘I always tell people we have no idea how much is out there because nobody has ever bothered to take a complete inventory,’’ said Willi Korte, one of the most prominent independent provenance researchers of looted Nazi art. ‘‘I think all of those that say there’s not much left to do cer- tainly should think twice.’’ Korte has been at the forefront of the world- wide search for art loot- ed by the Nazis, an undertaking that has accelerated over the past two decades, spurring court battles and pitting the descen- dants of Jewish families who were forced to give up their possession against museums and private collectors. Among the works listed in the database is a painting by the Danish artist Philips Wouwer- man, which had belonged to the Roth- schilds family and was discovered in the secret Zurich vault of Reich art dealer Bruno Lohse in 2007. Korte, who was asked to develop an inventory of the works in the Lohse vault, said the Wouwerman paint- ing ‘‘was clearly plun- dered.’’ No one knows exact- ly how many objects the Nazis looted and how many may still be miss- ing. The Claims Confer- ence says about 650,000 art objects were taken, and thousands of items are still lost. But the true number may never be known because of lack of docu- mentation, the passage of time and the absence of a central arbitration body. Some museum orga- nizations have argued in recent years that most looted art has been identified as researchers focus on the provenance of art objects. The database includes only a slice of the records generated by the Einsatzstab Reichsleiter Rosenberg, an undertaking of Third Reich ideologue Alfred Rosenberg to seize archives, books, art, Judaica, home furnish- ings and other objects from Jewish families, bookstores and collec- tions. Records of the looting were disbursed to nearly a dozen coun- tries after the war. The database is focused on ERR spoils shipped to a prewar museum near the Lou- vre, where they were often catalogued and sold back to the market, destroyed or integrated into the lavish private collections of top Nazi officials — including the military chief Her- mann Goering. Julius Berman, the chairman of the Claims Conference, said orga- nizing Nazi art-looting records was a key step to righting an injustice. ‘‘It is now the responsibility of muse- ums, art dealers and auction houses to check their holdings against these records to deter- mine whether they might be in possession of art stolen from Holo- caust victims,’’ he said. ——— Online: Database of Art Objects at the Jeu de P aume: http://www.errproject.o rg/jeudepaume Osteoarthritis not result of working DEAR DR. GOTT: I have osteoarthritis in my neck and spine. Could you tell me how a 54-year-old lady like me got such a thing? My job is repetitive work in manufacturing, but my employer says it’s not from the work. I feel it is, but I don’t feel that 54 is old. DEAR READER: Osteoarthritis is a chronic condition that results from a breakdown of joint cartilage. Healthy cartilage allows our joints to move easily and without pain. When osteoarthritis is present, a degeneration of the cartilage that cushions bone ends occurs. Over time, some areas of cartilage may wear away completely, resulting in damage to the bone and extreme pain on movement. The ends of the bone may form spurs, and the liga- ments may thicken. This common disorder affects about one in three people and, while most common in older adults, it can affect people of any age. All of our joints are sus- ceptible to osteoarthritis, but those most commonly affected are ones that bear weight — knees, hips, spine, feet, neck, lower back and hands. When the knees or hips are involved, pain may be experienced with motion but may disappear when at rest. When the spine is involved, stiffness and dis- comfort can be felt and can generate to the lower back. There may be pain generat- ing to the head or down the arms. I cannot determine from your brief note why you have the condition. It may be related to a sports injury when you were younger, or you may have a family his- tory of OA. There is also a consideration of a chemical change that has occurred in your cartilage, causing it to break down faster than it can be produced. You also may be carrying more weight than is healthy for your frame, or you may be rela- tively inactive. As you can see, there are a number of causes for a woman at the early age of 54 to develop this condition. You might be helped by over-the-counter or prescrip- Dr. Peter Gott tion NSAIDS (nonsteroidal anti- inflammatory medication). There are also glu- cosamine/chon- droitin combina- tions available at your local phar- macy that may help to build carti- lage and improve your joint mobili- ty. If appropriate, consider weight reduction. Above all, stay as active as possible. Keeping your joints as mobile and flexible as possi- ble can help reduce your pain and stiffness. Consider yoga, tai chi or water aero- bics. On the home front, consider rubbing castor oil on your painful joints. Some of my readers have found success by using purple grape juice and liquid pectin commonly used to make jam. Simply mix 1 to 2 tablespoons of pectin in 8 ounces of grape juice, and drink it once a day. When all else fails and the pain becomes unbear- able, speak with your physi- cian regarding heavy-duty pain medication or surgery. Your personal physician knows your complete med- ical history and can help you make the determination as to whether you are well enough to consider such a step. Many hospitals also have occupational thera- pists, who can evaluate the situation and offer sugges- tions. To provide related infor- mation, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report “Understanding Osteoarthritis.” Other read- ers who would like a copy should send a self-addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order payable to Newsletter and mailed to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092-0167. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDrGottMD.com. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are avail- able at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com Shasta College Teaching Garden offers workshop Come to Shasta College on Oct. 23 to find out what to do with all the produce you’ve grown. From 10 a.m. to noon on Saturday, Oct. 23, in room 812 on the Shasta College Main Redding Campus, 11555 Old Oregon Trail, local organic farmer Ron Epperson, will discuss effective and low-cost methods for preserving, drying, packaging, and freezing pro- duce. Registrants will learn about long-term storage of veg- etables, fruits, nuts, and grains.The cost to attend this infor- mative workshop is $15. For registration information, call 225-4835. 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