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Friday, October 1, 2010 – Daily News – 5A FEATURES Heedless hubby hunting harlots Dear Annie: What do you do when you have been with someone for almost 40 years and he keeps becom- ing infatuated with other women? A few years ago, my hus- band became interested in a woman young enough to be his daughter. He called her at all hours, and the e-mails were never-ending. He’d sneak out to meet her and lie about where he had been. He even kissed her every time they met, although he claimed he was too old to do anything more. I think this woman actually loved him. When he ended it, I thought he was finally maturing. He is now infatuated with some- one else. This time it’s text messag- ing, phone calls and e-mails, and attending functions where she is present. Sometimes he even takes me with him. And the kissing con- tinues. She encourages him. When confronted, he claims it’s all in my head and nothing is going on. I am ready to explode. I am not Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Or get your own apartment. Or file for a legal separation or divorce. You have several options to gain your ‘‘peace,’’ and we recom- mend you take one. There’s no reason to continue putting up with this. Dear Annie: My grown son lives several hours away, but we keep in contact through phone, e-mail and text. When I spoke with my father yesterday, I discov- ered he had generously signed over one of his vehicles to my son. This transaction took place more than a week ago, and yet my son made no mention of it. I knew he must have been very excited and sent him an e-mail say- ing I had just heard the good news, although I was hurt that he hadn’t said anything. His response absolutely floored me. He said he didn’t understand why my feelings were hurt, since the transaction was between his grandfather and him and didn’t concern me. leaving, but he certainly is welcome to. My life with him has been no bed of roses, but I thought when he got older things would improve. But instead of physical and verbal abuse, I now have to put up with emotional abuse. He sees nothing wrong with this. Don’t bother recommending counseling. I’m not interested. I would simply like him to leave so I can have some peace in my older years. — Needed To Vent Dear Vent: So ask him to leave. I am beside myself. Am I being unrealistic, or was this an extremely rude response? — California Dear California: Sorry, Mom. Your son is a grown man. He is enti- tled to acquire a car from Grandpa or anyone else without telling you about it. It doesn’t mean he isn’t close to you. But the sooner you can respect his independence and priva- cy the less likely your feelings are to be hurt. Dear Annie: I disagree with your advice to ‘‘Parentless Parent,’’ whose mother is toxic. You said she might want to send a photograph once a year. I have cut off my parents, espe- cially my mother, for very good rea- sons. Sometimes you just need to let them go. My mother has tried to undermine my relationship with my husband since the day we met. She says hurtful things that are disguised as ‘‘helpful’’ comments. I told my mother I wouldn’t stand for it and she needed to stop. But she kept going and now has no contact with my son. For parents who are like mine, keeping up contact once a year with a photo opens the door for them to try to push their way back in. My marriage has been much better since I cut off my parents. It may hurt to do so, but it is sometimes best for the sake of your family. — Sad but Happy in the Midwest Dear Midwest: Everyone learns to cope with difficult parents in their own way. Some children manage it better than others, and some parents can be too hard to handle altogether. It is sad that your mother is so toxic that it is impossible to have any con- tact whatsoever. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. High bid, low bid, bid Koi at auction COTTONWOOD — The Shasta Koi & Water Gar- den Club will hold its annual Koi auction at 10 a.m. Saturday, Oct. 16, at 19540 Broadhurst Road, off Bow- man Road. Club members that have extra fish bring their fish to the auction location and everyone is welcome to bid on Koi of all ages and colors and to learn more about he The following defen- dants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney’s Office: —————— Recent State Prison Commitments: • Monte Lee Vansickle was sentenced to 16 months in state prison for driving while having a 0.08 percent or higher blood alcohol with three prior convictions. A deputy conducted a traffic stop on a vehicle driven by the Vansickle. Upon contacting Van- sickle the deputy noticed the odor of alcohol on his breath. He failed the field sobriety tests and was taken into custody. Recent County Jail Commitments: • Phillip Wayne Burchfield was sentenced to 365 days in Tehama County Jail for assault with a deadly weapon. Officers were dis- patched to a residence regarding a disturbance. Upon arrival officers were advised Burchfield had got into a physical fight with the victim, pointed a gun at him and threatened to shoot him. The victim’s father then knocked Burchfield’s arm down causing the Barber Shop $ Cheers 600 Open 6 days 570-2304 259 S. Main St. Tractor Supply Center Senior Cuts gun to discharge into the floor. Burchfield then fled the residence. • Jesse Lea Coulter was sentenced to 270 days in Tehama County Jail for second degree commercial burglary. Officers were dis- patched to an alarm sounding at a local busi- ness. Upon arriving at the location an officer was able to observe Coulter duck behind a counter inside the busi- ness and then run outside where she fled on foot. Coulter was located a short time later and taken into custody. • Jaki Allanna Dietz was sentenced to 180 days in Tehama County Jail for possession of a controlled substance with a firearm. An officer made a con- sensual contact with Dietz after noticing her standing in front of a closed business. The offi- cer was advised Dietz has outstanding traffic war- rants and she was placed under arrest. A search of Dietz’s purse revealed a .25 caliber automatic pis- tol, syringes and methamphetamine. Recent Proposition 36 Commitments: Note: All cases where- in a defendant is sen- The Electric Man For all your electrical needs • New Outlets / 220 • Fans / Fixtures • Pools / Spas • Code Corrections • Troubleshooting • Panel Upgrade • Telephone Wiring $10.00 Customer Discount FREE Estimates License# 826543 347-4441 Dr. Andrew PomazalD.O. Physician & Surgeon General Medicine Saturday Appointments Available • High Blood Pressure • Diabetes • Joint & Muscle Pain • Lung Problems We offer Osteopathic Manipulation 530 528-2066 2050 Main St, Red Bluff Accepting New Patients club and its activities. The auction has an auctioneer knowledgeable of the various types of Koi and each bidder gets a plaque with a number on it just like any auction. Come join the fun of bidding for your favorite fish and taking it home to your pond. For information and directions, call 917-0930. COURT ROUND-UP tenced per the terms of Proposition 36 are not at the request of the Tehama County District Attor- ney’s Office. Per the requirements of Proposi- tion 36, a defendant who possesses drugs cannot be sentenced to confine- ment time in jail or prison. Instead, the court must place defendant on probation and require drug treatment alone. Per the requirements of Proposition 36, only upon a third drug related probation violation may the court impose confine- ment time. In the event the defendant violates a non-drug related term of probation the court may then elect to sentence defendant to jail or prison. The Tehama County District Attorney’s Office contends that each crimi- nal case is unique and that in certain, specific, cases a defendant should be sentenced to a combi- nation of drug treatment and jail time. We further contend that in other spe- cific cases where a defen- dant has an extensive criminal record and/or a history of non-compli- ance with either previous grants of probation or previous grants of drug treatment, a state prison sentence should properly be imposed. • Christopher Wilson was sentenced to Prop. 36 probation for posses- sion of a controlled sub- stance. Wilson was contacted at his residence regarding an active warrant and taken into custody. After conducting a search of Wilson a deputy was able to locate about one gram of methamphetamine in his shorts. • Martin Ray Hulse- man was sentenced to Prop. 36 probation for transportation of a con- trolled substance. Hulseman was a pas- senger in a vehicle that was stopped for a vehicle code violation. Upon contacting Hulseman he appeared nervous and acting as though he was trying to conceal some- thing. During a search of the vehicle the deputy located a marijuana pipe, a hypodermic syringe and methamphetamine. Did med cause skin condition? DEAR DR. GOTT: While in Vietnam, I was tak- ing a dapsone pill daily, as the Army suggested. Unknown to me, I had an allergy to the pill and became methemoglobine- mic. I stopped tak- ing the pill, but still have lichen planus on my legs and buttocks that comes and goes. I can go weeks with no trouble, then I have a breakout that will last for up to a month before clearing. I read that the dapsone could be the cause of the onset of the lichen planus. Can you tell me if this is right or wrong? Where can I find more information? additives to pre- vent meat from spoiling. Dr. Peter Gott Symptoms pre- sent with shortness of breath, headache, fatigue and a blue tint to the skin. The treat- ment of choice is methylene blue. Alternati v e s include exchange DEAR READER: Dap- sone is commonly pre- scribed to treat dermatitis, herpetiformis (a skin condi- tion that commonly appears on the elbows and knees), acne, infection and more. Lichen planus appears in the mouth or on the skin as an itchy, swollen rash. While its exact cause is unknown, it is thought to be related to an allergic or immune reaction, from exposure to specific med- ications, chemical sub- stances that include gold rings or necklaces, hepatitis C and other causes. Diagnosis is made through visual examination or skin-lesion biopsy. Once made, treatment might include antihistamines, lidocaine mouthwashes, topical corticosteroids, creams, ointments or ultra- violet-light therapy. The condition may last for an extended period, but is gen- erally not harmful. Methemoglobinemia is a blood disorder that occurs when an abnormal amount of a type of hemoglobin builds up in the blood. There are two inherited forms. The first is passed on by both parents, who don’t ordinarily have the condition themselves but carry a gene that causes it. The second form is known as hemoglobin M disease, caused by a defect in the hemoglobin molecule itself. In this case, only one parent passes on the abnor- mal gene. The acquired type is more common than the inherited form and occurs following exposure to anes- thetics, specific antibiotics and nitrates that are used as transfusions and hyperbar- ic-oxygen therapy. From your brief expla- nation, my guess is that you were prescribed dapsone because of lichen planus. While you may have been allergic to the medication, I don’t believe it was the cause of your lichen planus but was the treatment of choice because of it. If I have misinterpreted your letter, we can take it up again at a later date. To provide related infor- mation, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report “Blood — Donations and Disorders.” Other readers who would like a copy should send a self- addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order made payable to Newsletter and mailed to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092-0167. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDrGottMD.com. DEAR DR. GOTT: I read about the woman with cramping problems. There is a solution that works for me and many others. Sim- ply pinch the groove between your nose and upper lip, and the cramp will go away. I believe this involves acupressure. DEAR READER: Acu- pressure is an ancient heal- ing art that uses the fingers to press against specific areas of the body for the release of muscular ten- sion. It promotes the circu- lation of blood, and can relieve pain, ease tension and arthritis, and a great deal more. Thanks for writ- ing. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com Oh Snap! The Daily News wants your photos: Cute kids, Adorable pets, Inspirational sights, Any shot you think readers would enjoy You might just see it in the Daily News Send pictures to editor@redbluffdailynews.com or drop off at 545 Diamond Ave. in Red Bluff. Include a caption. 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