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2B Daily News – Tuesday, September 10, 2013 FEATURES Hubby drinks too much, refuses to see doc Cut sugar but don't that the doctor will discover Dear Annie: I am a 34damage from the drinking, year-old wife and mother of but they are unwilling to four. My husband is 44 and stop. If your husband's drinks on a daily basis. I drinking has increased, he don't mind a few cans of may also be depressed and beer when he gets home. self-medicating. However, he drinks at least You can try talking to a six-pack, usually more, him about these possibilievery day after work. I'm tired of arguing with him Annie's ties. Unfortunately, he may not be willing to admit any about his drinking. He of this or change his behavalways responds, "At least I drink at home and not at the by Kathy Mitchell ior, in which case, the best and Marcy Sugar you can do is protect yourbar." self. Make sure he has a My husband also refuses to get an annual physical exam. He valid will and his affairs are in never sees a doctor or a dentist, order. And contact Al-Anon (aleven if he is sick. I'm really worried anon.alateen.org) for support. Dear Annie: Two years ago, my about his health. I want him to live long enough for our children to husband and I bought a condo so we could spend our winters in a warm reach adulthood. I have asked my husband climate. We have family members whether he will let me take him for who are now inviting themselves to a physical. If the doctor says he is "visit," which means they are vacahealthy, my heart will be at peace. I tioning while we do all the work. We think he is being selfish, only think- enjoy these relatives, but for a shorting of himself. He talks so much of er time period. And having their own pride. But he doesn't consider what accommodations would be ideal. How would you suggest we hanwould happen to his family if anything were to happen to him. My dle this? We don't want to hurt anyyoungest child is only 4. How do I one's feelings, but we are not very get him to cut back on his drinking excited about these yearly winter and see a doctor? — Worried Wife visitors, and I feel used. — N. in Dear Worried: We don't think Arizona Dear N.: Unless you tell these your husband is being intentionally selfish. We think he is afraid. Peo- people they cannot stay with you, ple who avoid doctors and dentists they will continue to impose. Simoften do so because they fear what ply say, "It would be wonderful to the doctor will find. Those with a see you. Unfortunately, we aren't drinking problem may be concerned up to hosting guests. Here are the Mailbox names of local hotels. Let us know when you get settled." If anyone ends up at your condo, don't be reluctant to ask them to pitch in with the groceries, cooking and cleaning. You did not, after all, invite them. Perhaps they will decide it isn't quite so appealing as a "vacation" spot. At the very least, you won't be doing all of the work. Dear Annie: I read the response from "Fran," who took exception to your response to "Perplexed," saying that kids shouldn't have to call their parents every day, even if it only takes five minutes. I am a 61-year-old male. My grandmother used to live a block away. When I was a child, my mother would go see her every evening even if it was only for five minutes. One evening, I asked my mother why she went every single evening to see Grandma. She simply looked at me and said, "Because tomorrow I may never get to talk to her again." I understood exactly what she meant. P.S.: Grandma passed away five years later. — Loving Dad in Pennsylvania Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Vinyard plans release party In honor of the dedicated vineyard volunteers who help with harvest each year, Burnsini Vineyards & Winery in Cottonwood will introduce its latest red blend, Friends, 1-4 p.m. Saturday, Sept. 14. "We wouldn't be where we are today without the help of our friends," says Tom Burnham, co-owner. "We wanted to make a wine that says thank you to our community." Finished in American and French oak, Friends is a blend of Zinfandel, Merlot and Petite Sirah grapes. Packaged in a traditional bottle with a fun label that gives a nod to the young and young-at-heart community that helps make Burnsini successful, Friends is the perfect wine to give as a gift or to open while surrounded by family or friends. For nearly 25 years, Tom and Joy Burnham along with their longtime friends, Jim and Deanna Tomasini — their last names combine to form Burnsini — have been dedicated to growing quality grapes and making delicious red wines. Hobby turned to business in 2000 when Burnsini became a bonded winery. Thirteen years later, the winery continues to thrive, adding selections like Friends to its growing wine list. To celebrate Friends, the Burnhams and Tomasinis invite guests to sample their latest release as well as other bold reds in Burnsini's rustic-inspired tasting room. In addition to tasting, visitors will have a chance to tour the winemaking facilities and vineyard. Food and entertainment will be provided. "We'll have plenty of hors d'oeuvres, wine and music," says Burnham. "And if you want, you can buy a bottle of wine then go out back to relax and listen to music." Those interested in joining other North State wine enthusiasts for wine, food and fun at Burnsini Vineyards & Winery should RSVP to burnsinivineyds@aol.co m by Saturday, Sept. 7. Burnsini Vineyards, at 19535 Hammers Lane in Cottonwood, is a family-owned and operated winery specializing in varietals like Sangiovese, Zinfandel, Merlot, Cabernet Sauvignon and Petite Sirah, and two red blends. The vineyard sits on 10 acres at 700 feet elevation where grapes thrive in warm summers and mild winters. All wines are produced and bottled on site then aged for two years in American and French oak barrels. For more information, call 530-347-4765 or email Tom at burnsinivineyds@aol.co m. replace with artificial You'll only crave DEAR DOCsweets more. TOR K: I want to — Keep sugary cut down on sugar foods away. Don't in my diet. Are tempt yourself by artificial sweetenkeeping candy, ers the answer? cookies and soda DEAR READin your house. ER: You're wise to Stock your fruit reduce the amount Dr. K bowl instead. of sugar you conby Anthony L. — Retrain your sume. Sugar, particularly added Komaroff, M.D. taste buds. Eat a healthy diet made sugar in foods and beverages, leads to weight up of more satisfying gain — and excess weight foods — whole grains, increases your risk of fruits, vegetables, healthy heart disease, diabetes, oils and lean protein. — Sweeten foods yourhigh blood pressure and self. Start with unsweetother health problems. Sugar comes in many ened iced tea, plain yogurt forms, including honey, and unflavored oatmeal. brown rice syrup, corn Add your own sweetener syrup and molasses. You in the smallest amounts to be satisfying. It may surwant to limit all of them. Artificial sweeteners prise you to see how little are sugar-free and typical- sugar you need to add. — Watch for hidden ly lower in calories than sugar. All of the sweeten- sugars. Read food labels ers on the market are con- to find out how much sidered safe. Earlier sugar is in the foods you reports linking saccharin buy. Avoid products that and aspartame to cancer list sugar as the first ingredient or that contain severhave been disproved. So artificial sweeteners al different types of sugar. Many of my patients might seem like a healthier option than sugar. But try to achieve or maintain a healthy weight by avoidthat idea is controversial. Dr. Michelle Hauser, ing fats but ignore the certified chef, nutrition importance of sugar. educator and clinical fel- They've heard that, ounce low in medicine at Har- for ounce, fat has more vard Medical School, calories than sugar. That's explains it this way: On true, but there are healthy the one hand, artificial fats and unhealthy fats. sweeteners such as aspar- It's important to make that tame (NutraSweet, Equal), distinction. The unhealthy saccharin (Sweet'N Low) fats to avoid are saturated and sucralose (Splenda) and trans fats. You can can reduce the number of check for them on the calories in your diet. Obvi- Nutrition Facts label of ously, that makes it easier packaged foods. The fats for you to achieve or main- you need for health are monounsaturated and tain a healthy weight. fats: But artificial sweeten- polyunsaturated ers are generally hundreds Don't avoid those. In contrast, generally — or even thousands — of times sweeter than avoiding foods rich in sugar. There is some evi- sugar is always a healthy dence that they may make choice. you crave sweets even Dr. Komaroff is a more. I don't regard that physician and professor evidence as solid, but it is at Harvard Medical plausible. To send You can cut down on School. questions, go to sugar without replacing it or with artificial sweeteners. AskDoctorK.com, write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Here are some tips: — Don't eliminate all Shattuck St., Second sugary foods at once. Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Local teachers benefit from rewards program Walmart awarded Sept. 9 20 teachers from Maywood Middle School with $50 reward cards to purchase classroom supplies that will help students start the school year off right as part of the company's Teacher Rewards program. For the fifth year, Walmart will donate up to $4.5 million to provide 90,000 teachers across the United States with reward cards to help offset the cost of classroom expenses at the beginning of the school year. These funds come at a critical time, as many teachers will spend an Want to lose some weight? Scared of the gym? Worried you won't like it? Never been to Tehama Family Fitness Center? If you have answered yes to any of these questions we've got your solution! Take advantage of a estimated $500 of their own money to ensure their students have the supplies they need to learn throughout the school year. 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