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Thursday, September 5, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Reader, mother speaking different languages Tablet angle key to this. It's not normal. I susDear Annie: I am a 35pect my mother wants to feel year-old man. Years ago, like the boss of the situation. my mother developed a bad What do you say? — N.Y. habit. Whenever I was in Dear N.Y.: Every parent the passenger side of the we know does this. You car, if she stopped short, interpret it as controlling and she would put her arm manipulative, but it is done against my chest to prevent out of an instinctive impulse me from going through the windshield. This infuriated Annie's to protect someone they love. Try to recognize that me. I'm already wearing a your feelings could indicate seatbelt, and there is no way a woman her size by Kathy Mitchell a skewed perspective about could protect me. Every and Marcy Sugar Mom's motives and may be coloring your entire relatime she did this, I would yell, ''Keep your hands on the tionship. The two of you don't seem to communicate in the same lanwheel!'' Eventually, she stopped. My mother has always looked guage. Please explore this with a for ways to control me. She com- professional counselor and work on plains about every problem under ways to relate in a healthier and the sun, and when I offer a workable more productive manner. And ask solution, she says, ''Well, some your mother to go, too. We suspect people can't afford to do those she could benefit, as well. Dear Annie: I recently broke up things,'' and we end up arguing. Her arguments are always stupid, and with a 70-year-old man who could she'll flip sides to make me look not stop ogling women and making like the aggressor. It's very manipu- sexually inappropriate remarks to them. I talked to him about it many lative and makes me furious. In the past two years, I've avoid- times and clearly stated that this is ed seeing or speaking to my parents. emotional cheating and he should Recently, Mom asked me to see my stop or we'd be finished. He didn't grandmother. Against my better change, and it escalated to ogling judgment, I went with her, and out strangers on elevators and women at of the blue, she did that thing again, parties. It was creepy. I was humiliputting her arm across my chest ated and embarrassed. After I broke up with him, I found out that he when she stopped suddenly. sexually inappropriate I told her to pull over. She said, made ''I'm sorry, but I get nervous.'' I remarks to some very young girls, said, ''Then I don't think I can trust saying he wanted to see them you to drive'' and walked home. I naked. I suggested therapy. He said don't know anyone else who does all men do this and told me to relax. Mailbox A friend of mine says he is a sexual predator and probably a sex addict. He always reads your column. Maybe you can shed some light. Is it a mental deficit or emotional cheating? — Wondering in Canada Dear Canada: Both. If this inappropriate behavior began within the past few years, it could be an indication of early dementia. Suggest he see his doctor. However, if he has always been like this, it is not only emotional cheating, but also worrisome. When you say ''very young girls,'' how young? If you believe he is preying on underage girls, please report him to the authorities. Dear Annie: ''Leave Us Alone'' should tell her relatives they don't want to start a family they can't fully support. They should say they have set up two funds — one to pay off their college loans and one for future children. When their loans are paid off and the one for future children is completely funded, they will consider trying. Then ask the nosy family member how much they are willing to contribute. — Some Humor in Dallas Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Patriot Day ceremony planned in Redding The Enterprise Lions Club, Redding Fire Department and Cal Fire personnel are coordinating a Patriot Day ceremony at 7 a.m. Sept. 11 by the giant flag on North Bechelli Lane. Music by the Enterprise High School Band and CDF Firefighter Bagpipes will start at 6:45 a.m. The event is expected to last about 45 minutes. A Color Guard of firefighters, police and military personnel will be hoisting a 30' X 50' American flag to half-staff as part of the ceremony. The event is free for all and will include a flag salute and paying tribute to those who serve. Emcee and speakers will recall the 9-11 events to military happenings around the world. Red Cross urges emergency preparedness SACRAMENTO — Disasters can strike quickly and often without warning. During National Preparedness Month, the American Red Cross Capital Region encourages all households to get ready for the next emergency or disaster. "Having a game plan in place is essential for all households so everyone knows what they should do when an emergency occurs," said Kathleen Weis, CEO for the Red Cross Capital Region. "National Preparedness Month is a perfect time for people to take action, learn and understand their disaster risks, and create or update their emergency plan." The last several weeks have been a strong reminder of some of the risks within the Capital Region as several large wildfires have continued to capture the nation's attention. The Rim Fire burning in Tuolumne County near Yosemite has raged for two weeks, becoming one of the largest wildfires in California history. Since August 17, Red Cross volunteers from the Capital Region have operated an evacuation shelter at the Mother Lode Fairgrounds in Sonora where residents have sought refuge from the smoke and flames – some having had only minutes to leave their homes. When disaster strikes, will you be ready? There are several things families can do to ensure they are ready if and when the time comes: MAKE A PLAN It is important that everyone in the household helps put the emergency plan together and knows what they should do if something occurs. Household members may not be together when a disaster happens – during the day many people are at work and school. The plan should include ways to contact one another and two predetermined places to meet – one near the home in case of a sudden emergency like a fire, and one outside the neighborhood in case circumstances prevent people from returning home. People should also identify an emergency contact person from outside the area in case local telephone lines are overloaded or out of service. Any emergency plan should also include decisions about where family members will go if ordered to evacuate and what route they will take to get there. It's a good idea to include alternate routes in case roads are closed. If pets are part of the household, make sure to include plans for them such as pet-friendly hotels and animal shelters along the evacuation route. RED CROSS APPS The Red Cross has free mobile apps that provide information on what to do before, during and after emergencies including developing an emergency plan. "People can use the 'Make a Plan' feature in the apps to create their plan and then share it with their loved ones," Weis said. "The pre- loaded content in the apps gives people access to vital information to use during emergencies, even if they can't connect to the internet." The apps can be downloaded from the Apple App Store and the Google Play Store for Android by searching for American Red Cross. OTHER WAYS TO GET READY Another step to get one's household ready is to build an emergency kit in a container that is easy to carry so the family can use it at home or take it with them if asked to evacuate. It should contain a three-day supply of water (one gallon, per person, per day), nonperishable food, a flashlight, battery-powered or hand-crank radio, extra batteries, a first aid kit, a 7-day supply of medications, a multi-purpose tool, sanitation and personal hygiene items and copies of important personal documents. The Red Cross also recommends having at least two weeks worth of emergency supplies at home. Everyone also needs to stay informed about what types of disasters are most likely to occur where they live or where they plan to visit. It is also important to take a First Aid and CPR/AED course—a vital component of disaster preparedness in case emergency help is delayed. For more information on how to prepare for emergencies, people can visit redcross.org or contact the Capital Region offices at (916) 993-7070. avoiding neck pain top or notebook DEAR DOCcomputer. This can TOR K: I love my cause strain and tablet computer, even injuries to but my neck hurts muscles, nerves, every time I use it. tendons, ligaments Any suggestions? and spinal discs. DEAR READHowever, when ER: Using a tablet you view a tablet computer shouldn't be a pain in the Dr. K that is on a table, propped at a steep neck, but for all too by Anthony L. many people, it is. Komaroff, M.D. angle in a tablet case, you have Why? Widely popular tablets such as the much less neck strain and iPad, Nook, Kindle Fire, pain. The research team didXoom and others are so light and easy to handle n't study what's best for the that you can hold one on hands and wrists, assuming your lap or in your hand. you use your tablet for That can put you in a posi- tasks that need typing. tion that's bad for your However, here's what I tell neck, shoulders and back. my patients if they plan to But simply adjusting your do a lot of typing (such as viewing angle should pro- answering a lot of emails): — Don't work with the vide relief. Dr. Jack Dennerlein and tablet in your lap. Use a his colleagues at the Har- table and chair. — Use a tablet case that vard School of Public Health looked into the holds the tablet at a comproblem. Using an infrared fortable viewing angle. — Use a keyboard, 3-D motion analysis system, they tracked how dif- instead of the keyboard ferent tablet positions screen on the tablet: If the tablet screen is propped up affect the body. Specifically, they looked at the ideal angle to see, it at what happened to a per- will be hard to type on. son's neck. Your neck And there are very light houses the top of your wireless keyboards for spine, which is a stack of tablets (that's what I use). — Shift your hands, small bones called cervical vertebrae. Your neck bones your weight, or even stand and muscles prefer it when up when you can. — Take a break every your spine is straight — as when you are standing with 15 minutes. If all you want to do is your head erect. Your neck muscles get strained when read on your tablet, use a your neck has to bend for- device that props it up. Or use a device that rests on ward and downward. This is what the research the floor by your feet and team found: When you are holds a tablet propped up at working with a tablet held the correct angle in front of on the lap or placed flat on you, like a music stand. a table, your neck has to You can just read and tap bend much more to see the the screen to flip the page, tablet screen — compared your neck in the position it with working with a desk- likes best. HOME SERVICES DIRECTORY TWO SIZES TO CHOOSE FROM Full Size $ Half Size Online: Publishes 24/7 www.redbluffdailynews.com 112 67 $ .50 Three additional online locations at no extra cost! In Print and Online Every Tues. - Thurs.- Sat. No early cancellation, non-refundable Per Month Per Month Clock Repair Construction Grandpa's Clocks Burrows Construction Your Clock Repair Shop Jim Paul 20910 Pebblestone Dr. Red Bluff 530-736-7079 Mechanical, Battery and Electrical clocks Call for appt. 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