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Tuesday, August 13, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Smoother school registration step of the regisDear Annie: It tration process, is back-to-school and I usually have time for millions to send 15 percent of young people. I of the kids back am an instructor at through the long a community colline because they lege and would missed a step. like to offer some 5. Turn off suggestions to make the registra- Annie's your cellphone. I need your full tion process attention to comsmoother for students. by Kathy Mitchell plete a multistep 1. See the and Marcy Sugar process to ensure that you have school counselor at least two weeks before your schedule, your funds registration. If you wait get processed and you until registration week, have the proper receipts. Go to the first day of the counselors will be class even if you have not extremely busy. 2. College is not free. paid. That is when Scholarships and grants instructors go over expecmust be applied for tations and explain assignmonths in advance, not ments. Some even lecture. the day of registration. If I want my students to be you do not have the successful. Come see me paperwork in your hand, in my office, even if only be prepared to pay. The to say hello. I am here to payout plan offered by help. — Lou Ann Everett, my school must be linked Trinity Valley Community to a credit card or bank College, Terrell, Texas Dear Lou Ann account. Check with the school ahead of time to Everett: Thank you for be sure you have the your helpful advice for especially required information for students, checks or credit cards. incoming freshmen. We My school requires about hope they pay attention. Dear Annie: My wife seven pieces of information. You will need sepa- and daughter (age 33) rate checks for the book- don't get along. There is history between them store and tuition. 3. Only the student from when our daughter should go to registration. was an adolescent. For the Do not take parents, past few years, they have grandparents, siblings, gotten along better, but I children or friends. Small always sensed a dark children have unplugged cloud on the horizon. We visited our daughmy computer and vomited in my office. ''Heli- ter last week. Everything copter'' parents have been went well until the day some of our worst before we left. My wife headaches. They make made some offhand comnasty comments about the ment, my daughter overrecost of tuition and books, acted, and it went downover which I have no con- hill from there. They are trol, and it embarrasses not talking to each other now. their kids. My wife tends to be 4. Read all of the signs with directions and hypercritical, and my instructions. I am the last daughter doesn't know Mailbox how to deal with it. I try to play peacemaker, but I don't like being in the middle, and neither of them listens to me. Any ideas? — Caught in the Middle Dear Caught: If your wife and daughter truly wish to change this dysfunctional pattern, it likely will require professional counseling to figure out how to behave in a more productive way. You can suggest it, but otherwise, we recommend you stay out of the middle and maintain these relationships individually. Dear Annie: ''Open but Lost'' had an open marriage, and you astutely asked whether her husband really wanted it. My wife wanted an open marriage based on advice received from her support group. I agreed reluctantly. I painfully experienced having to hear phone calls from her suitors. The bottom line was that I experienced a total loss of trust and commitment, and it finally led to our divorce. Years later, my ex apologized to me for what she had done and asked for my forgiveness. I've been happily married to my second wife for 21 years. My ex is on her fourth marriage. — Not the Thing To Do Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.n et, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Products help most cases of dry eyes with low humidity. Certain comDEAR DOCTOR K: I have dry monly used medicines reduce the eyes. What are my treatment production of tears, including options? antihistamines, birth control pills DEAR READER: Tears are and selective serotonin receptor not just for crying. Your eyes are antagonists (SSRIs), often used constantly making small amounts to treat depression. of tears to keep the surface of the Over-the-counter artificial eye and the underside of the eyetears mimic the makeup of naturlids moist. 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