Up & Coming Weekly

August 17, 2010

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NEWS OF THE WEIRD by CHUCK SHEPPARD The Outer Frontiers of U.S. Immigration Policy: The $125 million Jay Peak ski resort in Vermont, with 120-room hotel, ice arena, golf course and the Northeast’s largest water park, is just months away from completion, thanks to half-million-dollar investments from each of 250 foreign nationals from 43 countries who, as part of the deal, were given conditional U.S. “green cards” (for permanent residency). At the other end of America’s immigration conundrum, prosecutors in Snohomish County, Wash., dropped the rape charge in July against illegal immigrant Jose Madrigal-Lopez, 46, for lack of evidence and released him back onto the street. Madrigal-Lopez has been deported from the U.S. 10 times already but keeps returning. [ABC News-AP, 7-8-10] [Seattle Times, 7-9-10] Can’t Possibly Be True Two-year-old Ardi Rizal of Banyuasin, Indonesia, has developed a two-pack-a-day cigarette habit, according to several news organizations that splashed his story around the world in May, with video of Ardi casually puffi ng away as he frolics on his tricycle. Said Ardi’s mother, “If he doesn’t get cigarettes, he gets angry and screams and batters his head against the wall.” Ardi’s father, noting the kid’s pudginess, seems not to sense the problem: “He looks pretty healthy to me.” An additional concern is fi nancial: Ardi will smoke only one particular premium brand, at a cost of the equivalent of about $5.50 a day. [New York Daily News, 5-26-10, Daily Mail (London), 5-27-10] With heroin too expensive for many African addicts, some ask an addicted friend for a temporary fi x — withdrawing a teaspoonful of the friend’s heroin-tinged blood and injecting it into their own bloodstream. Evidence of this practice (called “fl ashblood”) comes from anecdotes from health offi cials in Tanzania, Zanzibar and Kenya, reported in The New York Times in July. Doctors said they question the euphoria-producing quality of such tiny amounts of heroin, but are certain that fl ashblood will potently deliver any HIV present in the donor’s blood. [New York Times, 7-13-10] Motherly Love Ranay Collins, 49, was arrested in Las Vegas in June and charged with beating her 16-year-old daughter with a cane. The arresting offi cer quoted Collins’ explanation: “That (expletive) owes me $50 for rent.” [KTNV-TV (Las Vegas), 6-25-10] COPYRIGHT 2010 CHUCK SHEPHERD (c)2010, Amy Alkon, all rights reserved. WWW.UPANDCOMINGWEEKLY.COM AUGUST 18-24, 2010 UCW 23 WEEKLY HOROSCOPES BY HOLIDAY ARIES (March 21-April 19) Someone dear has the wrong attitude. Through gentle persuasion and your stellar example, you will move a loved one from one set of beliefs to an entirely different set of beliefs — perhaps even an opposing set of beliefs. And this you’ll do with great skill. TAURUS (April 20-May 20) You will take on new horizons and be clever and innovative in your approach. And though you initially believe you can do everything in a new way, it will serve you to learn the old way fi rst. Then you’ll know the obstacles — which ones you can skip over and which ones you will have to go around. GEMINI (May 21-June 21) In at least one area of your life, you are now doing the very thing you wanted to do years ago. This is, in part, the vision you had for yourself. You are a powerful creator, and you can take that vote of confi dence into your next big adventure. CANCER (June 22-July 22) You just need to vent. Friends and family will hear you — but only for a time. But if you turn to a journal instead, you can rant on for as long as you like. Plus, you’ll work out a few key details and in the process unlock the secret to improving your circumstances. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) Your dreams will be vivid this week, though you’ll still forget most of them. Ponder the meaning and you’ll agree with the poet Edgar Allan Poe about the illusory nature of this existence: “All that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream.” VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) There are those you’ll have trouble communicating with, and you might be tempted to consider this your problem. But you’re only half to blame. Communication is a joint effort, requiring participation from both parties. The good news is that your life improves markedly once you solve this communication issue. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) Turn out the lights, and you’ll quickly realize the truth about your eyes. They don’t see objects, only the light refl ecting off of objects. Similarly, it’s not your experiences that really count so much as your interpretation of experiences. You’ll make an ef- fort to see things as shiny and new this week, and soon it’s second nature. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21)This is no time for asking “how,” and asking “why” is even worse. Dwell instead on the luscious emotions you want to feel — the euphoria of having crossed the fi n- ish line. Conjure up the good vibes, and stay there as long as possible. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) You have practiced a skill well. From here, you can give up the struggle without giving up the fi ght — and that’s exactly what you will do. The battle is over, but the challenges keep coming. You handle each one from a powerful, detached, unemotional place. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) There’s an old English saying that’s perfect for you this week, “If you don’t tell people where your goat is tied up, then they can’t get your goat.” You’ll keep your emotions under wraps. You’ll fi nd tricks to keep yourself calm, steady and clearheaded — therefore, powerful in your life. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) There are times when being a control freak is the best way. For instance, this week: It’s your name on the line, and you are in fact the one who stands to lose or gain the most in the end. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) Take all the “shoulds” off of your list. Be OK with the fact that there are some things you just don’t feel like doing. For you to make an endeavor a priority, it will have to be exciting enough to ignite a fi re in your belly. You’ll know immediately. You won’t be able to not do it. By Holiday Mathis ADVICE GODDESS Not Wanton Any I started seeing this amazing guy, but had to initiate most of the making out. He soon dumped me, saying he has little experience and was freaking out. (He’s 40, and has only had three girlfriends.) We got back together, but he still wasn’t initiating, and six months in, still hadn’t had sex with me. After a perfect date, I told him I wanted to make love to him. He said he wasn’t up for that kind of attachment, hightailed it out of my place, and ended it again. We’re friends now, but I’ve fallen totally in love with him. I can tell he’s attracted to me, but my friends think he’s gay or sexually dysfunctional. I told him I wouldn’t care about the latter. He’s too great to walk away from. He gets my weird artwork and disturbing humor, and we work great together on art projects. I’m considering making my upcoming 40th birthday my deadline and telling him what I REALLY want. If he cannot commit or initiate sex, I’m leaving! Right? —Frustrated There are some subtle signs that somebody’s attracted to you: dilated pupils, fl ushed face, heavier breath- ing, taking off out the back door like somebody fi red the gun at the begin- ning of a track meet… Yes, maybe Open every day, including Holidays! Come Dine with Us at Cafe Bordeaux! Serving… Breakfast Buffet Mon.-Fri., 6-10 a.m.; Sat., 6 a.m.-12 p.m. Lunch Mon.-Fri., 11 a.m.-2 p.m., featuring carved meats, soup & salad bar, a variety of entrees and side dishes Sunday Brunch from 11 a.m.-2 p.m., featuring our carve station and omelet & waffl e station www.hibordeaux.com 1707 Owen Drive Fayetteville, NC 28304 910-323-0111 Holiday Brunch hosted in the Grand Ballroom every Easter, Mother’s Day, Thanksgiving & Christmas he’s gay, maybe his man parts are on the fritz, or maybe he’s less interested in sex than in being slowly eaten alive by fi re ants. The why of this is unimportant; what matters is that you want something that he can’t provide. Come on, you know that continuing to demand sex and commitment from this guy is dumb — dumb like sitting yourself down in a vegan restaurant and refusing to leave until they bring you barbequed ribs with a side of hog cracklins. You’ve latched onto the common excuse for this sort of self-destructive behavior: “Help, I’ve fallen in love, and I can’t get up!” There’s a good chance you are in love — with the chase. You avoid admitting that this is a lost cause by clinging to “This would be so perfect, if only…” Yes, if only he were somebody totally different — a man who can’t wait to have sex with you instead of a man who probably redresses you with his eyes: Show cleavage, and he’ll mentally put you in a poncho. For your birthday, give yourself the gift of living while fully conscious. Identify men who are broken, pat them on the head, and send them on their way. The weirder your sensibilities, the harder it’ll be to fi nd a boyfriend who shares them. Maybe you can’t, but maybe you can make a bunch of friends who do. Relationships always require compromise, but there’s trying to make it work with a guy who likes sex in the morning when you like it in evening — and there’s trying to make it work with one who likes it on February 30th. Amy Alkon

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