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4A Daily News – Friday, July 26, 2013 FEATURES Cuckold harming children out of anger Tai Chi can help Parkinson's sufferers her, but she is so Dear Annie: A helpless and sad. year ago, our son, What do I do? — ''Don,'' discovered Confused Grandma that his wife of Dear Grandeight years was ma: Please stop cheating on him. It lying to your son. came as a shock to Either tell him the all of us. Don was truth or cease comdevastated and angry, and quickly Annie's munication with your ex-daughterdivorced his wife in-law. However, it and got full custody of their three by Kathy Mitchell is terribly wrong of young children. He and Marcy Sugar Don to prevent his ex from seeing the sold their home and bought one closer to us. children. He is still angry It was obvious that he want- and hurt, but in punishing ed to punish her. Our tight- her, he is also punishing knit family offered to help in them. They need their mother. They will not mistake her any way. Don's ex-wife, a woman presence for approval to we loved and cherished, cheat. The divorce is suffibecame Public Enemy No. cient for them to understand 1. She tried to call us a few how destructive her behavtimes, but Don told the fam- ior was. Please urge him to put ily, politely, that we should not answer her calls, and if his kids first and work out a she knocked on the door, we civil relationship with their shouldn't open it. He said it mother. They may otherwould be best for him and wise grow up feeling abanhis kids if we ignored her. I doned and angry, and if they ever learn that it was Dad said I would do my best. The problem is, I have who kept Mom away, they been in communication may never forgive him. If he with Don's ex. (Her lover needs counseling to reach broke things off after Don that point, encourage him to found out.) She sees me as get it. Dear Annie: I have a her only friend. Don won't let her near the children. He question regarding interrasays he doesn't want them cial attraction. Some of my to think cheating is OK. She friends have said they aren't was so depressed, I couldn't attracted to men of certain races. For example, my turn her down. If Don found out we white friend says she simply were in touch, he would be isn't attracted to black men. I find these comments furious and would never trust me again. My husband very offensive, especially wants me to cut off ties with because I am of mixed eth- Mailbox nicity, and if someone told me they weren't attracted to women of my race, I would be insulted. Are such comments acceptable? — Nebraska Dear Nebraska: No. At the very least, these comments are offensive because they stereotype. To say that one isn't attracted to a particular ethnic or racial group presumes that all people in that group look alike, when obviously they do not. People who make such remarks are bigoted, although they may not recognize it. You might be able to enlighten some of your friends by expressing how offensive these comments are to you. If nothing else, they will realize they cannot say such things without repercussions. Dear Annie: I'd like to add to your response to ''S,'' who asked how to address an envelope to a couple who are both doctors. My situation is slightly different. I am a physician. My husband does not have a doctoral degree of any kind. The proper way to address a formal envelope to us is ''Dr. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe,'' or ''Dr. Jane and Mr. John Doe.'' Most envelopes to us are addressed incorrectly. Many say ''Mrs. and Dr. John Doe,'' which makes absolutely no sense at all. Hopefully this will clarify things. — Lady Doctor in L.A. ing. DEAR DOCTOR K: I've The results? After six heard that tai chi may help peomonths, Parkinson's patients ple with Parkinson's disease. who did tai chi were stronger Could you please elaborate? and had much better balance DEAR READER: Parkinthan patients in the other two son's disease (PD) affects the groups. The tai chi group also brain. The earliest brain changes had significantly fewer falls probably begin when someone is and slower rates of decline in a young adult, but the symptoms Dr. K overall motor control. Tai chi is of the disease usually don't by Anthony L. a safe exercise. begin until much later in life. I have a dear friend who has Parkinson's disease interferes Komaroff, M.D. suffered from Parkinson's diswith muscle control, leading to trembling; stiffness and inflexibility of ease for more than 20 years. Somethe arms, legs, neck and trunk; loss of times, he just "froze": He just couldn't facial expression; trouble speaking will himself to speak or move. His docclearly; trouble swallowing; and a vari- tor suggested that when that happened ety of other symptoms. These changes he should try to break the freeze by interfere with the ability to carry out shouting. It was easier to shout a word or two than to speak them, and it everyday activities. Medications can help, but they worked — but it startled folks around sometimes have unwanted side effects. him. So he had an inspired idea. He asked So finding treatments other than medanother mutual friend, a professional ications would be a valuable advance. Tai chi is an ancient Chinese practice singer, to teach him to sing. Particularof slow, graceful movements that flow ly he wanted to sing songs that required smoothly from one pose to the next. a lot of smooth modulations — some During the choreographed moves, grad- phrases sung softly, and others sung ual shifts of weight from one foot to loudly and with passion. It seemed to another combine with rotating the trunk reduce the number of times that he and extending the limbs in a series of "froze." It was a kind of vocal tai chi. In his informative new book, "The challenges that help to improve balance. Tai chi strengthens and stretches Harvard Medical School Guide to Tai tight muscles. By enhancing balance Chi," my colleague Dr. Peter Wayne, and muscle strength, tai chi helps pre- with Mark Fuerst, explains the princivent falls and girds against physical ples and benefits of tai chi. He also provides a detailed description of a tai chi decline. But can patients with Parkinson's program you can perform at home. Tai disease reap these same benefits from chi has plenty of health benefits, even tai chi? A study recently published in for healthy people. You can learn more the New England Journal of Medicine about this book on my website, put that question to the test. 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