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Thursday, July 11, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Interratial relationship irks 'nana' choices are poor — Dear Annie: I if you pick abusers am 29 years old, or addicts, for own my home and example. But if support myself. I your guy is good to am in a serious relayou and you will tionship with a take care of each wonderful man other throughout who is Africanlife's ups and American. All of my life, Annie's downs, you do not need to please anymy family has been one else. While it ruled by my maternal grandmother. by Kathy Mitchell would be sad if My ''nana'' doesn't and Marcy Sugar your family cannot eventually learn to approve of this relationship because my accept this, please have the boyfriend is black and I am courage of your convictions. Dear Annie: My huswhite, and this has caused much heartache for me. My band and I recently traveled mother says I am not with another couple to a difallowed to bring my ferent city for a sporting boyfriend to family func- event. The area where we tions, because ''it will kill stayed had a shuttle bus to my grandmother.'' She also take us to the ballgame. After the game, our hussays I am selfish to continue this relationship despite the bands walked ahead of us, fact that my parents and and my friend and I were talking and didn't realize nana don't approve. Annie, I'm planning to that we were not walking marry this man. I don't feel toward the shuttle bus. By that I should have to give up the time we noticed, about my happiness because my 10 people were in line family cannot accept the between our husbands and man I have chosen to spend us. We said, ''Excuse me,'' my life with. How do I con- and tried to get to our husvince my parents that I'm bands, and at least four peoentitled to happiness regard- ple started screaming, less of what they think? I am ''Who do you think you are in so much pain because it trying to cut the line? You seems that my parents care New Yorkers just push more about my nana's feel- ahead of everybody.'' They continued to make ings than their daughter's uncomplimentary remarks future. — Devastated Dear Devastated: If this about New Yorkers (we is the man you are going to don't even live there anymarry, then do it and stop more). My friend and I just worrying about your fami- stood there because we didly's approval. You should n't want to get into an argupay attention to them if your ment. What should we have Mailbox done? — Judy Dear Judy: It might have helped if you had simply said, ''So sorry! Please excuse us. We need to catch up to our husbands,'' and then called to the men so they could confirm. But people are not obligated to let you pass them in line, and you were smart not to pick a fight with these belligerent folks. We trust your husbands saved you seats on the shuttle. Dear Annie: I disagree with your response to ''Rejected,'' whose wife spends her time online or with her widowed mother instead of in the bedroom. If this had been a woman writing about her husband, your first reaction would have been to suggest an affair. I think this explains everything. My ex used to do the same thing when she ''visited her aunt.'' I found out when I saw an envelope addressed to a P.O. Box and read about her sexual exploits. She is probably staying with him so she won't have to give him money in a divorce. — Been There and Had It Done to Me Dear Been: You could be right. However, he said they have been married for 34 years. For many women, sex after menopause becomes a miserable chore or even a painful experience. We wouldn't rule out an affair, but we think it's more likely she's simply avoiding intimacy. Kegel exercises for urinary incontinence tent mid-afternoon. In the DEAR DOCTOR K: I have course of a few hours you may urinary incontinence that started feel the urge four or five times. after I was treated for prostate Bladder retraining helps by cancer. What can I do? increasing the amount of urine DEAR READER: The involyour bladder can hold. In this untary leakage of urine, urinary technique you suppress your incontinence, unfortunately is a urge and gradually prolong the common — and aggravating — time between trips to the toilet. side effect of prostate cancer Dr. K This really works, but now and treatment. In some cases, inconby Anthony L. then there's a crisis. You've tinence improves on its own. If it doesn't, there are several Komaroff, M.D. ignored the urge, and ignored it again, and suddenly you're options for treating, or at least pretty sure you aren't going to hold it managing, the problem. Three main types of urinary inconti- and need to dash to the bathroom. The nence may develop after prostate can- trick is to know when your bladder is at its limit and go to the bathroom just cer treatment. If you have stress incontinence, you before you have to make that mad dash. Prescription medications, particularleak small amounts of urine when you cough, sneeze, exercise or put pressure ly oxybutynin (Ditropan), tolterodine on your bladder. Kegel exercises may (Detrol) and some antidepressants, can help strengthen the muscles in your be effective. The antidepressants aren't pelvic floor. This allows you to delay treating depression: They calm the sensations that come from your bladder. urinating until you reach a toilet. Overflow incontinence results when You may have thought that Kegel exercises were something only women your bladder cannot empty completely. do. In fact, the muscles that are As a result, urine dribbles out. Alpha strengthened with Kegel exercises are blocker drugs help to more fully empty the same in both sexes. (I've put a the bladder. Even if your incontinence can't be description of how to perform Kegel exercises on my website, AskDoc- cured, it can be managed. Absorbent underwear and highly absorbent distorK.com.) If your stress incontinence resulted posable pads can be worn with everyfrom having your prostate gland day clothing. A condom-like device can removed, bulking agents can help. A be fitted over your penis and connected physician injects a substance, usually to a drainage bag. Coping with incontinence can be collagen, into the area once occupied by your prostate. This supports your frustrating, but with time and patience, urethra so you don't lose urine as easi- you should be able to find an option that works. If your incontinence is ly. Urge incontinence occurs when your severe, you may need to consider bladder suddenly contracts and expels surgery. urine. You get an urge to urinate even Dr. Komaroff is a physician and though you know you emptied your bladder not long before. You urinate, professor at Harvard Medical School. send questions, go to and then get the urge again a half-hour To AskDoctorK.com, or write: Ask Doctor later. Urge incontinence often comes in waves. It may not bother you all morn- K, 10 Shattuck St., Second Floor, ing, for example, but it beomes insis- Boston, MA 02115. WORLD BRIEFING Marathon bombing suspect pleads not guilty BOSTON (AP) — His arm in a cast and his face swollen, a blase-looking Dzhokhar Tsarnaev pleaded not guilty Wednesday in the Boston Marathon bombing in a sevenminute proceeding that marked his first appearance in public since his capture in mid-April. As survivors of the bombing looked on, Tsarnaev, 19, gave a small, lopsided smile to his sisters upon arriving in the courtroom. He appeared to have a jaw injury and there was swelling around his left eye and cheek. Then, after he leaned in toward a microphone and said, ''Not guilty'' over and over in his Russian accent, he was led out of the courtroom in handcuffs, making a kissing gesture toward his family with his lips. His sister sobbed loudly, resting her head on a woman seated next to her. Tsarnaev faces 30 federal charges, including using a weapon of mass destruction to kill, in connection with the April 15 attack that killed three people and wounded more than 260. He could get the death penalty if prosecutors choose to pursue it. The proceedings took place in a heavily guarded courtroom packed not only with victims but with their families, police officers, and members of the public and the media. Railway CEO says engineer failed to properly apply brakes before deadly crash LAC-MEGANTIC, Quebec (AP) — The head of the U.S. railway company whose runaway oil train crashed into a Quebec town blamed the engineer Wednesday for failing to set the brakes properly before the train hurtled down a sevenmile (11-kilometer) incline, derailed and ignited a fire that killed at least 15 people and left dozens missing. He said the engineer has been suspended without pay and was under police supervision. The startling disclosures from Edward Burkhardt, president and CEO of the railway's parent company, Rail World Inc., came as he encountered sharp criticism from Quebec politicians and jeers from LacMegantic residents while making his first visit to the lakeside town where some 60 people remain missing following Saturday's disaster. Until Wednesday, the railway had defended its employees' actions, but that changed abruptly as Burkhardt singled out the engineer as culpable. ''We think he applied some hand brakes, but the question is, did he apply enough of them?'' Burkhardt said. ''He said he applied 11 hand brakes. We think that's not true. Initially we believed him, but now we don't.'' Investigators look into pairing of instructor and trainee pilot SAN FRANCISCO (AP) — As Flight 214 descended over San Francisco Bay, both Asiana Airlines pilots were in new roles. In the left seat of the cockpit sat Lee Gang-kuk, a 46-yearold pilot with just 35 hours of experience flying a Boeing 777 who was landing the big jet for his first time at San Francisco International Airport. At his right was Lee Jeong-Min, a trainer making his first trip as an instructor pilot. While the two men had years of aviation experience, this mission involved unfamiliar duties, and it was the first time they had flown together. The flight came to a tragic end when the airliner crash-landed Saturday, killing two passengers and injuring many others. Experts say investigators trying to piece together what went wrong will consider, among other factors, the pairing of the pilots, who were assigned to work together through a tightly regulated system developed after several deadly crashes in the 1980s that were blamed in part on inexperience in the cockpit. The National Transportation Safety Board ''is definitely going to focus on what type of policy Asiana had in terms of crew pairing,'' former NTSB Chairman James Hall said. ''That's what the airline needs to do, be responsible so that in the cockpit you're matching the best people, especially when you're introducing someone to a new aircraft.'' House Republicans seek way forward on immigration WASHINGTON (AP) — As House Republicans weighed their next steps on immigration Wednesday, former President George W. Bush nudged them ever so gently from the Texas sidelines to carry a ''benevolent spirit'' into a debate that includes a possible path to citizenship for millions living in the country illegally. The former president's ability to sway a new generation of House conservatives was a matter of considerable doubt, especially because many of the tea party-backed lawmakers have risen to power since he left the White House and are strongly on record in opposition to any citizenship provision. ''We care what people back home say, not what some former president says,'' declared Rep. Tim Huelskamp, a secondterm Kansas Republican who has clashed with the party leadership in the House. Still, the timing and substance of Bush's remarks were reminders of the imperative that many national party leaders feel that Republicans must broaden their appeal among Hispanic voters to compete successfully in future presidential elections. President Barack Obama took more than 70 percent of their votes in winning a second term last fall. ''America can be a lawful society and a welcoming society at the same time,'' Bush said at a naturalization ceremony at his presidential library in Dallas. Defense rests in Zimmerman trial, closing arguments set for Thursday SANFORD, Fla. (AP) — After taking less than a week to call 18 witnesses, George Zimmerman's defense attorneys rested their case Wednesday in the neighborhood watch volunteer's second-degree murder trial. Prosecutors and defense attorneys planned to work out the jury instructions before presenting closing arguments on Thursday. Judge Debra Nelson said the case could be sent to six jurors either late that day or the next. Zimmerman never testified. But jurors saw repeated video recordings of Zimmerman telling his side of the story to investigators. He claims that he shot Trayvon Martin, who was unarmed, in self-defense while the teen straddled and punched him. The defense started its case last Friday, and it presented half as many witnesses in half of the time that prosecutors did. Zimmerman's friends, parents and uncle testified that it's him screaming for help on a 911 call that captured sounds of the fatal fight. Martin's mother and brother had testified for the prosecution that it's Martin yelling for help. Convincing the jury of who was screaming for help on the 911 tape became the primary goal of prosecutors and defense attorneys because it would help jurors evaluate Zimmerman's self-defense claim. Apple conspired with publishers to raise e-book prices in 2010 NEW YORK (AP) — Apple Inc. broke antitrust laws and conspired with publishers to raise electronic book prices significantly in spring 2010, a federal judge ruled Wednesday, citing ''compelling evidence'' from the words of the late Steve Jobs. U.S. District Judge Denise Cote said Apple knew that no publisher could risk acting alone to try to eliminate Amazon.com's $9.99 price for the most popular e-books so it ''created a mechanism and environment that enabled them to act together in a matter of weeks to eliminate all retail price competition for their e-books.'' ''Apple seized the moment and brilliantly played its hand,'' Cote said. She wrote that Apple's deals with publishers caused some e-book prices to rise 50 percent or more virtually overnight. The Manhattan jurist, who did not determine damages, said the evidence was ''overwhelming that Apple knew of the unlawful aims of the conspiracy and joined the conspiracy with the specific intent to help it succeed.'' Her decision was not surprising, since she had urged Apple to settle before trial and said the company had only a slim chance of winning. Government officials and industry experts have said e-book prices have declined and stabilized since rising after Apple entered the market. Navy completes 1st unmanned aircraft landing NORFOLK, Va. (AP) — The Navy successfully landed a drone the size of a fighter jet aboard an aircraft carrier for the first time Wednesday, showcasing the military's capability to have a computer program perform one of the most difficult tasks a pilot is asked to do. The landing of the X-47B experimental aircraft means the Navy can move forward with its plans to develop another unmanned aircraft that will join the fleet alongside traditional airplanes to provide around-theclock surveillance while also possessing a strike capability. It also would pave the way for the U.S. to launch unmanned aircraft without the need to obtain permission from other countries to use their bases. The X-47B experimental aircraft took off from Naval Air Station Patuxent River in Maryland before approaching the USS George H.W. Bush, which is operating off the coast of Virginia. The drone landed by deploying a tailhook that caught a wire aboard the ship and brought it to a quick stop, just like normal fighter jets do. The maneuver is known as an arrested landing and has previously only been done by the drone on land at Patuxent River. Landing on a ship that is constantly moving while navigating through turbulent air behind the aircraft carrier is seen as a more difficult maneuver. ''Your grandchildren and great grandchildren and mine will be reading about this historic event in their history books. This is not trivial, nor is it something that came lightly,'' said Rear Adm. Mat Winter, the Navy's program executive officer for unmanned aviation and strike weapons. The X-47B will never be put into operational use, but it will help Navy officials develop future carrier-based drones. Those drones could begin operating by 2020, according to Winter. Four companies are expected to compete for a contract to design the future unmanned aircraft, which will be awarded in Fiscal Year 2014.