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Thursday, June 27, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Ailing mother-in-law neglecting herself Teach young child depend on Mom's finances Dear Annie: My and insurance coverage mother-in-law has a seriand what is available in ous medical condition, her area. Call 2-1-1 for and her health is rapidly resources. You sound like deteriorating. Unfortua caring daughter-in-law, nately, her failing health and we hope you can is not something she is arrange this with Mom's willing to deal with. cooperation. My husband and I live Dear Annie: Is cusin a different state. When Annie's tomer service a thing of we last visited, we were the past? I recently went shocked at how bad things were. Bills were by Kathy Mitchell to a drive-thru window. unpaid because she and Marcy Sugar After repeating my order numerous times, I saw couldn't remember to get to them. Garbage was piled up that the youth running the winbecause she didn't have the dow was chatting with his costrength to drag the bags to the workers. When he brought my order curb. There are no other family out, it was still incorrect, but he members in the area who are was more interested in continuwilling to check up on her. The ing his conversation than fixing kindest thing would be to help it. I finally became frustrated her transition into an independent living facility and arrange for and gave up, and he yelled that I periodic in-home care. The prob- could scrape off the incorrect lem is, most facilities have an age contents myself. I found this totally unacceptrequirement, and my mother-inlaw is only in her late 40s. How able, so I parked and went to can I find out more? — Worried speak to the manager. Meanwhile, the young man continued Daughter-in-Law Dear Worried: First search to make rude remarks about my online for a support group or order to his friends and then national organization for your yelled that, yes, he was talking mother-in-law's specific disabili- about me. Last Friday, I went to the deli ty. And please do not assume that all of the facilities in your area at the grocery store to order some luncheon meat, only to be told are age-restricted. that the woman in charge was not Ask. However, a better option might cutting any more meat that day. be a group home for disabled When she turned her back on me, adults. You can search online or I asked the manager what time get a referral from Mom's doctor, the deli closed. I was told that it a local hospital or through a care was still operating for another hour. manager. Is it asking too much for Another possibility is to have an in-home health aide or visiting employees to do their jobs? Why nurse come to Mom's house to do I have to go to management in check on her. All of these choices order to get decent service? — Mailbox Tired of Poor Customer Service Dear Tired: Complaining to the manager is the proper way to handle this. Some employees understand customer service, but others have no clue and need to be trained. If management does not demand appropriate behavior, you won't see it in the workplace. Forcing the manager to address these failures is the way these employees learn. Unfortunately, some of them take a very long time to get it. Dear Annie: You've printed a few letters about handicapped parking. I definitely give a disapproving look now and then. Why? Because if you can walk into the store with no obvious struggle, you're just not that handicapped. Many of us have physical problems, but that doesn't make each of us special. We all know that the handicapped license plate is abused. If Grandma isn't with you, don't use it. If you're feeling good enough to go shopping today, don't use it. Your foot hurts? Get over it. — Salem, Ore. Dear Salem: We hope you never need a handicapped license plate, because you obviously do not understand what it means to need one. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. COURT ROUND-UP The following defendants were sentenced in Tehama County Superior Court, according to the Tehama County District Attorney's Office: —————— Recent State/Local Prison Commitments • Hanoa Kaonohiokala Nahinu was sentenced to three years in prison for transportation of a controlled substance, Post Release Community Supervision. Stopped for expired registration and evasive maneuvers, Nahinu had two baggies that tested positive for methamphetamine inside the car. He was on Post Release Community Supervision when stopped. • Angela Diana Black was sentenced to three years in prison for petty theft with a prior. Black was in a local store, grabbed a storage tote and walked through several departments taking items and placing them in the tote. Black proceeded to the cash register and showed a receipt for tote to cashier and left the store. Store employees tried to detain Black outside of store, but she threatened them and fled. Police found Black in a pickup in parking lot. • Keymia Devour Neal was sentenced to three years in prison for possession of a controlled substance. Neal was originally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he failed to obey all laws, keep probation officer informed of current residence and phone number and register as a controlled substance offender. . RUNNINGS ROOFING Sheet Metal Roofing Residential Commercial • Composition • Shingle • Single Ply Membrane "No Job Too Steep" " No Job Too Flat" Serving Tehama County No Money 530-527-5789 530-209-5367 CA. LIC#829089 Down! FREE ESTIMATES Owner is on site on every job • Kramer Steele Scott was sentenced to three years in prison for lewd act upon a child. Scott had sexual relations with a minor under the age of 15. • Steven Eugene Raines was sentenced to two years and eight months in state prison for possesion of firearm by a felon-priors; possession of a controlled substance. Officers were looking to a serve felony warrant on Raines on PRCS. Raines had a rifle and shotgun and admitted to possession. Raines violated his Prop 36 probation. • Steven Albert Morrison was sentenced to three years and eight months in state prison for transportation of marijuana and possession of marijuana for sale. Officers saw Morrison who had a warrant throw a backpack over a fence and flee. The backpack contained marijuana. Morrison attempted to flee on a bike and officers gave chase. Morrison was later found in a trailer in a nearby park. He refused to come out and with clenched fists approached officers and swung. The officers forcibly took him into custody. • People vs. Miguel Santiago Juarez, Attempted Murder with a Special Allegation Assault Likely to Produce Great Bodily Injury, admitted to Special Allegation. Brief history: Victims were hanging out at a friend's house when Defendant and another suspect entered. Defendant had a knife and stabbed one victim in the chest and stabbed another victim multiple times in the arm. Several witnesses identified Defendant. Sentenced to 6 years State Prison. Recent County Jail Commitments: • People vs. Tyler Jacob George, Cultivating Marijuana. Brief history: TIDE served a search warrant on residence occupied by Defendant. 23 marijuana plants 3-4 feet tall and 3 scales were found. Sentenced to 3 years Probation with 120 days Jail. • People vs. Dianjelo William Carvajales, Receiving Stolen Property; Theft of an Access Card; Burglary. Brief history: Apartment manager told officer her personal laptop and 3 other laptops were missing from the office. Manager found 1 laptop in a backpack which belonged to Defendant. The manager received permission from a tenant where the Defendant was staying to search the apartment and found the other 3 computers. Victim reported theft of access card. Her friend, the Defendant, helped her look for it but could not locate it. Defendant told victim he had found it but the victim found out her bank account had a withdrawal of $400. Video showed Defendant making the withdrawal. Sentenced to 3 years Probation with 180 days Jail Upcoming Court Dates -Trials, Preliminary Hearings(PX) & Pre Trial Conferences(PTC): • People vs. Brandon Ericson Branscombe, Murder. Brief history: The 8 month old victim died as a result of injuries sustained while in the custody and care of defendant. Preliminary Hearing: August 13, 2013 at 1:30 p.m. in Department 2. • People vs. Daniel Llamas & Isabelle Deanna Rios, Llamas Rios; Child Abuse with Special Allegation Willful Harm or Injury Resulting in Death. Brief history: The 13 month old victim died as a result of injuries sustained while in the custody and care of Llamas and Rios. Preliminary Hearing: August 13, 2013, 1:30 p.m. in Department 2. (Llamas) PTC: July 8, 2013 at 1:15 p.m. in Department 3. (Rios) • People vs. Dustin Lee Hedrick, Lewd Act Upon a Child, Child Molesting. Brief history: Defendant was a 19-year-old Boy Scout troop leader and both minor victims were Boy Scouts. Defendant went to a party at one of the victim's homes during which he committed lewd and lascivious acts upon the two victims. Further Proceedings and Sentencing: August 6, 2013 at 10 a.m. in Department 2. • People vs. Quentin Ray Bealer, Murder. Brief history: Defendant was arrested and charged with the murder of a 14 year old victim who had been reported missing when she never returned home from school. Officers located the victim's body two days later. Preliminary Hearing: October 2, 2013 at 9 a.m. in Department 3. EVERGREEN STATE PRESCHOOL Enrolling Now for 2013-2014! Evergreen Preschool is now pre-registering three and four year olds for the 2013-2014 school year. To schedule an appointment or for more information, please contact the office at 530-347-3411, x7520. Appointments will be made for Thursday, May 2, 2013, from 10:00-2:00 pm Now Offering 1/2 Day Space is limited! First come, first served, so register NOW! and Full Day Evergreen State Preschool Facility #525402367 19415 Hooker Creek Road, Cottonwood, CA it's not OK to lie OK to lie to me. DEAR DOCYou won't be able TOR K: Lately my to play with your 4-year-old has crayons for the started lying to rest of the day." me. She'll say she Do not ignore didn't break a toy, these seemingly or push her brothsmall or harmless er, when I know lies. she did. How It is always should I handle Dr. K helpful to praise this? by Anthony L. DEAR READ- Komaroff, M.D. your preschooler for being good, ER: Almost all preschoolers will lie at too. Compliment her one time or another — and when she tells the truth. it's clear they know Remind her: "I'm glad they're lying, and that they you told the truth about shouldn't be doing that. what happened. When you For example, when one tell me the truth, I can child hits another and is trust you, and that makes challenged about it, here's me happy." Remember that chilthe usual sequence of lies: "I didn't do it"; "I didn't dren learn right from mean it"; "It didn't hurt wrong by watching and listening to the adults anyway!" Each lie admits to the around them, especially preceding lie. It's as if the their parents. If they see child realizes there's no you telling a little white way he will get away with lie, they will conclude that the lie, so his only hope is lying is acceptable. "Do as to dismiss the importance I say, not as I do" is never an effective strategy, espeof the transgression. Some preschoolers cially when dealing with may not yet realize that it young children. A colleague of mine at is wrong to lie. Now, at age 4, is the time to teach Harvard Health Publicayour child that lying is not tions has a daughter. We'll acceptable. Doing so at a call her Cleo, short for a young age will help mold certain very self-confident your child's behavior as Egyptian queen. Like all kids, Cleo sometimes does she gets older. To encourage truthful- things she knows she ness when you suspect shouldn't. And when chalwrongdoing, be upfront lenged, she sometimes lies but not confrontational as about it. But more often, you question your child. she is refreshingly honest For example, ask an open- ... and witty. Here's a ended question like, "How recent gem, as related by did your walls get crayon her mom: Mom: "Cleo! You all over them?" rather than a closed-ended one like, know you're not supposed "Did you scribble all over to throw a ball in the living room. Why on earth your walls?" If your child has told a did you do that?" Cleo: "I think it's lie, keep your response short and to the point. Be because I'm a kid, Mom." sure to tell her first that Dr. Komaroff is a you believe she has lied, physician and professor and because of that, conHarvard Medical sequences will follow. If at To send your child denies drawing School. go to on her walls, for example, questions, or you might say, "I know AskDoctorK.com, that you drew on your write: Ask Doctor K, 10 walls, as I saw you do it Shattuck St., Second earlier today. It is never Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Burn ban in effect July 1 for higher elevations of county Due to the menace of wildfires and their potential to destroy life and property, the Tehama-Glenn Unit of the California Department of Forestry and Fire Protection (CAL FIRE) and the Tehama County Fire Department (TCFD) will suspend debris burning for the east side of Tehama County on Monday, July 1. This includes the communities of Mineral, Childs Meadows, Deer Creek, and Mill Creek and will be in effect until the end of declared fire season. The burn ban went into effect for the rest of Tehama County and State Responsibility Areas (SRA) of Glenn County May 20. Agricultural, forest management, and other industrial type burning may proceed if an authorized fire official inspects the area and issues a special permit. Always check with the Air Pollution Control District to verify if it is a legal burn day prior to starting any burn. Campfires will be allowed in designated campgrounds with permission of the jurisdictional authority and a valid campfire permit. Experience has shown that suspending burning is an effective way of preventing wildfire escapes, especially as Tehama and Glenn Counties enter a period of hotter and drier weather. Although all fires cannot be prevented through a burning suspension, the number of fires can be significantly reduced. CalFire reminds homeowners that this is the time they can help protect their homes and families, as well as firefighters, by providing 100 feet of defensible space around all structures. To ensure residents are ready to evacuate early and safely when wildfire strikes visit www.fire.ca.gov or www.ReadyForWildfire.org. Community Clip? e-mail: clerk@redbluffdailynews.com or Fax: 527-9251