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Thursday, June 20, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Concerned about unfair treatment of child this up, and they resented our Dear Annie: Our oldest intrusion. We hesitate to take son, ''Adam,'' lives two hours that road again. What can we away with his wife, ''Eve,'' do? — Worried Grandparents and their three children. One Dear Grandparents: child, ''Hayden,'' is Eve's Belittling, insulting and humilfrom a prior relationship. She iating one's child — at any age married Adam when the boy — is angry, inappropriate parwas 3. The biological father is enting. Since your son and his irresponsible and alcoholic but loves Hayden and sees Annie's wife do not want your input, we suggest you offer to take him when he can. Hayden for weekends or over Hayden is now 13 and a good student, and he works by Kathy Mitchell the summer for a couple of hard to please his parents. We and Marcy Sugar weeks (or more) if you can manage it. He and his parents love and cherish him and consider him our own grandson. But we could use a break from one another. It are heartsick that Adam and Eve seem isn't a substitute for better parenting, to single him out for unkind treatment. but it will help. You also can suggest to They take him to task constantly for Hayden that he speak to you, his minor infractions. They fling insults school counselor or favorite teacher and belittling comments at him. He is whenever he needs to talk. Dear Annie: We often have two scolded for the tone of his voice, his posture, mannerisms and nearly every- delightful boys over to our house to thing he says. His parents sometimes play with our two sons. These boys are make him stand in a corner. It's humil- teenagers. We've known them for iating for him. His siblings are not years. They are being home-schooled by their very caring mother. treated this way. For the first time, the four boys Hayden is basically a good and decent boy, and his parents seem to were playing a game that required resent him. We are worried sick that if writing answers and reading them. As this treatment continues, he will rebel, I observed them, I could see that the and we won't like the consequences. two home- schoolers were having Hayden deserves better. Is there any- trouble both writing and reading. I thing we can do to help without finally asked what the problem was, offending my son? We once brought and they said they had never been Mailbox taught to write in script. These are smart boys, but I worry this could be a real handicap for them in life. Should I talk with their mother or just let it go? — Feeling Sorry in Vermont Dear Vermont: Fewer and fewer students are learning to read or write in script. With all the keyboards around, penmanship is rarely taught, and script writing has become a lost art. Will it handicap them? Perhaps if they have to read a note from Grandma, but otherwise, it's unlikely. By the time they are looking for a full-time job, most of their peers will be in the same boat. Dear Annie: I must take exception to one of your suggestions to ''Perplexed,'' whose father insisted on hearing his voice every day. I think it is ridiculous to expect adult children to call their parents every day. I am a parent of a wonderful grown son and lovely daughter-in-law. I would never expect them to call me every day. I would never be intrusive and barge in on them without calling first. Why do we allow family members to treat each other inconsiderately and without respect when we wouldn't treat others this way? Parents need to respect that their child's spouse and children come first. 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