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Monday, July 26, 2010 – Daily News – 5A FEATURES Pampered princess perturbs partner Dear Annie: I have been living with ‘‘Clyde’’ for more than a year. He has a 25-year-old son and a 14-year- old daughter. His divorce was long and painful, and his ex-wife involved both children in the mess. She con- tinues to bad- solution to getting along with this girl? I am sick and tired of dealing with her every other weekend. — The Girlfriend Dear Girlfriend: Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar mouth Clyde to her daugh- ter. Clyde and I live togeth- er and host this girl every other weekend. She is con- stantly making rude com- ments to her father and is disrespectful to me. She never says hello when she walks into the house and doesn’t thank me for cook- ing for her, entertaining her friends or anything else. She is a guest in my home, and I go out of my way for her. Clyde refuses to con- front her about anything, as she always runs back to her mother, who then calls Clyde and makes me sound like a terrible person. The girl is whiny, bratty and a total daddy’s girl. I have tried to like her, but between her nasty com- ments to her father and her rudeness toward me, I would prefer not to have her around. I know this could ultimately split us up, but I cannot tolerate this annoying child any- more. I have asked Clyde to take her somewhere during the day and return her to her mother at night, but the divorce agreement doesn’t allow for that. Is there a PARIS (AP) — Decca Records says a group of Benedictine nuns in southern France will record an album for the British label. Decca is part of Universal The two of you need to work together to do what’s best for this child, and she is not going to make it easy. She is plenty miser- able herself, torn between a mother she wants to please by dislik- ing you and a father who lets her get away with it. Clyde needs to set some ground rules to reduce the blatant disrespect. If he doesn’t know how to do it, we recommend family counseling. Dear Annie: Our 11- year-old daughter often spent the night at a friend’s home. We recently discov- ered that a registered child sex offender lives there as a second residence. The mother did not notify us or any other parents of the criminal record of this family member. We are furious and have reported this mother to the police. While it may have been safe for our daughter, isn’t it our right as parents to decide that? Please tell the families of child molesters that while they believe their family member is ‘‘rehabilitated,’’ they could be wrong. We don’t want our child to pay for their desire to keep silent and ignore a painful truth about a relative with a dan- gerous predilection for children. — Advocate for Our Kids in the South Dear Advocate: Most pedophiles have restric- tions placed on their prox- imity to children, and for good reason. We under- stand family members who instinctively try to protect one of their own, but you are right that other parents are entitled to have the details about the environ- ment in which their child will be spending time. Dear Annie: You responded to ‘‘Texas’’ with wonderful suggestions for coping with the resurfacing of his anger about his hor- rible childhood. I would like to suggest one more: writing down the events in a journal that is kept private and securely away from others. This practice is acknowledged in some religious tradi- tions and by therapists as being effective. I have taught creative writing for a number of years, including memoirs, and believe students find it cleansing. I think his hav- ing had the courage to write to you is an enor- mous first step. — D.D., The Villages, Fla. Dear D.D.: Numerous readers made similar sug- gestions about keeping a journal, saying it helped tremendously. Our thanks to all who offered this effective way to deal with anger. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net , or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. DEAR DR. GOTT: Is there a cleansing recipe I can make at home to clear out toxins in my lungs? Being a former smoker, I want to make sure that my lungs are as clear and clean as possible. DEAR READER: The lungs are organs the body cannot live without. Unfortu- nately, many people function with lungs that are not healthy, resulting in countless upper- respiratory infections and difficulties throughout their lives. The air we breathe is filled with impurities — from firsthand, secondhand or third- hand cigarette smoke; cleaning-solu- tion chemicals; automobile-exhaust fumes; and many other sources. Herbal remedies for cleansing are many and include lotus-root tea, lemon juice, antioxidants, minerals, watercress soup and a host of other combinations. Save your money. Once damage is done to your lungs, the only effective treatment is to refrain from smoking and to limit pos- sible exposure. If you have not already had one, request a chest X-ray to determine whether your habit has done any harm. If so, you may wish to make an appointment with a pulmo- nologist, who can provide some direc- tion. Each second, minute, hour and day you breathe without exposing yourself to toxins works toward the purifica- tion goal. I am sure that I will be chas- tised for panning cleansing recipes, but I find it hard to understand how blackened lungs will improve by drinking lemon juice or eating a bowl of watercress soup. You have recog- nized the dangers of smoking and have taken steps to correct the prob- lem. By doing so, you are already on the path to a healthier life. The task of making a decision to discontinue smoking is not an easy one. Congrat- ulations to you. To provide related information, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report “Pulmonary Disease.” Other No quick fix for lungs Dr. Peter readers who would like a copy should send a self- addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092-0167. Be sure to men- tion the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDrGottMD.com. DEAR DR. GOTT: You recently wrote about the ben- efits of cod-liver oil. Is there a down- side? Are there likely to be significant quantities of heavy metals or other toxic substances concentrated in cods’ livers? DEAR READER: Generally speaking, cod-liver oil is safe for most people. It can, however, result in belching, heartburn, halitosis and nosebleeds in some users when taken on an empty stomach. When taken with meals, these unwanted symp- toms are vastly reduced. High doses of the supplement may be unsafe in that they can keep blood from clotting, may increase the chance of bleeding, cause loose stools and nausea, and cause blood pressure to drop to dangerously low levels. People on hypertensive medication should check with their physicians before using it and should be moni- tored periodically to avoid unwanted consequences. There are also reports of vitamins A and D being too high in some users while on the supplement. Cod-liver oil is no different than any other supplement in that you should check with your physician before using it. He or she best knows your medical history and can provide appropriate guidance. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,”“Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com. Benedictine southern French nuns to sing ancient chants on Lady Gaga label before dawn. Music, which produces albums for stars like The Rolling Stones, Eminem, Amy Winehouse, U2 and Lady Gaga. The nuns of the Abbaye de Notre Dame de l’Annonciation near the southern French city of Avignon were chosen after world- wide search for female Gregorian chant performers. Their debut album, ‘‘Voices - Chant from Avignon,’’ will feature an ancient style of the Gregorian Chant which the nuns at convent sing at least 8 times a day starting This style of music first gained a popular audience through Enig- ma’s run of chart successes in the 1990s. PAID ADVERTISEMENT I For information on participation in Kids & Families call (530) 527-2151 P.A.W.S. (Partners for Animal Welfare & Safety) A Volunteer Program Dedicated to the Prevention of Litters, Not the Destruction of Unwanted animals. HOW CAN YOU HELP? CALL US! 528-8018 Please leave your number we WILL call you back P.O. 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