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2A Daily News – Friday, June 14, 2013 Community people&events Of fathers and sons Ellison-Rohr to wed Courtesy photo Dennis and Charlene Ellison of Corning announce the engagement of their daughter, Melissa Ellison to Doug Rohr. The prospective groom's parents are John and Marie Rohr of Red Bluff. The bride-elect is a graduate of Boston Reed College and Corning High School. The prospectivegroom is a graduate of San Joaquin Delta College and Red Bluff High School. The couple will wed on Aug. 31 at Cedar Crest Vineyards in Manton. SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. In April 1996, I received a phone call from a TTY telephone operator. She introduced herself and asked if I had ever worked with someone like her. "No," I replied. "On the other end of this line is someone hearing-impaired," she explained. "When she wants to call someone, she contacts me and then types what she wants to say into a device. It then appears on a screen in front of me. I'll read it to you. You reply to me. I type it back. It's a slow process but it allows her to 'talk' to you. Ready?" "Yes," I replied hesitantly. She then — in a stilted, halting manner — read the words as they traipsed across her screen. Not waiting for full sentences to appear, she pronounced each syllable as it materialized, like someone reading a news crawler on the bottom of the TV screen; with the caveat being that the text was scrolling too slowly. Not only was it a sluggish process, it was eerie, and unnerving. "My… name… is… Mary…" read the operator. "I'm… sorry… to… tell… you… that… your… father… has… passed… away…" Some background is in order. Over the nine years I've been publishing this weekly column, I have written about my wife, mother, children, grandmother, aunts; even my pets. However, there's a glaring omission: my father. Obviously, I had one; and yes, I knew him. However, we didn't get along and my rebellion manifested itself as me growing up to be his polar opposite. Over the years, I invested a great deal in therapy to release myself from the behaviorial them dancing in the bonds that I felt shackled kitchen while he sang it me to a person I did not to her. It is one of few want to be. fond memories I have of Fathers and sons have their relationship. had differing viewpoints For some reason, since Adam and Abel. years after the call from Understanding that, I tried Mary, I heard that song to maintain a relationship; and realized that I feel even moving him up here the same way about my when things got tough for wife today that my him. However, after he father must have felt split in the dead of night, about my mother five requiring me to clean up ago. It made me his financial and actual Scott Q. decadesthat what I feel realize messes, our relationship must be similar to what bottomed out. We stopped he felt. speaking. Put another way, a This odd phone communication was the first time I had any measure of my father still lives contact with his world since that within me. He wasn't a perfect man; none of time, several years prior. "How did you know my dad?" I us are. I'm sure he'd do things differently if he could. (Wouldn't we asked. "I… was… living… with… all?) But to dislike someone whose Sy… He… was… a… warm… soul flows through your veins is a form of self-hatred. Hence, I and… wonderful… man…" The conversation — like my released and I forgave. I do not condone much of what relationship with my father — then deteriorated, becoming kaf- he did, and no, I'm still not similar fkaesque, with Mary blaming me to him. Yet, that song remains one for every ailment my father ever of my favorites, despite its age. had, physical, emotional, even When I sing it, I feel I am channelhypothetical. To say I was upset ing my father. More importantly, I like that I would be an understatement, as I had shut the door on that stage of am. my life a long time ago. Scott "Q" Marcus is the CRP Or so I thought. Years passed and the resentment (Chief Recovering Perfectionist) of I harbored against my dad — and www.ThisTimeIMeanIt.com and of now Mary, whomever she was — founder never diminished. Obviously, it did- 2 1 D a y H a b i t C h a n g e . c o m , n't make sense, but isn't that the guaranteed to help you change a habit in just 3 weeks. He is thing about much of anger? As a child, I remember my dad available for coaching and at 707.442.6243, buying an Ed Ames album for my speaking or mother. On that LP was a song, My scottq@scottqmarcus.com Cup Runneth Over. I remember facebook.com/ThisTimeIMeanIt. Marcus Abel earns public speaking award Courtesy photo Sherie Abel is pictured during the Division C Toastmasters speech contest this April. Though she did not win this contest, her speaking skills have grown tremendously over the last year as she attained the Competent Communicator award. Sunrise Speakers Toastmasters meets noon to 1 p.m. every Thursday at R a b o B a n k ' s Community Room, 500 Luther Road, Red Bluff. Membership is open to all in the community. Setting it straight –––––––– It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. 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The Baskin Robbins Fundraiser generated $200 and another $93 from the boxes out at various businesses in the community. The group will be holding its final fundraiser starting at 6 p.m. on Saturday, June 15, at the Elks Lodge. A spaghetti dinner will be served for $12 with a raffle and silent auction taking place. For more information on the committee and its progress call Chairwoman Shannon Nason at 690-2034 or visi: Facebook.com/Tehamafireworks. American Rosie the Riveter Association is trying to locate women in Red Bluff and the surrounding area, who worked on the home front during WWII. Thousands of women worked to support the war effort as riveters, welders, electricians, inspectors in plants, sewing clothing and parachutes for the military, ordinance workers, rolling bandages, clerical and many other jobs such as volunteer workers collecting scrap metals and other critical materials. These women have stories of their WWII experiences that are of historical value and perhaps have never been told. American Rosie the Riveter Association is in the process of collecting those stories to be placed in archives. If you are a woman or descendent of a woman who worked during WWII, or if you are just interested in more information, call (888) 557-6743, email americanrosietheriveter2@yahoo.com, or write to American Rosie the Riveter, P.O. Box 188, Kimberly, Al. 35091. 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One of the shots took effect in herd's leg, but it is not believed to be a serious wound. The shooting occurred a few minutes following Clark's detention by the sheriff. — June 14, 1923 We would like to extend a heartfelt Thank You to all of those who have helped us through the tragic loss of our beloved Son and Brother, Skylar Garcia. Words seem truly inadequate to express the gratitude that we feel and the healing strength that you have given us. We are overwhelmed by the love, support and generosity that we have received from family, friends, youth, local businesses and the entire community. Although we are full of grief and sorrow, we simultaneously feel blessed by the love and support that has been showered upon us. All of you have deeply touched our hearts. Alvin, Debbie & Tori Garcia