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Saturday, June 8, 2013 – Daily News 3B FEATURES Ex resentful over losing half 'her' stuff ex any happier. Dear Annie: My wife My ex is a good person, and I are going through a and we don't fight over visdivorce after 23 years of itation. She gives me full marriage. We just grew and complete access to the apart. We have four chilkids. But how do I get her to dren, ages 12 to 21. feel less angry about the The problem is, my wife division of assets? She barefeels I do not deserve any ly speaks to me. The only of the marital assets because she was the prima- Annie's time she is nice is when we are at the children's events. ry breadwinner. She made Should I accept a lesser pera nice income, but it also meant she spent a consider- by Kathy Mitchell centage so she will be kind able amount of time away and Marcy Sugar to me again? — Soon-To-Be Ex-Husband from home. She left the Dear Ex: It is not uncommon responsibility of raising our kids to me. I never had the time to devote for the higher-earning spouse to to a career, because I wanted to be resent giving equal assets to the one with my children. They were active who earned less, even though the in youth sports, and I never missed lesser-earning spouse is generally a game and even coached the the one who cares for the house and teams. I also made sure homework the children. Society still doesn't was done and dinner was on the give sufficient value to those contributions. You are under no obligatable every night. I was awarded half of all marital tion to take less than the court assets, and it is causing bitterness. awarded you, and there is no guarMy ex is upset because it means she antee that doing so would solve the will have to take out a substantial problem. (Also, alienating friends portion of her 401(k) and a home and family members is a form of equity loan. Now she has shared manipulation.) But if you feel this information with our children strongly about it, ask the court to and flies into a fit of rage from time assign a mediator. Dear Annie: My husband's to time. My kids don't care, but my ex told her family and friends that I behavior has been different lately. am taking ''her'' money, and now It's as if his personality has they won't speak to me. Also, my changed. He throws tantrums and older children have asked to live displays road rage. He throws with me, and this doesn't make my things. He hasn't hit me, but I am Mailbox afraid he will. Even the dog hides behind the furniture. I have talked to his doctor, to no avail. He does have medical issues, but I do, too. What else can I do? — Frustrated Wife Dear Frustrated: Sudden personality changes can be an indication of a neurological problem or a severe reaction to medication. Your husband may even have had a small stroke or other trauma. Return with him to his doctor and insist on more tests. If his doctor is unwilling to consider other possibilities, it's time to find a physician who will take your complaints seriously. Please don't wait. Dear Annie: ''Not Anti-Social or Addicted to the Internet'' is correct that it's difficult for men to make new friends outside of the workplace. Here's my strategy: Before attending an event that interests me, I do some research and identify nearby coffee shops and also look up similar events happening in the near future. Then I make a point of talking to several strangers. If anyone seems interesting, I'll invite that person to meet at the nearby coffee shop to continue the conversation. If he's not available, I'll ask whether he's planning to attend the future event, because it might be fun to get together there. — Daniel Klamath Project operations plan released KLAMATH FALLS, Ore. – The Bureau of Reclamation announced today the release of the 2013 Operations Plan for the Klamath Project. The plan is based upon the expected hydrologic conditions from the June 1 Natural Resource Conservation Service inflow forecast and current reservoir elevations. The Operations Plan provides an estimate of the available water supply for the Project, the volume of water to be released to the Klamath River for coho salmon, and the water supply to be reserved in Upper Klamath Lake for Lost River and shortnose suckers as consistent with the 2013 Biological Opinion on Klamath Project Operations. The Operations Plan is used by agricultural water users, Klamath Basin Tribes, national wildlife refuge managers and others as a planning tool. During the 2013 Water Year, the Upper Klamath Basin has been drier than normal, having received 54 percent of average precipitation since October 2012. With higher than average temperatures since February and below average precipitation, snowpack in the Basin peaked at 68 percent of normal in early March. As of June 1, UKL had an elevation of 4,142.01 feet, resulting in approximately 408,355 acre-feet of storage. The NRCS June 1 forecast for inflows to UKL was 83,000 acre-feet, about 46 percent of average. Under these conditions, the Project irrigation supply from UKL for the 2013 irrigation season is expected to be 289,125 acre-feet. Based on current lake levels and forecasted inflows for Clear Lake and Gerber Reservoirs, the anticipated water supplies available for the 2013 irrigation season are 12,327 acre-feet and 43,000 acre-feet, respectively. Demand reduction measures by means of the Water Users Mitigation Program are currently being administered by the Klamath Water and Power Agency to reduce Project demand with the intent to eliminate or minimize involuntary water shortages for Project irrigators. The Klamath Project 2013 Operations Plan may be viewed at www.usbr.gov/mp/kbao. 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But There are sevwhat does it mean eral types of deluwhen someone is sions often seen in really, clinically delusional disordelusional? Dr. K der (and other DEAR READby Anthony L. types of psyER: If I told you that I could substi- Komaroff, M.D. chosis): — Erotic: delutute for Derek Jeter at shortstop for the sion of a special, loving New York Yankees, you relationship with another could fairly call me delu- person, usually someone sional. (Actually, it might famous or of higher standbe a good thing if I could ing. (This kind of delusion convince the Yankees to is sometimes at the root of do that: I'm a Boston Red stalking behavior.) — Grandiose: delusion Sox fan, and my presence in the Yankee lineup that the person has a spewould surely improve the cial power or ability, or a special relationship with a Red Sox' chances.) 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