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2B – Daily News – Monday, July 19, 2010 FEATURES Dear Annie: For the past year, I have been involved with ‘‘Mr. H.,’’ who appears to care very little for me. He started off calling and visiting regular- ly, but six months into the relationship, he began distancing himself. Mr. H. never Blase beau becoming boring The real info on salt uated with some- one who treats you poorly. You deserve better. Move on. Annie’s Mailbox wants to do what I like, refuses to let me come to his home, does- n’t like to be seen with me in the daytime and wants to come to my house after 6:30. He never invites me out or to his family gather- ings. At the moment, we speak to each other sporadi- cally, and I don’t know what to say to him. He never expresses his feelings and has stopped doing the things he did when we first met. He is very private and by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear Annie: I am 20 years old and still living at home. I’ve just fin- ished paying off my college debt and, with the way the economy is, am not in a position to move out, despite working two jobs. I love my family a lot, secretive. I have treated him with kindness and respect, but no longer believe I am the person he wants to be with. He has been single for 20 years and apparently doesn’t want to give up womanizing. Unfortunately, I’m in love with this man, but he shows no emotion toward me. I feel rejected. Should I continue this one- sided relationship or move on? — Need Advice Dear Need: You already know the answer. Mr. H could be married or seeing someone else and doesn’t want her to know about you (which means he considers her more important). Love is a two-way street, honey, and any relationship that is completely one-sided is not genuine love. You are infat- but I also appreciate it when they respect my space and privacy. My father and sib- lings understand that when my bedroom door is closed, they need to knock before entering. The problem is my mother. She thinks a closed door is an invitation to barge into my room whenever she feels like it, with no notice whatsoever. I could be changing clothes after a shower, and she walks right in. I’ve tried talking with her about it, but she gets defen- sive and accuses me of hid- ing something. Annie, I am open with my parents, but I am also 20 years old. I don’t tell them everything. I’d cer- tainly like to have private phone conversations. I began locking my door in the hope that Mom would understand, but now she is threatening to change the locks if I do it again. Since I can’t afford to move out, what can I do? — No Locks Dear No Locks: Your mother seems so paranoid about your private activities that she is damaging your relationship. Talk to your father, and ask him to inter- cede. He needs to explain to Mom that when she barges in without knocking, it cre- ates tremendous resentment. Assure your mother that she is welcome in your room, but it is a sign of respect to knock first. We hope you can move out soon. Dear Annie: ‘‘Appreci- ate the Cleaning Ladies’’ wonders why she never gets a raise or a holiday bonus. I am sure most of her clients feel she is com- pensated fairly. Her clients probably have not received a raise themselves in sever- al years and, in this econo- my, are being squeezed. I have not received a raise in more than two years, and my husband has taken a cut in pay. My cleaning lady charges more per hour than I make and always receives a Christmas bonus. My hus- band and I work long hours, and this is one luxury we feel justified in spending. However, if she were to ask for a raise, we would either have to cut her hours or ter- minate her services. I would advise her to take each individual client’s situation into account and then talk to them about a raise. — Appreciate my Cleaning Lady Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. DEAR DR. GOTT: Your recent column in the Wisconsin State Journal said that 1 teaspoon of salt contained 230 milligrams of sodium. My salt containers says 1/4 teaspoon contains 590 milligrams, so 1 teaspoon would have 2.36 grams, 10 times what your column said and more than the recommended daily intake. I hope that you will print a correc- tion. 10. DEAR READERS: Whew, DEAR DR. GOTT: Wow. After years of good advice, you really blew it today. In your article on water- softener salt, you mentioned 1 teaspoon of salt contains 230 milligrams of sodi- um. Boy, are you way off. According to my sources, 1 teaspoon is equal to 2,000 milligrams or more! As you know, this is a huge issue in our society, and I’m sure you will set this right as you always do. Sign me a loyal reader, CPR instructor and home-care nurse that frequently copies your articles for home-care patient teaching. DEAR DR. GOTT: In a recent article, you wrote that 1 teaspoon of salt con- tains 230 milligrams of sodium. The salt that I purchase at Wal-Mart contains 590 milligrams of sodium in 1/4 teaspoon. Morton’s Lite Salt has 290 milligrams of sodium in 1/4 teaspoon. Could you please tell me what salt has only 230 mil- ligrams per teaspoon? My husband is on Aldactone owing to cirrhosis, and we had to stop using the Morton Lite Salt because of the potassium content. DEAR DR. GOTT: I hope that this was a misprint in today’s Ventura Coun- ty Star. You said 1 teaspoon of salt had 230 milligrams of sodium. There are actually 590 milligrams of sodium in 1/4 teaspoon of salt. Also, you felt that water softeners were not a hazard to a low-salt diet. This is not the case in my commu- nity. My husband has Meniere’s disease, and when he stopped drinking softened tap water, his symptoms were greatly improved. DEAR DR. GOTT: Your estimate of the amount of sodium (230 milligrams) in a teaspoon of salt is low by a factor of Zsa Zsa Gabor will have surgery to replace the hip she broke when she fell out of bed in her Bel Air home, her publi- cist said Sunday. John Blanchette said the 93- year-old actress will undergo the procedure today. Gabor remained in a Los Angeles hospital Sunday with her husband, Prince Frederic von Anhalt, and other family members by her side. She was watching television in her Bel Air home when she reached to answer the phone and tumbled to the floor, according to Blanchette. ‘‘She was watching her favorite show, ’Jeopardy,’ when Dr. Peter Gott have I been caught! My original column should have stated 2,300 milligrams, as several of you pointed out, not 230. Some- where along the way, a zero was dropped, and I owe everyone an apology for the misprint. While many products and additives may state they are “low salt,” it is extremely important to read labels to ensure this ele- ment is not taken in excess. For example, a can of soup is commonly very high in sodium to begin with, and the can may contain 2-1/2 servings, which can be deceiving. In the matter of cirrhosis, kid- ney disease and congestive heart failure, sodium can lead to a serious buildup of excess fluid. A healthful, nutritious diet is impor- tant for everyone, whether dealing with a medical condition or not. And the best resource is a personal physician who knows your full medical history and can advise accordingly. While we all like to think we are per- fect, I am the first to admit I do make mistakes (and typographical errors). I thank those readers who brought this issue to my attention. I’ll make every effort to do better. Stay tuned, but keep those corrections coming. Readers who would like additional information on dietary supplements should send for my Health Report “Vita- mins and Minerals.” Address your request to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092-0167. Include a self-addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order, and be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDr- GottMD.com. Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. Zsa Zsa Gabor to have hip replacement surgery today in LA LOS ANGELES (AP) — the phone rang,’’ he said. ‘‘She reached over to pick it up and fell.’’ He said several bones were broken, but said he didn’t know any other details of her injuries. Von Anhalt called an ambu- lance, and Gabor was taken to Ronald Reagan UCLA Medical Center. The hospital said early Sun- day that family members were with her but did not disclose any other details. PAID ADVERTISEMENT I For information on participation in Kids & Families call (530) 527-2151 P.A.W.S. (Partners for Animal Welfare & Safety) A Volunteer Program Dedicated to the Prevention of Litters, Not the Destruction of Unwanted animals. HOW CAN YOU HELP? CALL US! 528-8018 Please leave your number we WILL call you back P.O. Box 8908, Red Bluff CA 96080 For information on participation in Kids & Families call (530) 527-2151 P.A.W.S. (Partners for Animal Welfare & Safety) P.A.W.S. 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