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Friday, June 7, 2013 – Daily News 5A FEATURES Teenager reader dealing with depression Pack prescriptions in doctor privately and tell him Dear Annie: I am a 16what you told us. But please year-old girl in high school. don't be afraid to discuss I have so much to be thankthis with your parents. They ful for, but recently, I have love and care about you. been feeling like something They may be worried, but is wrong with me. Quite they will want to help, and frankly, I am depressed. I you will feel better confidam always tired, anxious ing in them. and nervous, and I have Dear Annie: My cousin outrageous mood swings. I Annie's is getting married in another have lost all focus, ambistate. I have four other relation and motivation, and sometimes it just hurts to by Kathy Mitchell tives in my city, and we are breathe. I hate to use this as and Marcy Sugar planning to go together, even though we've seen this an excuse for my grades, but I had been a straight-A student, cousin only a few times in our lives. The wedding is on a Sunday and now I have two C's and a B. This is unacceptable. I hate disap- evening, and we'd arrive on Saturday afternoon. If there is a rehearsal pointing my parents. Along with the grades and the dinner on Saturday night, should we other symptoms I mentioned, I am be included as out-of-town relaconstantly having trouble eating tives? We're already spending a and recently resorted to self-harm. great deal of money on airfare and Suicidal thoughts also accompany hotel rooms. What do you say? — this, as much as I hate to admit it. I Dinner Guest or No? Dear Dinner Guest: The worry that if I tell my parents, they will hate me. I don't have a teacher rehearsal dinner is specifically for or counselor I feel comfortable con- the bridal party, immediate family fiding in. None of my friends know, and the officiant. If the hosts can and I am scared that I will do more afford to include out-of-state guests damage to myself than I intend. (related or not), it is both gracious Please help me. I hide behind a and appreciated. However, if there smile every day, and I am so lost. — are many such guests, it can be beyond the means of the hosts to Depressed in Hiding Dear Depressed: Please tell include them in the rehearsal dinyour parents you aren't feeling well ner. It is appropriate, however, for and ask them to make an appoint- them to provide some welcoming ment for you to see your doctor. A snack or hospitality for all out-oflot of what you are describing may towners upon their arrival, since have physiological origins that can such guests are unfamiliar with be treated (such as a hormonal nearby restaurants and might be imbalance). You can speak to the arriving too late to eat at the hotel Mailbox coffee shop. Dear Annie: I was moved to write after reading the letter from ''California,'' the man who felt so guilty about a brief extramarital affair he had 40 years ago that he wanted to confess it to his children. My parents divorced in 1968, when I was 13. I would respect my father more if he would acknowledge that his affairs were a significant reason for the divorce. Our mother told us, but didn't use it as part of the divorce proceedings. I think she thought it was too embarrassing. Dad married his girlfriend six months later. Last summer, my 87-year-old father had the nerve to tell me that my mother was the one who wanted the divorce and he didn't know why. While you may think it would do more harm than good, I'd rather my father tell us than keep lying. — S. Dear S.: Your father had a longterm affair that resulted in a divorce. It is not the same as a brief indiscretion that was deeply regretted. And while Dad should not lie or blame your mother, it's possible that, at the age of 87, he no longer clearly remembers the reason behind the divorce. Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. An invitation to your library This is an introduction and an invitation to the Tehama County Library, any and all three branches: Red Bluff, Corning and Los Molinos. You've been hearing about us in the news and you'll learn more about our relocation as we go along. We'll certainly keep you up to date as we know more details. Right now we'd like to you know about the library. It's a magical place where everything is possible. We have books. Do we ever. And these include audio books and large print editions. With our on-line capabilities we have access to nearly every book in the world. We have photographs, maps and art. We have music, films, magazines and newspapers. At the library you can meet anyone in the world - historical figures or present day folks. You can travel anywhere on earth or beyond, look up any recipe, learn about any plant, figure out how to build a better mousetrap or simply read good stories. Our opening times are listed on the front doors of each library and you can pick up one of our brochures listing all the necessary information about the library at each branch. The library is staffed by six employees in various positions at this time and a host of volunteers. The branches are run by a permanent staff member and a crew of willing and able local volunteers. One constant about the folks working in the library is that they are dedicated and passionate advocates of all things library. And all this is available to you, the public, for the simple effort of coming into any one of the branches to sign up for a free library card. Every member of the family can have his or her own card. If the little ones can write their own names, first and last, they can obtain their own cards. The looks of accomplishment and confidence on those little carded faces is a joy to behold. Now to the news. School is out and the kids need something to do. There's always the lure of TV, the Internet and electronic games, but all that screen time cuts into living time and the learning of skills to relate to real people, not superheroes or "friends" on a social network. The better alternative Reading. Reading is important all year round but in summer it's vital. Educators tell us that if kids don't keep practicing their reading skills, they can slip back three or more months in their reading levels. Use it or lose it. So while teaches are urging their students to read at least twenty minutes a day all summer, the library is offering the annual summer reading program to stir things up. This year's program, Reading Is So Delicious, is food-themed and features stories, crafts, snacks, special guests and lots more. For six weeks starting June 17 in Los Molinos, June 18 in Corning, and June 19 in Red Bluff, children from toddlers to teens are invited into their own library will be Accelerated Readonce a week dressing up er testing available at all to match the theme if three branches of the TC they'd like, to a vast menu Library. All the kids' books in the of activities. The library have little foodsters been labeled will be able to with book levels keep reading and numbers of logs (a completpoints so everyed log is 20 thing is ready to books for young go. Students children and 700 can test all sumpages for older mer and can ones) and turn in print a list of the logs at the what they've front desk when read through completed. First the summer and completed log Sally their teachers wins an ice may give them cream cone, 2nd credit for their wins a pizza certificate with even more accomplishments. So, kids, read at least wonderful prizes for addi20 minutes a day; then tional logs. There will be home read some more. Read to projects throughout the your parents, to your program, contests, a book brothers and sisters or swap at the end of the ses- friends. Read to the dog. sions, a collection of Your canine friend will favorite recipes with thank you for the extra maybe a published collab- attention. And, parents, orative cookbook in the read to your kids from the offing and a grand prize tiniest tots until the last will be given to the child minute they'll sit still for it. I remember a teacher who reads the most. Prizes for book logs telling me when I was in and most-books-read will school, "The person who be given to children who does not read has no participate though you advantage over the person need not be present each who cannot read." Let's week to participate. Par- give our kids all the ents need to pick up and advantages they deserve. Come to the library, return the logs if the child is absent. Sounds like a check out some books, ton of fun and the kids maybe bump into a friend won't want to miss a day. and join one of our book They must be accompa- clubs for adults. Read. nied by an adult because Read. Read. Help our kids there just isn't enough and help keep our library staff to watch them. alive and well and thrivPlease help your child be ing in Tehama County. there for each session. Sally Ainsworth is And here's the serious stuff. The Tehama County acting County Librarian Department of Education for the Tehama County has determined that there Library. Ainsworth BloodSource announces scholarships BloodSource is awarding a total of 108 scholarships to graduating seniors in northern and central California, including Veronica Magana of Corning High School, Johanna Gonzalez-Virgen of Los Molinos High School, Madison Coelho of Mercy High School and Amanee Izhaq of Red Bluff Union High School. Eligible students have participated on their high school blood drive committees, submitted an essay, and maintained a 3.0 Grade Point Average. These BloodSource $500 scholarships demonstrate the single largest contribution from BloodSource to the community, recognizing the important lifesaving service students provide. "The camaraderie and dedication to saving lives across our high school campuses is truly inspiring," said Meredith Spencer, BloodSource director of operations. "Their hard work and enthusiasm absolutely makes a difference in the patients we serve. It is an honor to be able to recognize them for their high achievements." BloodSource hosted 282 blood drives at 142 high schools during the 2012-2013 academic year from Merced to Redding and from Santa Rosa to Tahoe. High school students — along with their advisors — play an important role in helping schedule, educate and run campus blood drives, which ensure a constant blood supply for patients treated at over 40 regional hospitals. BloodSource strives to collect 700 units of blood each day at 18 BloodSource Donor Centers and mobile drives such as those held at local high schools. carry on baggage implanted device; DEAR DOCyou may need it TOR K: In a few when going months, my husthrough security band and I are takcheckpoints. ing our first trip Get the name abroad. We both of a doctor or hoshave chronic medpital at your destiical conditions. nation. 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So directors populated by ask yourself what the doctors affiliated with impact on your eating and major U.S. academic exercise is likely to be medical centers. And from the vacation you check with your insurance to see what you need to do have planned. Since you're traveling in case of an emergency. If you easily suffer internationally, find out if you need vaccinations or from motion sickness, preventive medications. take medicine in your You can check the Centers carry-on bag. In addition, for Disease Control and pack the following in your Prevention (CDC) website checked luggage: — antidiarrheal med(cdc.gov/travel), or ask your doctor. Try to get ication, a laxative and an your shots four to six antacid; — antihistamine and 1 weeks before your trip, as some vaccinations need percent hydrocortisone cream for mild allergic time to kick in. If you take prescription reactions; — cold medicine; medications, pack more — medications for pain than enough to last through your trip, in case relief or fever; — antifungal and your return gets delayed. And carry your medica- antibacterial ointments; — lubricating eye tions in your carry-on bag, not in your checked lug- drops; — basic first-aid items gage in case it gets lost. bandages, (The TSA makes an (adhesive exception to the "no more gauze, elastic bandage, than 3.4 ounces of liquids antiseptic, tweezers, scisor gels" rule for prescrip- sors, cotton-tipped applition medications and nec- cators). With a little advance essary medical supplies.) That's what I have done planning, you and your ever since, 20 years ago, I husband can enjoy a spent the first two days of healthy and safe vacation. a trip trying to get replaceDr. Komaroff is a ment medicines in a foreign country because my physician and professor at Harvard Medical luggage was lost. 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