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2B Daily News – Friday, May 3, 2013 FEATURES Husband draws line between boys and him let my son shower here. Dear Annie: My husI realize the boys need to band and I have a blended make it on their own, but am family with his two girls I supposed to turn my back and my three sons. I am so on them when they need grateful that we both took help? At what point do you on this challenge. give up on your kids and We had some good choose your husband times, and we had some bad instead? I feel like such a times, and when I say bad, I mean horrible. Our children Annie's horrible mom. — Worried for Them are all adults now, and we Dear Worried: Your are still butting heads over them, mostly my boys. He by Kathy Mitchell husband should not be issuhas given up on two of my and Marcy Sugar ing ultimatums wherein you must choose between the sons because he says they don't respect him, not to mention man you love and the children you some less than legal activity they love. This is unfair and creates decided to embark on in our home tremendous resentment. Your husband may have good cause to want while we were on vacation. But, Annie, I feel as if he has the kids out of the house, but it's never really cared for them. I try to difficult to do when they have no help them with rides or letting them place to go. How old are they? Do wash clothes at our house or what- they have jobs? Would you temever I can do. People mature at dif- porarily assist with their rent if it ferent levels, and maybe I help too got them out of the house? Are there much, but they are my kids. At what substance-abuse issues that need point am I supposed to turn my back treatment? Try Because I Love You on them? My husband says that (bily.org), and ask your husband to because I help them against his work with you on this. Dear Annie: I am one of five wishes, it means I love them more siblings. My brother was married than him. That isn't true. One son is homeless and has to last fall in a small ceremony that look for a place to stay every night. was put together quickly so my That breaks my heart. My husband mother could be there before she found him downstairs sleeping one died. He is having a celebration of morning and told me that I'd better his marriage later this summer, and get him out or he would call the the party is being held in another police. He won't even allow me to state on the day before my wedding Mailbox anniversary. My brother's party would require travel, hotel and meals. My husband and I have already booked (and paid for) a nonrefundable weekend getaway and made arrangements with his parents to watch our kids. We did this three months before my brother sent out his save-the-date cards. How do I break the news to my brother? I should add that I am rarely included in anything the rest of the family does, and I worry that if I miss this event, I will never be included in anything again. — Little Sis Dear Sis: Call your brother and let him know you have a conflict. Tell him you are heartbroken to miss his party and wish you could find a way out of your nonrefundable reservations, but it's not possible. Then send him a lovely wedding gift to make up for your absence. These things happen. There's nothing more you can do. Dear Annie: This is for ''N.N.,'' whose husband is depressed. Please tell her to have him tested for celiac disease. Depression is one of the symptoms. My husband was depressed for a long period of time and even threatened to take his life. We were finally able to determine that he had celiac disease. Doctors are not that familiar with the symptoms. — Betty Kelly-Griggs house fence and gazebo In July, 1977, the Tehama County Board of Supervisors gave the KellyGriggs House Museum Association permission to remove iron bars from windows and cellblocks of the old Tehama County Jail which was set for demolition. Clint Casebier was appointed agent for the Museum Association in the selection and removal of iron bars to be used for "a fence to be constructed around the museum property at 311 Washington Street." Passersby were intrigued watching Casebier cut out jail bars with a blowtorch, prompting questions like "Are you trying to get in or out?" or, "Isn't there an easier way?" After weeks of work, the assortment of harvested iron bars and sections lay stacked in a huge pile at the rear of the museum. Casebier began the lengthy and labor intensive process of cutting and welding each bar to the appropriate length. Hollow, square iron posts were installed along the fence line to anchor each section. There was enough salvaged iron to enclose the Washington and Ash Street bordering grounds as well as a portion of the northeast side; the remainder was completed with wide boards. After his initial "skeleton" of a fence was Make it a habit to read the nutrition facts label ed vegetable oil" in DEAR DOCthe ingredients list TOR K: I know (that's code for fruits and vegetatrans fats). Foods bles make the made with healthy healthiest snacks. unsaturated oils But can packaged (olive, canola, saffoods also be part of flower) are better my healthy snack bets. arsenal? — Is it worth its DEAR READDr. K salt? Compare the ER: There's no by Anthony L. sodium content to doubt that many Komaroff, M.D. the calories per packaged foods are not very healthy, so you're serving. To keep your salt right to ask the question. At intake in check, consider the same time, an increasing products in which the sodinumber of healthy packaged um content is less than or foods are available. Identify- equal to the calories per ing them has been made a serving. For example, for a lot easier by the action of the food with 250 calories per U.S. Food and Drug serving, the sodium content Administration. Since 1994, should be no more than 250 packaged foods in the U.S. mg. Or choose low-sodium, must carry the Nutrition low-salt or unsalted verFacts label. You just need to sions. — Figure out the fiber. learn how to use that label to judge what's inside the Aim for foods that have at least 5 grams of fiber per package. Here are some things to serving, or at least 1 gram of consider when looking at fiber for every 10 grams of carbohydrate. nutrition labels: — Stay away from — Size matters. The word "serving" always mys- added sugars. Sugar contified me: How much is a tains almost no nutrients. It serving of something? I fig- fills you up with empty ured a slice of bread was one calories, keeps you from serving. But how many pan- eating healthy foods, and cakes make up a serving? makes it difficult for your How much mashed pota- body to maintain a healthy toes? (The answers, I now blood sugar level. Steer know, are two 6-inch pan- clear of foods that have cakes, and one cup of sugar, honey, molasses, mashed potatoes.) Fortu- corn syrup, corn sugar, nately, the nutrition labels fructose or high-fructose on packaged foods tell you corn syrup among the first what a serving size is (it's three ingredients. Other the first item on the label). names for sugar include All other information (how agave nectar, brown sugar, many calories and how cane sugar, corn sweetener, much salt, fat, etc.) is based dextrose, maltose, fruit on that serving size. Beware: juice concentrate and gluMany packages contain cose. Packaged foods have more than one serving. — Check the fat and become an essential part of cholesterol content. Keep our fast-paced life. The saturated fat and cholesterol Nutrition Facts label makes low and avoid trans fats alto- it possible for us to use gether. Look for foods that packaged foods for meals have 0 grams of trans fat. and snacks — and to know Stay away from foods that if we're eating healthy or have "partially hydrogenat- not. My mind is my best weapon Courtesy photo Behind the gate Loosely Strung plays along with the Red Bluff Community Band under the Gazebo and direction of Jay Thiel at the 2012 Kelly-Griggs' Ice Cream Social. in place, Clint fabricated an original fleur-de-lis incorporated design, viewed from the perspectives of hearts being pierced by arrows or as buds with curving leaves. Two massive gates were installed supported by reconstructed original cellblock door hinges made to swing easily with the nudge of just one finger; designed to match the curved tops of the museum windows. By the summer Ice Cream Social of 1982, the fence was nearing completion. The Fred G. Godbolt Memorial Gazebo was constructed in 1982, in honor of the charter member and first president of the Kelly-Griggs House Museum Association. The circular brick patio under the gazebo was designed and constructed by the "Tehama Fly Fishers," of which Dr. Godbolt was also a charter member. A grant from the Donald W. Reynolds Foundation, Inc. was presented by then Daily News General Manager Jim Dimmitt to provide necessary funds. Reynolds' Donrey Media Group owned the newspaper at the time. A few years later, Bob Grootveld, former museum director, added Victorian embellishments. From ball and spindle trim donated to the museum from the gable roof of a 1880s Jefferson Street home, he fashioned gingerbread trim to match pieces already in place over the entrance. In 2009, the gazebo received a new roof and fresh paint with the help of several volunteers and donations from "Hinkle Roofing" and "Moule's Paint & Glass" in Grass Valley. For many years the "Tehama County Band" and other fine entertainers have performed under the gazebo for the pleasure of summer Ice Cream Social attendees. This year's event will take place on the afternoon of Sunday, August 18. Watch for further details. Appraisal Day with John Humphries is coming 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. on June 22 at 311 Washington St. Cost is $5 each appraisal of carry-in items only. Sessions are limited to four items at a time; seating available; no reservations. Proceeds benefit the museum's foundation restoration project. In the foreground Sofia delivers an elbow strike to a focus mitt held by her mom, Lupe, and in the background Ann does the same to Sherri at the women's self defense and empowerment training class held at the Tehama County Police Activities League Martial Arts Center for Excellence, 1005 Vista Way, Suite C, next to the Red Bluff Airport. Students learn a variety of defensive techniques including from when they are either pushed or shoved down to the ground, how to be in a heightened state of awareness during vulnerable moments such as walking to their vehicles after work, coming out of a store during times of low lighting and arriving home late at night. They learn that their first line of defense is being aware of one's surroundings and to look for things that either don't look right or just out of place. "My mind is my best weapon," has become the motto for this class. Students also learn to be able to recognize what is available as a possible weapon or tool in their survival. These may include but are not limited to a towel, belt, rope, hat or any other piece of clothing, items in a purse or pocket book, a newspaper or even a bottle of water. They also learn about how to use an elbow, fingers, open hand, or a knee as a defensive tool and how to recognize vulnerable targets on an attacker such as an eye, an ear, the nose, and how to twist arms, shoulders, elbows and wrists as well as using many other parts of the human anatomy against their attacker. These techniques come from various ancient arts such as Jujutsu, Aiki-jutsu, Kempo-jutsu and an art known as Kobujutsu (ancient to modern weapons). Students who depend on a cane can learn how to use it as a defensive tool in their defense. Students are not required to jump right into a vigorous workout. They're encouraged to stay limber and as fit as possible but nearly anyone can learn a few techniques that will help them to stay safer in today's environment. These classes were proposed by Alternatives to Violence to the Police Activities League Martial Arts Program in November and began in January. The Martial Arts Program began in 1998 as an alternative to bullying and violence for school age children from age four through the completion of high school. PAL is a long-term mentoring program. All PAL programs are free. The adult classes are held each Wednesday 5:30-7 p.m. and are free to anyone who feels vulnerable to violence, including bullying. Youth classes are held each Monday and Thursday 3-5 p.m. Classes are always close to maximum capacity so please call the program coordinator at 200-1031 for more information. For more information on PAL programs visit www.tehamaso.org or call (530) 529-7950. For more information on the Martial Arts program either email the instructor at usmcmike3zero@sbcglobal.net or call (530) 8400345. The instructor's private website is also available at www.end-bully.com and anyone may visit the program on Face book at Tehama County PAL Martial Arts.