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Friday, June 18, 2010 – Daily News – 5A FEATURES Tired of waiting for proposal, ring Dear Annie: I am 26 and have been seriously dating ‘‘Bryan’’ for four years. We have lived togeth- er most of that time and love each other deeply. Last year, Bryan was offered a promotion in another city and said he wouldn’t go unless I came along. I agreed, quit my job, depleted my savings and moved. Our relationship is strong. The problem is, Bryan refuses to talk about marriage. Every time I bring it up, he gets upset. Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar The last time, I told Bryan I would not wait forever and gave him an ultimatum — he has until the end of this year to propose, or he will lose me. I am not eager to leave, and I’m not desperate to marry, but I would like to know marriage is in the near future so I can plan. My biological clock is ticking, and I feel that if I don’t speak up, nothing will ever happen. Do you agree? — Tired of Waiting Dear Tired: If you want mar- riage, you will have to push Bryan into it or get out of the relationship and find someone else. So yes, your ultimatum makes sense. But you must be prepared to walk if he doesn’t come through. You have been with this man for four years and are entitled to know his intentions. But if he is incapable of discussing marriage without becoming upset, we don’t hold out a lot of hope. Dear Annie: I am 14 years old and get along great with my parents, Recent State Prison Commitments: • Kevin John Johnston except for one thing. I don’t want to play football any- more. Every time I bring up the possibility of not playing next year, my parents say I need structure and exercise. Right now, my team is hav- ing non-mandatory work- outs twice a week. I go because they make me, and I try my hardest, but honest- ly, I hate it. During the actu- al season, it’s hard for me to finish school projects and homework, especially on game nights when we don’t get home until late. Please help me out. — No More Football Dear NMF: Sometimes parents don’t realize how much pressure they put on a child when one of the parents has an idealized version of what their child should be. If your folks want you to be physically active and aren’t particular about the sport, perhaps you can find something else that you enjoy more. If it is specifically football, talk to your coach and also the school counselor, and ask them to inter- cede on your behalf. Dear Annie: I read the letter from ‘‘Bummed Out in Bradenton, Fla.,’’ whose son served time on drug charges and, although he appeared eager to change his life, has not found work or done any- thing since his release. I hope Dad won’t give up on him. Our son was arrested 18 months ago on drug charges and fought his addiction. But after his release, the depression set in. His was sentenced to three years, four months in state prison for receiving stolen property. Johnston stole victim’s vehicle and removed the stereo equipment from inside. Johnston then gave the stolen equip- ment to Richard Kaufman to repay his drug debt and the remaining equipment was to be sold by Kauf- man and the profit to be split between the two of them. • Camerino Servin Pureco was sentenced to two years in state prison for possession for sale of a controlled substance. Agents from the drug task force served a search warrant on Pure- co as they observed him in a vehicle weighing out methamphetamine with a digital scale. During the course of the search, agents were able to locate $2,937 on Pure- co’s person, $18,647 in Pureco’s residence and nearly three pounds of methamphetamine. • Jim Alan Under- wood was sentenced to two years in state prison for possession of a con- trolled substance. Underwood was origi- nally granted formal probation. He violated his probation when he submitted a urine sample that tested positive for the use of methampheta- mine. • Darrin James Cook was sentenced to two years in state prison for petty theft with a prior. Health, Life, Auto, Home, Commercial, Professional Liability Free phone quotes 530-824-9900 Monday-Friday 9-5 1610 Solano St. #B Corning Lic.#0C37035 BOOK BARN Used Books Tues-Fri 10-5 Sat 10-2 Serving Tehama County since 1994 619 Oak St., Red Bluff (530) 528-2665 4” Wave Petunia Buy 1 get 1 FREE Happy Planting!!! Fountains & Statuaries 30% off Select Garden Center 766 Antelope Blvd. (Next to the Fairground) through the month of June Red Bluff 527-0886 Cook was observed by a witness breaking into a semi truck in which several items had been stolen from inside. When officers contacted Cook he denied any knowledge of the theft but later admitted he had stolen the items. doctor and psychologist explained that the depression would last longer than the addiction. I actually prayed for the morning when our son would get up and shower with- out being told to do so. He showers now and brushes his teeth and gets to work on time. Last week, he handed me a little money to help with groceries, and I almost cried. He’s not entirely OK, but he’s moving steadily forward. In order to succeed and stay clean, your son has to leave behind the crowd he hung out with. Our son’s network of friends is slim now, which means he needs our support more than ever. Attending self-help meetings has been a strug- gle, so he has private sessions with doctors who are willing to work with us on payments. Please, Dad, stay involved with your son. You can’t imagine how much he needs you. And don’t hes- itate to get some help for yourself. — Burned Out, Too Dear Burned Out: Your son is extremely lucky to have parents who stand by his side and work with his doctors. We hope he will win this battle. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Ste. 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045. COURT ROUND-UP Per at the request of the Tehama County District Attorney’s Office. • Christina Robin Cardenas was sentenced to two years in state prison for grand theft of personal property. Officers responded to a local business regard- ing suspicious activity. Upon arrival officers observed a truck in the parking lot with several yard items in the bed of the truck along with a pair of bolt cutters. At a nearby landscaping busi- ness officers observed a hole in the fence with several stolen items near the area. Officers then searched the area where they located Cardenas hiding in the grass. Through an investigation it was determined Carde- nas had given two men a ride to the location to steal some items. Carde- nas waited in the truck until she noticed the police, then fled. The two men also fled the area before police arrived. Recent Proposition 36 Commitments: Note: All cases wherein a defendant is sentenced per the terms of Proposition 36 are not the requirements of Proposition 36, a defen- dant who possesses drugs cannot be sen- tenced to confinement time in jail or prison. Instead, the court must place defendant on pro- bation and require drug treatment alone. Per the requirements of Proposi- tion 36, only upon a third drug related probation violation may the court impose confinement time. In the event the defendant violates a non- drug related term of pro- bation the court may then elect to sentence defen- dant to jail or prison. The Tehama County District Attorney’s Office contends that each criminal case is unique and that in cer- tain, specific, cases a defendant should be sen- tenced to a combination of drug treatment and jail time. We further contend that in other specific cases where a defendant has an exten- sive criminal record and/or a history of non- compliance with either previous grants of proba- tion or previous grants of drug treatment, a state prison sentence should properly be imposed. • Christopher Bruce Stewart was sentenced to Prop. 36 probation for possession of a con- trolled substance. Agent from the drug task force conducted a search warrant at Stew- art’s residence and locat- ed 14 Hydrocodone pills, hypodermic syringes and a small amount of methampheta- mine. Preliminary Hearings (PX) and Trials: • Olivia Christina Tapia will appear in court at 9 a.m. on July 13. She is facing the charge of gross vehicular manslaughter while intoxicated. Officers were dis- patched to a report of a wrong way driver on I-5. While enroute to the location officers were further advised that the vehicle had just crashed. When officers arrived at the scene they observed the vehicle in question on the side of the road with the passenger receiving fatal injuries as a result of the acci- dent. Officers then con- tacted Tapia who had a strong odor of alcohol emitting from her breath. Upon questioning, defendant admitted to driving the vehicle and having had two drinks earlier in the evening. Touting the virtues of cod-liver oil DEAR DR. GOTT: I am a fair- ly young man of 90 years. I was born in Norway in 1919 and similar to most Norwe- gians ate a lot of fish. A few of us might take cod- liver oil as a sup- plement, but in view of the gener- al Norwegian diet, it might be less important. When I arrived in this country at the age of 28, I started taking cod-liver oil regularly with breakfast every single day. When a nephew of mine from Norway visited some time ago, I asked him what he thought of the value of cod-liver oil. Arthritis was his specialty, and he thought it was useful against rheumatoid prob- lems. He said it works painlessly, almost like oil- ing a joint. I have basically no signs of pain anyplace in my body, except I fell off a roof and broke my leg when I was 78. That hurt! I still swim one lap over one-quarter mile once a week and keep telling my relatives in Norway I think I’ll swim a kilome- ter some day and get my name in the paper. I could do it. I don’t remember the last time I had a cold or was ill for any reason. I never have to get up in the night. The last time I went to see my physician for a regular checkup, he had another doctor examine me. Afterward when they reviewed my lab results, my doctor said they were incredible and that he thought maybe he should eat the way I do. Part of my health is no doubt due to my genes, but I believe it is also due to the fact that I, especially during the last 20 to 25 years, have begun realizing that our bodies are made up of everything we eat. In order to stay healthy, we ought to consume a great variety of foods and include cod-liver oil. DEAR READER: What can I say? As I have written in the past, it was common in my generation for parents to force their children to take cod-liver oil, which was thought to be healthful. Today, it is Dr. Peter Gott known to be. It is a good source of omega-3, vita- mins A and D, and essential fatty acids EPA and DHA. These fatty acids appear to provide resistance to illnesses such as the common cold and influen- za. Omega-3 fatty acids are a form of polyunsaturated fats the body derives from food. Because the body cannot produce fatty acids, they must be obtained through the foods we eat or sup- plements we take. Studies are limited and inconclu- sive but suggest this addi- tion may be beneficial for cardiac conditions, eczema, behavioral disor- ders, inflammatory disor- ders such as arthritis and more. The jury is still out as to whether it can actu- ally lower cholesterol lev- els. Cod liver acts as a nat- ural anticoagulant, so if readers choose to add the supplement, I suggest they run it past their primary- care physician before doing so. The Food and Drug Administration has not approved it, but there is little harm (and perhaps a great deal of good) in adding cod-liver oil to the diet. Heaven knows you appear to be a walking, talking testimonial to this theory. To provide related information, I am sending you a copy of my Health Report “Vitamins and Minerals.” Other readers who would like a copy should send a self- addressed stamped No. 10 envelope and a $2 check or money order to Newsletter, P.O. Box 167, Wickliffe, OH 44092- 0167. Be sure to mention the title or print an order form off my website at www.AskDrGottMD.com . Dr. Peter H. Gott is a retired physician and the author of several books, including “Live Longer, Live Better,” “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Diet” and “Dr. Gott’s No Flour, No Sugar Cookbook,” which are available at most bookstores or online. His website is www.AskDrGottMD.com CARE TO COMMENT? At redbluffdailynews.com, scroll to the end of any story, click the link and type away.