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Wednesday, April 10, 2013 ��� Daily News 3B FEATURES Gadabout hubby ignores wife and family Wife of the Plumber with Dear Annie: I have been Leaky Pipes at Home married to ������Dennis������ for Dear Wife: Some people eight years. Early on, Denput on a good show for othnis couldn���t do enough for ers, but at home, they let me. Now, if my car won���t down the facade. We recomstart, he yells at me and mend counseling, preferably says to call a tow truck. If I with Dennis, but without ask him to spend time with him if necessary. We also me, he always has other things to do. On the rare Annie���s suggest you stop relying on your husband to provide occasion when we attend a your social life. Instead of social event together, he abandons me so he can by Kathy Mitchell sitting ������miserable and for������work the room������ and have and Marcy Sugar gotten,������ develop your conversational skills. Get a great time with everyone else. We arrive together and leave involved in some local activities together, and the rest of the time, I that interest you so you are less dependent on Dennis���s availability. sit alone, miserable and forgotten. Dennis will go above and beyond You need to take better care of yourfor others. It doesn���t matter if it���s self. Dear Annie: I am a retired the middle of the night, raining, snowing, spending money we don���t schoolteacher and would like to have, missing meals, birthdays, hol- request that you stop recommendidays and our daughter���s school ing that high school students see programs. If it���s a chance to make their guidance counselors for any himself look good, he���s there with a problems other than recommended smile and compassion. I get the course requirements for graduation. While it may be widely thought repairman to take care of me with a handshake and a bill. But when I that they are there for guidance on ask Dennis to treat his family with many personal issues, most of them, the same enthusiasm, he calls me a in my experience, are the last person I would recommend a student selfish nag. Yes, I resent all the people he speak to about family or emotional helps, because they get the side of issues. This may sound harsh, but my husband that belongs to me. I���m they are not compassionate and cartold to take care of myself because ing individuals. Perhaps they are in he���s too busy helping others and elementary and middle schools, but inflating his ego. I get whatever is not in high schools. Their time is leftover. I love Dennis, but I���m taken up with increasing state starting to feel that he only gave me requirements for graduation and his adoration and helpfulness dealing with failing students who because he was trying to win my need course recovery classes. Their heart. How do I deal with this? ��� general attitude is that they have no Mailbox time for anything else. ��� Retired Teacher Dear Teacher: We know that high school guidance counselors are primarily there to help students navigate their future academic lives. But we are certain most would take issue with your comment that they are not compassionate and caring. Perhaps that was the case in your school, but there are many students whose lives have been changed by kind and concerned guidance counselors who understand that a student���s personal life can interfere with his or her academic success. Dear Annie: Please tell ������Still Healing������ that it is imperative she inform her stepbrother���s wife about the painful sexual abuse she suffered at his hands. My granddaughters have been through hell because their father sexually abused them. It might have been averted if his half-sister had reported the earlier sexual abuse and rape. When she learned what he had done to his daughters, she finally came forward, but it was too late. Thankfully, he is in prison now, and the girls are getting counseling, but they will suffer for many years. ��� Sad Grandmother Annie���s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailboxcomcast.net, or write to: Annie���s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Campgrounds to open for start of fishing The Lassen National Forest will open select campgrounds near prime fishing waters this month for the 2013 fishing season. Forest officials project plenty of camp sites will be available to meet anticipated demand for the April 27 opening day of trout season. Alder, Elam, and Potato Patch campgrounds, in the Almanor Ranger District, are set to open on April 26, weather permitting. Visitors planning to camp at these locations should be prepared for low nighttime temperatures in the high 20s to low 30s. All other Almanor Ranger District campgrounds, including Gurnsey Creek and Almanor, are scheduled for opening the weekend of May 17, as conditions allow, in time for Memorial Day weekend. Updates will be posted on the Forest web site. All Forest campgrounds along Hat Creek are scheduled to open April 26, with the exception of Big Pine Campground. The Old Station Visitor Center opens April 27. It is at the junction of highways 44 and 89, across the highway from Hat Creek. The center will be staffed for weekend visitors Saturday ��� Sunday, 8:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. The center will begin a summer schedule in mid-June, open five days a week: Friday ��� Sunday, 8:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. and Monday ��� Tuesday, 8:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. Visitor Center staff can provide helpful sightseeing, fishing, and camping information. Concessionaire campgrounds on the Eagle Lake Ranger District are set to open May 15. The marina store will be open with limited hours and supplies as of May 18, with full operation and supplies by Memorial Day. An outdoor stand at the marina will offer hot food, such as hamburgers, hot dogs, and chicken sandwiches. Information on concessionaire facilities and services is available by calling 530-2573067 until May 1; afterward, call 530-825-3454. Other Eagle Lake Ranger District campgrounds and day use areas will open May 15. Dispersed camping is allowed in many places on the Forest. However, visitors are reminded to keep their vehicles on existing roadways, as cross-country travel is prohibited. This policy protects sensitive areas and resources, and prevents damage to vehicles. Visitors are also reminded that, for campfires away from developed campgrounds, a California Campfire Permit is required. These permits may be obtained free of charge at any Cal Fire, Bureau of Land Management, or Forest Service office. The Forest Service encourages anglers to review the 2013-2014 Freshwater Sport Fishing Regulations Handbook for information and possible restrictions. This booklet is available at many fishing supply retail outlets. It is also posted on the web at: http://www.dfg.ca.gov/re gulations/. Education credits for higher education The American Opportunity Credit and the Lifetime Learning Credit may help you pay for the costs of higher education. If you pay tuition and fees for yourself, your spouse or your dependent you may qualify for these credits. Here are some facts the IRS wants you to know about these important credits: The American Opportunity Credit ��� The AOTC is worth up to $2,500 per eligible student. ��� The credit is available for the first four years of higher education at an eligible college, university or vocational school. ��� The credit lowers your taxes and is partially refundable. This means you could get a refund of up to $1,000 even if you owe zero tax. ��� An eligible student must be working toward a degree, certificate or other recognized credential. ��� The student must be enrolled at least half time for at least one academic period that began during the year. ��� You generally can claim the costs of tuition and required fees, books and other required course materials. Other expenses, such as room and board, do not qualify. The Lifetime Learning Credit ��� The credit is worth up to $2,000 per tax return per year. The yearly limit applies no matter how many students are eligible for the credit. ��� The credit is nonrefundable. This means the amount you can claim is limited to the amount of tax you owe. ��� The credit is available for all years of higher education. This includes courses taken to acquire or improve job skills. ��� You can claim the costs of tuition and fees required for enrollment or attendance. This includes amounts you were required to pay to the institution for courserelated books, supplies and equipment. You cannot claim either of these credits if someone else claims you as a dependent on his or her tax return. Both credits are subject to income limitations and may be reduced or eliminated depending on your income. Keep in mind that you can���t claim both credits for the same student in the same year. You may not claim both credits for the same expense. Parents or students claiming either credit should receive a Form 1098-T, Tuition Statement, from their educational institution. You should make HELP WANTED AUTO ROUTE DRIVER WANTED Red Bluff Area Must be 21 or older & bondable. Call or apply in person Circulation Dept. Red Bluff Daily News (530) 527-2151 ext 128 DAILY NEWS RED BLUFF TEHAMA COUNTY sure it is complete and correct. Find out more details about these credits and other college tax benefits in Publication 970, Tax Benefits for Education. You can get the booklet at IRS.gov or by calling 800TAX-FORM (800-8293676). ���Neural mismatch��� is cause of motion sickness tage of an aisle DEAR DOCseat is that if you TOR K: I���ve do get sick and always had motion want to vomit in sickness while relative privacy, traveling. Now not into a bag with I���ve started to get other people it at the movies. around you, it���s What causes easier to get to the motion sickness? bathroom. And what can I do Dr. K ��� On a ship, about it? by Anthony L. DEAR READ- Komaroff, M.D. request a lowerlevel cabin toward ER: Lots of people get dizzy or nauseated, the middle of the vessel. and even vomit, when There���s less motion there. ��� Avoid odors such as traveling by boat, airplane, car or bus. And as perfume, smoke or cookyou���ve found, even watch- ing smells. Open a wining a movie can bring on dow for fresh air if possimotion sickness ��� espe- ble. Turn on the air vent if you���re on an airplane. cially the action scene. Motion sickness occurs Odors obviously stimulate when what your eyes see the sense of smell, and doesn���t match what your that stimulation somehow body is doing. This is makes the brain more vulcalled a ���neural mis- nerable to developing match,��� and it usually fol- motion sickness. ��� Don���t read or watch lows one of two patterns. The first pattern is videos during bumpy when your body experi- spells. If you are very ences motion that your prone to motion sickness, eyes can���t see. Imagine don���t read at all while being below deck on a traveling. ��� During a bumpy car boat. Everything in the room looks stationary to or boat ride, keep your your eye, but your body gaze fixed on something feels the motion of the stationary, like the horiboat. Your mind expects zon. ��� Avoid alcohol. Too you to be able to stand perfectly still, but your much alcohol, of course, body���s reaction to the can itself cause nausea, actual movement contra- vomiting and dizziness. Even small amounts make dicts this expectation. The other type of neur- the brain more likely to al mismatch occurs when experience those sensayour body is not actually tions. ��� Consider an overmoving, but your eyes tell it that it is. This can hap- the-counter or prescrippen when you���re watching tion motion sickness meda movie in a widescreen ication. These may be theater. Movies that taken by mouth or as a include footage filmed patch worn behind the ear. I had very bad motion from a helicopter can be sickness when I was a particularly problematic. Here are some tips that child. Fortunately, it has should help with your been much less of a problem since then. I motion sickness: ��� Travel on an empty don���t recall ever getting ���seasick��� watching a stomach. ��� On an airplane, try movie, although one 3D to get an aisle seat toward movie years ago had a the center of the cabin, scene on a roller coaster. where motion is the That one made me close calmest. The other advan- my eyes! Local recipe contest The Tehama County Community Action Agency is hosting a Star-Spangled Recipe Search. Recipes must be original and address the factors of healthiness, cost efficiency, appeal, taste and time. There are four categories in the contest: Bang for your buck entries should produce the most food for the least amount of money; 5 ingredients or fewer recipies; One dish wonders and Campfire fixes. Selected entries will be included in a county-wide recipe book. Round one submissions are due or postmarked by April 15 and must include category, number of servings, ingredients and directions. Winners of round one will be notified by May 10. Send submissions to Jana Wilson at jwilson@tcdss.org or by mail to Tehama County Community Action Agency, Attention Jana Wilson, PO Box 8263, Red Bluff 96080. For more information, call 528-4138 or visit www.tehamacountycaa.org.