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2A Daily News ��� Tuesday, April 9, 2013 Community people&events Paradise Gem, Mineral Show The Paradise Gem and Mineral Club will host its 59th Annual Show for public enjoyment and education April 13-14. All members of the public are welcome; admission is $2 for adults and free for children and young adults under 16 accompanied by an adult. The Paradise Gem and Mineral is the oldest Gem Club in Butte County and the longest running show in an eightcounty area. This year the show���s theme is the World of Jade. Jade is a beautiful green or white rock often associated with oriental carvings. However jade is also common and abundant in Butte County and Northern California. The show will also have many educational and youth activities, mineral exhibits, a raffle, silent rock auctions, fluorescent mineral display and demonstrating lapidary specialists in silver smithing, faceting, stone carving and other lapidary methods. The show hosts many of the finest rock and mineral dealers in the North State, Oregon and Nevada. The show will only be held for two days this year, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday, April 13 and 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday, April 14 at the Elks Lodge, 6309 Clark Road, Paradise. For more information, send an email to mmpg@att.net or call 530-877-7324. Native Plant Week In honor of California Native Plant Week (April 1421), Mount Lassen Chapter California Native Plant Society will be holding our biennial Wildflower Show and Native Plant Sale Sunday, April 21 from noon to 5 p.m. at the CARD Center, 545 Vallombrosa, Chico. There will be more than 200 species of native plants on display, collected from a variety of habitats in Butte, Glenn, Tehama and Plumas counties. Each specimen will be identified by common name and scientific name. Other native plants suitable for planting in the garden will be available to purchase. These include deer grass, spreading daisy, spirea, columbine, pipevine, mugwort, buckeye, toyon and many others. T-shirts, posters and books will also be sold. Additional activities will be nature walks, a table where children can make a plant press, a microscope table, displays by other organizations and photos of local rare plants. Tickets will be available at the door. Suggested donation is $4 for adults; free for children 17 and under. For more details see mountlassen.cnps.org. SECRET WITNESS 529-1268 A program of Tehama County Neighborhood Watch Program, Inc. Setting it straight ������������������������ It is the policy of the Daily News to correct as quickly as possible all errors in fact that have been published in the newspaper. If you feel a factual error has been made in a news story, call the news department at 527-2153. 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I even encountered a wonderful woman at a local restaurant who began crying while sharing her experience. No matter who you are or what age, you can relate to bullying. Most of the statistics on line are geared towards school-aged children and they are staggering. 160,000 students skip school every day because of bullying and one in four teachers sees nothing wrong with forms of bullying and will only intervene four percent of the time. The fact is, the bullies who began in schools grow up and if they didn't mature out of their socially deviant behavior, they carry it through to adult hood. Sometimes kids who were bullied turn into bullies. The old saying hurting people hurt other people certainly applies here. After I posted my video, I was drawn to the other videos that seemed to attach themselves to mine because of a central theme. I started watching them. Video after video of people hurt by others, people on video actually defending their bullying and videos of people who had committed suicide because of being bullied. It struck me that the theme in these videos is shame. What seems to happen in the bullying process is the bully wants the target to feel so ashamed of themselves that they hate themselves. The bully wants the target to look at themselves in the mirror and feel such disgust that they devalue their human life. Especially anonymous bullies. Anonymous bullies are the worst because they know deep down that what they are doing is cowardly and wrong your kids don't tell you they are bullied? What if you knew? and that if they signed Have you asked? What if their name to what they you knew that by listening were doing, they would to someone about being never actually say things made fun of you could with such hateful magnichange their life. Maybe tude. These are the bulyou could save their life? Is lies who may be to the there anyone you can imagright of left of you at a ine who isn't worth saving? soccer game and you Parents, ask your child if never would guess it was they are made fun of at them. school or otherwise. When I saw the paralAdults, check in with your lel between rates of suicide, homicide and Faydra adult family and friends and see if they are hiding shame I realized that the Rector any shame. Talk to them thing that could help these people is simply to You Matter about their worth, remind them that bullies are all tell someone. Most of the bark and no bite and that videos I saw were after someone had hurt themselves. you are there to make it stop. Stand Chances are that the bullying behind those words, be proactive. became intense enough for that per- Be your child's hero if they need a son that they simply turned the hate champion. I made another video on Youtube inward and felt that the only way out was to die. I found out something called Bully Proof Yourself. You they didn't know and I want to share can see me one week after I got the it with you. I never planned to make letter. I look brighter, happier and that video. Something just came healed. What a difference holding over me and I wanted to speak to the on made. Imagine if I had just kept anonymous person who keeps tar- things to myself and let the bully geting me. It seemed like this video win. There were many hero's who came to my rescue since I received might reach them. The secondary and more impor- that letter. I appreciate you all. tant gain was the outpouring of love Faydra Rector, MA is a mental that came back. People I never would have interacted with other- health administrator, author, public wise. Because I spoke about what speaker, educator and life coach happened, I was healed by literally who lives in Red Bluff. She can be fifty times more positive people than reached at lifecoach@shasta.com view her blogs at the one negative person. If I had not or spoken about being bullied, I would http://faydraandcompany.blogspot. and have never heard such positive com/ words. How many of you being bul- http://allaboutdivorce.blogspot.com lied don't tell anyone? How many of /. Garden club to meet Monday in Cottonwood The next Cottonwood Garden Club meeting wil be at 10 a.m. on Monday, April 15, at the Cottonwood Community Center, 20595 Gas Point Road, in Cottonwood. Presentation will be "Better Garden Photography" by Frank Tona. Potluck lunch to follow meeting Visitors welcome. For more information, call 347-1281 or 347-3656. Assessing your, a loved one���s drinking cause brain Dear Annie: I changes ��� espewanted to share a cially in the areas bit of what it���s like of the brain to be the family responsible for member of a perjudgment, memoson who drinks too ry, coordination, much. I know. I pleasure and had more than 40 reward and reasonyears of experience by the time I Annie���s ing. And we don���t fully understand finally sought the physical and answers. I studied brain- and addic- by Kathy Mitchell emotional conset i o n - r e l a t e d and Marcy Sugar quences to the health of a family research to assess my loved one���s drinking member or friend who patterns in order to protect repeatedly deals with myself from secondhand SHD. These include anxidrinking. Secondhand ety, depression, stomach drinking is a term to ailments, skin problems, describe the impact on the obesity, sleep problems, person on the receiving end difficulties at work or in of another person���s drink- school, migraines and more. ing behaviors. April 11, 2013, is These drinking patterns Mailbox Good News Lawns & More *Lawn Care (Weekly/Monthly) *Yard Clean-Up *Weed Abatement * Lite Handyman ***and more FREE ESTIMATES 530-526-9789 LIC#11349 Spring is here... Time to clear!! 90 years THE GREAT RED BLUFF HEIST Will be giving out $2500 in FREE ���Loot��� from 65 local businesses. Saturday, April 13th 1pm Downtown Red Bluff at the $ famous Chili Cook-Off Sponsored by The Gold Exchange proceeds to benefit Economic Development Branding Project ago... Thieves Get Peeved When Nothing Found Evidently peeved because they found nothing of value they could carry away, thieves last night did considerable damage to the property of the Associated Oil company���s station, about one mile south of Red Bluff. ��� April 9, 1923 National Alcohol Screening Day (NASD). This year, I urge people who love someone who drinks too much to conduct an anonymous screening of their loved one���s drinking patterns. Screening for Mental Health has created a fantastic website, www.HowDoYouScore.or g, where anyone can anonymously evaluate their own or a loved one���s drinking patterns through an online assessment. The website also provides information on treatment options and suggestions for what it would take to cut down on or stop drinking. This kind of anonymous screening allows you to understand what you are really dealing with: a drinking pattern that is changing their loved one���s brain and causing hurtful drinking behaviors. ��� Lisa Frederiksen, Author, Speaker, Consultant Dear Lisa: Thank you for sharing your story and emphasizing the importance of screening for alcoholism. Once again, those who wish to be screened can do so at howdoyouscore.org. Dear Annie: I have lupus and suffer terribly. Some days are better than others, but most include fatigue, pain or some other symptom. Yet, when friends greet me, they say, ������How are you? You look good.������ Rather than greet me this way, I would prefer they not ask about my illness, because I haven���t felt well in 17 years. Could you please tell readers in this position to simply say, ������It is so good to see you������? That way, I don���t feel obligated to speak about my current condition. ��� Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired Dear Sick: Your suggestion is a good one, and we hope people will keep it in mind. But we don���t believe these friends actually expect a rundown of your illness, nor are you obligated to talk about it. Greeting someone with, ������How are you?������ is generally rhetorical. You aren���t expected to respond other than to say, ������Fine, thanks,������ or some short variation. Because you haven���t truly been well for years, it stands to reason that you would take questions about your health more literally than intended. Dear Annie: Thank you for printing the letter from ������Rocky Mount, Va.,������ who thought dogs should be allowed at the funerals of masters who have died. To have a dog at a funeral privately, prior to the public gathering, is a good idea ���probably for both humans and dogs. There is a famous painting by Sir Edwin Landseer (1802-1873) entitled ������The Old Shepherd���s Chief Mourner,������ depicting a pointer leaning against a casket with its head on top of the casket. It brings tears to my eyes anytime I even think of it. ��� Watertown, Wis.