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Wednesday, March 13, 2013 ��� Daily News Fed up with freeloading family Let them know Dear Annie: I that if they don���t don���t know how find a place withmuch longer I can in three months, handle my daughyou will start ter and her family charging them living in our rent ��� and make home. Five years it enough so that ago, they came moving out is an here intending to stay ���a few Annie���s attractive option. Be nice about it, months.��� but don���t back My husband is ill, and he is by Kathy Mitchell down. Dear Annie: extremely uncom- and Marcy Sugar My husband has a fortable having no privacy and being limited frequent customer card to our bedroom for days at for a local restaurant. a time. I try to be kind, but Over time, he accumulatI am still grieving the loss ed a credit of $40. We of my son to cancer. My recently went to this son-in-law doesn���t even restaurant with another pretend to make an effort couple. When the bill to find a place anymore. arrived, my husband took And he does not help us out his card and told the around the house or con- other couple they owed half of the bill, including tribute to the bills. How do I get them out the tip, and that he would without hurting my apply his $40 credit to the daughter and grand- remainder. I was uncomfortable daughter? I don���t want to lie to them, but I���m begin- with this. I felt he should ning to despise my son- have saved his credit for a time when we were dinin-law. ��� Losing Hope Dear Losing: In order ing alone. What do you to have your house to think? ��� Embarrassed Dear Embarrassed: If yourself, you will need to find the strength to put a the other couple were time limit on the freeload- close friends or family ing. If your son-in-law or members, they may not daughter is working, they have cared about this. should be paying rent, if However, a less familiar not in their own place, set of friends might have then in yours. Tell them found it a bit gauche for you think it would be your husband to flaunt healthier for all con- that his bill was going to cerned if they found a be $40 less than theirs. place of their own, and So, yes, we agree it would you will give them three have been better to use months to move out. the credit when you were Offer to help them search. alone, unless he intended Offer to help them pack. to use it to treat his Offer to take care of your friends to part of their granddaughter. But be meal. Dear Annie: ���Feeling firm about the deadline. Mailbox the Void��� says women don���t understand how sex makes a man feel loved and that men feel incomplete without it. Well, knowing I cannot make love to my husband is pretty devastating, too. The aging process has meant that sex is no longer pleasurable. Instead, it is horribly painful. Lubricants do not work. Taking hormones brings back cramps and menstruation. I was willing to try, but hormones also brought back my uterine fibroids, and I���d rather not have a hysterectomy if I don���t have to. And my husband would have his own problems if not for that little blue pill. Why can���t we just grow old? If all we did was dwell on our sex life, we would be constantly upset. My husband and I understand this. We hug and kiss and appreciate each other. There is no void when you love deeply and can accept the changes that growing old together brings. I am so blessed to be with a man who gets that. ��� Still Feeling Completely Loved Annie���s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast .net, or write to: Annie���s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. Eating the right foods is one way to lower cholesterol oat-based cereal such as Cheerios DEAR DOCTOR K: I know for breakfast. It gives you 1 to 2 lots of foods raise cholesterol levgrams of soluble fiber. Add a els. But are there any foods that banana or some strawberries for lower cholesterol? another half-gram. DEAR READER: Indeed there ��� BEANS. Beans are espeare. But before talking about cially rich in soluble fiber. They them, it���s worth saying a few also take a while for the body to words about foods that raise your digest, meaning you feel full cholesterol. Dr. K longer after a meal. With so many Except for a very few people by Anthony L. choices ��� from navy and kidney who inherit genes that cause them to have high cholesterol, most of Komaroff, M.D. beans to lentils, garbanzos, blackeyed peas and beyond ��� and so us who have had a ���cholesterol problem��� (which includes me) do it to many ways to prepare them, beans are a very versatile food. ourselves by the foods we eat. ��� NUTS. Eating almonds, walnuts, Foods with lots of cholesterol raise our blood cholesterol levels. But foods with peanuts and other nuts is good for the lots of saturated fats and trans fats (the heart. Eating 2 ounces of nuts a day can ���bad fats���) are even worse. They cause slightly lower LDL. And nuts have additional nutrients that protect the heart in your liver to make lots of cholesterol. Foods rich in saturated fats include other ways. ��� FOODS FORTIFIED WITH whole milk, butter, cheese, ice cream, red meat and coconut products. Foods rich in STEROLS AND STANOLS. Companies trans fats include hard margarines, partial- are adding sterols and stanols to foods ly hydrogenated vegetable oils, many ranging from granola bars to orange juice deep-fried fast foods and most commer- and chocolate. They���re also available as supplements. cial baked goods. ��� FATTY FISH. Eating fish two or These are the foods you want to eat less of, to avoid raising your cholesterol. three times a week can lower LDL in two What about foods to eat more of, to lower ways: by replacing meat, which has LDLyour cholesterol? Some cholesterol-low- boosting saturated fats, and by delivering ering foods have a lot of soluble fiber, LDL-lowering omega-3 fats. Omega-3s which sticks to cholesterol in the gut. also reduce triglycerides, a type of fat in When that happens, the cholesterol is not the bloodstream. If you���re buying packaged food at the easily digested, so it passes out of your body in a bowel movement instead of market, check the Nutrition Facts label to entering your blood. The same thing hap- see how much of each kind of good fat pens with foods rich in plant sterols and and bad fat, and how much fiber, are prestanols. Other cholesterol-lowering foods sent. It���s much easier to eat healthy today. are rich in the ���good fats��� (monounsatuDr. Komaroff is a physician and rated and polyunsaturated fats) that directprofessor at Harvard Medical School. To ly lower LDL (bad) cholesterol. Here are five foods you can start with send questions, go to AskDoctorK.com, to get your cholesterol-busting under way: or write: Ask Doctor K, 10 Shattuck St., ��� OATS. Choose oatmeal or a cold Second Floor, Boston, MA 02115. Mendocino National Forest OHV program WILLOWS ��� The State of California Department of Parks and Recreation and the Mendocino National Forest have maintained a successful partnership for nearly 30 years. This partnership has provided funding assistance for the management of off-highway vehicle (OHV) recreation on National Forest system lands through the California State OHV Grants and Cooperative Agreements Program. Current regulations mandated by the State of California require annual public participation in this fund allocation process. The purpose of this notice is to share information and to solicit public input specific to the Mendocino National Forest���s upcoming grant application for the State���s 2012 ��� 2013 grant cycle. These grants will support on-going OHV management activities, with categories including Ground Operations (trail maintenance and facility operation and maintenance) and Law Enforcement. ���The Mendocino National Forest offers over 200 miles of designated OHV trails providing exciting riding opportunities for a wide range of ability levels and vehicle types. In addition, over 1,300 miles of roughly graded roads are available for use by OffHighway Vehicle enthusiasts,��� said Tricia Christofferson, Mendocino National Forest recreation officer. ���We appreciate your support and comments on our grant request. Your com- ments will help the State determine the level of funding to provide the Mendocino National Forest for ongoing trail maintenance, facility maintenance and law enforcement.��� In order to view and comment on the Mendocino National Forest���s Preliminary grant application, please visit the State of California website at www.ohv.parks.ca.gov, then click the grants tab. Additionally, a link to the State���s website may be found on the Mendocino National Forest website at www.fs.usda.gov/mendocino. Comments may be provided between March 5 and April 1. Instructions for providing comments can be found on the State of California website. 3B