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Thursday, February 28, 2013 ��� Daily News 3B FEATURES Woman can���t get over hubby���s cheating Think of exercise as an excuse to feel good fair that she expects me to buy her a wedding gift. I think this is the only reason she remembered that she has a grandmother. Am I wrong to feel shower, change DEAR DOCthis way? ��� Forgotten Gram clothes and so TOR K: I know I forth. That���s should exercise Dear Gram: You are not oblig- regularly, but I fine; it still leads ated to attend this wedding or give a just can���t get to healthy gift if you don���t wish to. However, motivated. changes in the Do while most kids truly value their you have any body. grandparents, some don���t pay much suggestions? ��� Make it fit. attention, especially if the grandparSchedule blocks DEAR READents live far away. The parents can ER: Practically Dr. K of exercise into help encourage the bond, especially everyone by Anthony L. your weekly has during the teen and young-adult heard that exer- Komaroff, M.D. schedule, and years. Of course, it can change over cise is good for add bits of activtime, but both parties must make the you. But not many peo- ity and recreational investment to work on it. Please try ple know just how good exercise to your day. An to send your granddaughter a card it is for you. extra lap around the mall with your good wishes. For example, did you or some stair-climbing that walking at home can add up. I Dear Annie: I can only imagine know how bothered I would be if my briskly for 30 minutes, deliberately park in a childhood artwork were all over my at least five times a garage that���s about a from my parents��� house like ������Not an Artist.������ week, can do more to half-mile One or two items can bug me on the reduce your risk of get- office, even though I wrong day, but all of the rooms all ting diabetes than any could park closer. That���s medicine yet invented? about a mile walk every of the time? Yikes! It cuts your risk of dia- day. I���d suggest ������Not an Artist������ pur- betes in half. ��� Try an app. Smartchase a nice large book or portfolio Regular exercise phones can���t exercise that most of these works could fit in helps you feel better, for you, but they can and present it to his folks as a gift, look great, and live a give you friendly along with a family photo to hang longer, more joyful life. reminders, track your on the walls instead. The parents I exercise for half an progress and make the would still be able to see and share hour nearly every morn- process more interestthe work they love, but it would ing. Here are some ing. remove the skin-crawling weirdness strategies that help me ��� Set realistic goals. their adult son feels. ��� D. ��� and many of my Unrealistic expectations patients ��� stay on will set you up for fruscourse when our motiva- tration and failure. A better approach is tion flags. I hope they���ll to set an attainable longhelp you, too. Chico. Follow West Fifth dents, and perhaps some ��� Keep it personal. term goal, such as walkSt, which becomes Chico early spring migrants. Choose activities that ing for 30 minutes five Meet at the Chico Park suit your lifestyle, time days a week. River Rd, for 3.9 miles. The parking area is 300 yards & Ride on Hwy. 32, the lot constraints, budget and Then break it down past the main entrance to the nearest Hwy. 99, at 8:30 physical condition. It into monthly or weekly water treatment plant, on a.m. You can also meet us at doesn���t need to be at a targets. Riverbend Park in Oroville gym; I have equipment the left. ��� Get back on track. Bring binoculars, spot- at 9 a.m. at the ���rst parking in my basement. The Even the most dedicated ting scopes, water, walking lot on the right as you enter time it would take to go exercisers sometimes go shoes and proper clothing the park, which is located at to a gym just wouldn���t astray. for the expected weather the west end of Mont- work for me. If you���ve been away conditions. There is a chem- gomery St. Wear weatherYou can get exercise from your routine for ical toilet on the way out to appropriate clothing and throughout the day. For two weeks or more, the viewing blind. Rain can- shoes suitable for hiking. example, take the stairs don���t expect to start cels. For more information Bring water, a lunch, binoc- instead of the elevator. I where you left off. Give contact Steve King at 530 ulars, and a ���eld guide if moved from a one-level your body time to readyou have one. Scopes home to a three-level just. 566-6136. ��� March 23, Saturday - would also be useful. home about 10 years And a final tip that Riverbend Park & Oroville Beginning birders are ago, and I found that my helps when all else fails: Wildlife Area. Join us for a always welcome. We weight dropped about 3 Rather than focus on day of birding in Oroville. should be back in Chico pounds within a month why I don���t want to We will begin with a two between 3 - 4 p.m. Rain of the move ��� just from exercise, I concentrate mile walk along the bike cancels. For more informa- using the stairs. on how good I���ll feel path that follows the Feath- tion call Gaylord Grams at ��� It���s OK to do it in when I���ve finished. er River in Riverbend Park. 530-533-1624 or Kathy pieces. You don���t need After a break for lunch, we Trevino at 530-520-2872. Dr. Komaroff is a to exercise for 30 minAll programs and activi- utes at a time. You can physician and professor will drive south to the Paci���c Heights Rd access ties are free of cost unless do it in pieces, five to 10 at Harvard Medical point of the Oroville otherwise indicated and are minutes at a time, School. To send open to the public. For more throughout the day. Wildlife Area. questions, go to The combination of information contact Altacal or ��� You don���t need to AskDoctorK.com, these two locations should Audubon Society Publicity sweat. When you exer- write: Ask Doctor K, 10 enable us to see waterfowl, Chair Wayland Augur at cise in pieces, you won���t Shattuck St., Second raptors, lingering winter 530-519-4724 or email sweat ��� or need to Floor, Boston, MA 02115. visitors, year-round resi- wba@acm.org. I know there are other Dear Annie: I recently women in this situation, but obtained proof of what I I haven���t been able to find a had long suspected: My support group. I am fortuhusband of more than 40 nate to have a job I am pasyears has been seeing prossionate about that allows me titutes and having affairs to enrich the lives of others. for the past 20 years. DurI know I am a useful human ing this time, he was always being. Please help me get considerate and loving to me. I thought we had a Annie���s over this. ��� California Dear California: You wonderful marriage. When must decide whether you are I confronted him with the evidence, he finally con- by Kathy Mitchell truly ready to leave your fessed. We went to a coun- and Marcy Sugar marriage. Forty years is a long time. But your husselor, but after a single halfhour session, he wouldn���t go back. band���s track record doesn���t inspire Aside from dealing with the confidence in his future fidelity, and shock and humiliation of the betray- his unwillingness to commit to al, I have two problems: First, I can- counseling indicates that he wants not forgive myself for not taking a things to be exactly as they were firm stand when I first suspected his before. First, see your doctor and cheating. I put it out of my mind get checked for sexually transmitted and continued as before. The sec- diseases, and then find another ond problem is that I cannot erase counselor. The one you are seeing is not helping you make the best deciimages of his affairs. My counselor, along with some sions. You also can find online supbooks I have read, says to reestab- port by typing ������infidelity support lish our close, loving relationship group������ into your search engine. Dear Annie: I have a grandand let the past go. So I made the effort, and our marriage now seems daughter I have seen only three fine. We are happy with each other, times in the past 15 years. I never but I still suffer with the mental heard from her in all that time. images. I fear that I have demeaned Recently, I was sent a note to save myself by reestablishing an intimate the date for her wedding. I am not going to the wedding. I relationship with him. I wonder whether I might regain my self- wouldn���t know that girl if I saw her esteem by telling him our marriage on the street. She has ignored me all these years, and I don���t believe it is is over. Mailbox Audubon Society activies for March Altacal Audubon Society activities for March: Program The Birds of Northeast India Presented by BUD and MARGARET WIDDOWSON. Monday, March 18, 6:30 p.m., Chico Creek Nature Center. Join Bud and Margaret Widdowson as they recount their 2006 trip to northeast India. This trip found them exploring the pristine Himalayas visiting Nameri National Park in Assam, the Sangthi Valley, and the focus of the trip: the newly established Eaglenest Wildlife Sanctuary in remote Arunachal Pradesh near the borders with Bhutan and China. The co-discovery of a new bird species, the Bugun Liocichla was the outstanding highlight of a trip with many highlights, including celebrating a feast with the Bugun tribe at Lama Camp, and encountering avian specialties such as Himalayan Monal, Ibisbill, Beautiful Nuthatch, Scalybreasted Wrenbabbler, and Firetailed Myzornis. Bud and Margaret Widdowson are consulting biologists in Redding. They have been birdwatching for a combined total of over 75 years, and have seen over half of the world���s birds. They enjoy birding throughout California as well as remote areas of the globe, and like sharing their experiences with others. Field Trips ��� March 9, Saturday Chico Oxidation Ponds Wildlife Sanctuary, west of Chico. The walk is a little under two miles and usually lasts about three hours. If you prefer to keep the walk shorter, you can just walk out to the viewing blind and enjoy the birds from the blind and not do the full loop. This will shorten the walk to about a mile. The walk is ���at and graveled to the viewing blind. Meet at the Oxidation Ponds at 3 p.m. We should be back to the parking lot around 6 p.m., sunset is 6:10 p.m. To get to the Oxidation Ponds, go west on W. 5th St from Highway 32 in HOME SERVICES DIRECTORY $ 109 Print and On-Line No early cancellation, non-refundable Online: Publishes 24/7 www.redbluffdailynews.com Three additional online locations at no extra cost! Print Runs Every Monday - Wednesday- Friday Blinds Contractor Need Blinds? C P A A L U L L When you want it done right ... 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